It's 2019. WHY are men still doing this?!

[GunpowderGelatine]

My colleague today was emailing a man working for a charity about a draft policy that we're forming for the organisation. To avoid outing, I'll be purposefully vague - it's a policy about an issue that affects only women and he was a number of people asked in a professional capacity to review it and feed back.

He replied to my colleague, not about the policy, it was never even mentioned, but to say "I like your picture". She was confused, and replied to say sorry there should not have been a picture attached just a draft policy, and mentioned something else work related that she forgot to mention earlier.

This bloke (in his 60s) then replied with a picture taken from my colleagues Facebook profile from ten years ago, dressed up in a "sexy nurse" type costume for a hen do. He must have looked for her on Facebook and trawled her profile pictures to find it. He said in this email "well this is interesting" followed by a winky face.

She's disengaged and lodged a formal complaint but he's well liked and established so who knows if anything will happen.

When is this kind of behaviour going to stop? After #metoo how can men possibly think this is OK? What kind of response do they expect? I'm furious for my colleague, no one should have to put up with this shit.

[healzam]

Oh my what a pig!
I hope your friend is okay.

[Bezalelle]

I honestly don't think it's ever going to stop. NAMALT or no NAMALT, reading the news these days is sickening. Men beating children to death, injuring teenage girls during sex, killing women, trying to BE women so they can damage and threaten us even more.

[CarolineForbes]

UGHHH. I don’t know why men ever thought this was ok, particularly in a professional setting, but as you say OP it is even more baffling post #metoo. I can only imagine they think they ‘different’ and being ‘cheeky’ and ‘charming’ and so clearly not like those other men

[halfwitpicker]

How stupid are these men, is the question

[PoliticalBiscuit]

What is the world coming to that men can't even innocently stalk Facebook and send leery inappropriate messages to women he knows in a professional environment?!

It's political correctness gorn maaaahhhd

[PoliticalBiscuit]

Can't she just take it as a charming cheeky compliment like he clearly intended it to be?

Maaaahhhd I tell you.

[NothingOnTellyAgain]

Fucking hell that's just bonkersly grim :/

[IhateBoswell]

Creepy bastard.

[Cwenthryth]

Gobsmacking that not only did he do this - but via email so the evidence is there for everyone to see?

One can only assume that he genuinely believes it is acceptable behaviour.

[ShirleyPhallus]

Creepy as all fuck. What is wrong with this guy.

But also, why on earth do people put so much information on social media? Naughty nurse photos from 10 years ago shouldn’t be publically available!

[TweedAddict]

What kind of work does the charity do? I hope it has nothing to do with women’s aid, vulnerable people

[Sparklesocks]

Disgusting. What does he think, she’s going to say ohh thanks 😘 and ask him out?? When emailing in a professional capacity?? It’s clear he doesn’t view women as professional peers, only pretty things for him to look at.

[Atalune]

The arrogance is breath taking. That is for certain.

[brizzledrizzle]

I hope his penis shrivels up and shrinks...or maybe it already has?

[Lana1234]

Gross

[UghFletcher]

Ugh, that is creepy and weird as fuck

[Ifangyow]

Well, her gusset should have become quite damp at the thought of a mature man wanting to play doctors and nurses with her. Ungrateful if you ask me.
Kids today, don't know they're born! Mutter, not like in my day! Grumble.


But on a serious note, it's creepily disgusting. She should report him to his employers.

[VanGoghsDog]

Apart from all that, she should really lock down her FB page.

[mcmooberry]

I am LOL at PolitcalBiscuit's reply!!
That man is beyond belief to behave like that in this day and age.

[GrinitchSpinach]

GROSS.

What kind of work does the charity do? I hope it has nothing to do with women’s aid, vulnerable people

That was my first thought, too. Is he one of the Oxfam rapists?

[Guineapiglet345]

So from his first email she was supposed to realise that he was talking about one picture out of possibly hundreds on a separate website that hadn’t been mentioned up to this point?

It’s creepy and he knows it, it sounds like he’s trying to humiliate her and assert his dominance

[MarieIVanArkleStinks]

Ugh. Makes me want to scrub myself. Sorry OP that your friend has found herself dealing with this slimy, internet-stalking creep just because she had the misfortune of having sent him a perfectly innocuous, professional email. But y'nar, men will be afraid even to TALK to women if they keep on arrogantly decrying their harassers, and then where would be be? We'll all think the world has come to an end when we find ourselves 'invisible'. The horror!

[Stardustinmyeyes]

Political Biscuit, you must be the man in question

[ReanimatedSGB]

There is nothing wrong with having silly/sexy pictures of yourself on your personal facebook page. I really dislike the idea that your employers 'own' you and that what you do in your free time is any of their business.

And yes, this man is a creepy piece of shit and your colleague was right to report him.