In my younger years, I dated men who were very big social drinkers, ate poor diets (think KFC and pizza), didn't exercise or were smokers. Not all of my partners were this way but a consistent number were. I put this down to youth (lots of teens drank too much and ate badly and then got to grips with their health as they got into their early to mid twenties.)
I personally am very healthy other than an addiction to chocolate. My typical diet is MOSTLY vegan/vegetarian (I think the current definition would be a flexitarian) with occasional eggs, fish and chicken.
I work out a lot and try to take good care of my mental health.
This year, having dealt with a terminally ill mother, I've found that I am really repulsed by the thought of dating a man who does not prioritise his health.
If someone smokes, drinks too much, does drugs or doesn't exercise, I worry about impending health issues. I think I am a bit scared from caring for my mother. Of course you can be healthy and still become unwell, but I do find it hard to truly invest in a person who does not prioritise their own health. Even if a person may have one vice, they need to care about health in general.
A male friend whose mother died from lung cancer triggered by smoking agreed that a woman who did not take care of her health in ways she could control would be a dealbreaker after the suffering he witnessed with his own mother.
Does anyone else feel this way about health, or would it not be an issue for you?
AIBU?
Would you date someone who was unhealthy?
Breakawaygirl · 18/01/2019 13:11
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