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To think waking up early will solve 99% of my problems!

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Gamechanger12e3 Tue 15-Jan-19 20:24:49

Someone please help me!
I am single handedly causing my own issues by sleeping in late EVERY MORNING!!

Due to me waking up late.. I'm late for work everyday meaning i always have to work late to make up my hours. This has a knock on affect to my evenings where banks/places are closed by the time i finish work so i have to wait for weekends to run errands. My work is very flexible so they don't care too much.

I always looks like SHIT at work because i literally roll out of bed, into clothes and out the door! Which affects my self esteem!!

I can't arrange morning meetings/appointments because i know I wont wake up on time.

My weekends i wake up super late so waste half the day in bed. Ffs!! I only have a few hours during the day to carry out all my errands!!

I've always been this way. Since a child. I used to be late for school everyday and constantly reprimanded.

I don't know why!! I've been tested by the GP and everything has come back fine. Ive tried going to bed super early/late/reasonable hour. Nothing works!! I've tried setting several alarms on both my phone and manual alarm.. I sleep through them all!!

I think its learnt behaviour. My mother is exactly the same and was always late. She was self employed so never really had consequences for this. She sleeps until noon most days!! Our household was a 'night owl' household. We'd all be awake until early hours despite given bedtimes and then late every morning.

I don't know what to do!! Its ruining my life!! How do i change?? Has anyone else ever suffered the same?!!

If i could just wake up at a reasonable hour 99% of my issues could be resolved!!

How do i discipline myself?!

Has anyone else ever suffered this? Its not normal!! I piss myself off!! I cant rely on myself to do anything morning related which cuts out half my days!!

Someone please advise or give me a kick up the @**!!

Ncobvs Fri 18-Jan-19 20:40:25

Does it irritate anyone else when the op doesn't come back?

HappyStripper Fri 18-Jan-19 18:41:10

You seem very intent on proving that mornings are better. Really everyone is different and either one has pros and cons. You’re going to miss out on something either way as you can’t just not sleep so it’s really a pointless argument especially as it’s not helping the thread with tips on waking up in any way.

speakout Fri 18-Jan-19 17:14:53

I like to see the world I am living in, not live life by artifiial light.

To sleep away half the day when the sun is up seems such a waste, especially in the winter months when daylight is in short supply anyway.

I would far rather live by sunlight than artificial light.

Woohoo1 Fri 18-Jan-19 11:59:55

If you sleep through all those alarms what would happen if your smoke alarm went off in the night!? It doesn’t bear thinking about

PineapplePower Fri 18-Jan-19 11:55:34

I love the wee hours of the night. I’m very productive and do my best work at night. (I work in media though, night owls are definitely more common in my line of work)

I’ve always found it hard to get up, but manage (barely) when I need to. My DH is a lark though, so I get really annoyed when he’s barely functioning at 9pm and I’m ready to go out!

But I’m always the unreasonable one ....

OP could you run errands during your lunch hour? That’s when I did everything, because most places were closed when I got off work too. I also try to automate as much as possible all that busy work you need to do in life; it’s good practice whether or not you are an early riser

speakout Thu 17-Jan-19 18:51:49

I guess you do get the reduced stuff in the supermarket in the evening.

I prefer the fresh produce and bread straight from the oven in the morning.

Wavescrashingonthebeach Thu 17-Jan-19 18:40:52

On the note of early risers getting the shops when they are quiet.. so do us owls smile i will only go ikea or primark the last hour before they close of an evening to browse in peace.. then no traffic coming home!

Same with supermarkets- get all the reduced items later on too haha

rubymaster Thu 17-Jan-19 13:31:23

I highly recommend the power of habit book by Charles Duhigg, if you don’t want to read the whole thing you can get some very short summaries online. But I think a key thing is that when you have a really strong habit, you often need more than just willpower to change it.

QuimReaper Thu 17-Jan-19 13:01:55

When my Dad did his national service, his commander (or whatever) gave him a tip which he used for his whole life: he said "when you wake up, all I want you to do is sit up and put your feet on the floor. You don't have to do anything else, just that." You'd be surprised how psychologically effective it is: you can sit there zombie-ing for a couple of minutes waking up, still comparatively warm and comfy, but having your feet on the floor nudges something in your brain. Til he died you'd see him do it, wake up and immediately swing his legs out of the bed, then sit there blinking for a bit. Staying in a prone position whilst switching off the alarm makes it very difficult for me.

FestiveGanesh Thu 17-Jan-19 12:54:39

Bed at 9? With the various commitments I have, I'm usually eating my dinner then.

I tend to go to bed around 11, read for about half an hour and then get up around 7.30. I set two alarms, one for 7.15 and one for 7.30 which means I feel as though I've had a doze, but in fact I'm just in a light sleep and can get up more easily when the second alarm goes.

<disclaimer - I don't have to be up for work, but DC has to be up for school>

HappyStripper Wed 16-Jan-19 22:40:12

I struggle with this too. It doesn’t help that I only work 2-3 days a week and start at 11, so there’s nothing really making me get up.

I do find getting into a routine is the most important thing. Before Christmas I managed to consistently get up at about 8, which I know for some is late but for me is very early haha, but with all the Christmas things it just got way off track.

Also it’s helpful to track how much sleep you actually need. Using a weekend day to see how many hours you sleep when you don’t have to jump out of bed will give you a good estimate. I need a full 9 hours to be awake and happy, so I’m aiming to be asleep at 11 and up at 8 as after 11 I tend to not be doing much anyway besides maybe watching some Netflix.

April2020mom Wed 16-Jan-19 22:36:55

I use my phone. There are lots of apps that wake you up in the morning- have a look on the AppStore. Or you could always buy a traditional alarm clock. This is a tad bit too much but my toddlers love to get me up out of my bed every single morning.
I have two young twin children. They constantly keep us on our toes as well. Be strict with yourself. Have you tried the no tech rule or not? It is worth a try. Do you have any curtains or not in your bedroom?

MrPoppysGF Wed 16-Jan-19 22:01:35

chopornot blew my mind too. The first 3-4 minutes ARE shit, whatever the time!

I have found that my bed is never as soft, with the optimum temperature as those few minutes before you need to get up. It is a perfect environment just as the alarm goes off.

I found preparing as much as I can the night before for the next day helps and a shower in the morning helps me come round.

livs1987 Wed 16-Jan-19 21:36:58

What time are you going to sleep?

Sorry but I find it a bit gross not showering in the morning before work - to each their own though.

I think you’re just set in your routine so waking up earlier feels awful (especially if it’s still dark outside). Would it be possible to take Nytol tablets to try to get to sleep earlier? You’ll be more inclined to wake up earlier if you’re not missing sleep.

I use my wireless speakers (ue Megaboom) as my alarm - it’s extremely loud and annoying so impossible to sleep through and can’t be easily turned off. The alarm doesn’t turn off by interacting with the speaker, I have to unlock my phone, open the app, close a pop up before finally snoozing the bloody thing. It doesn’t sound that long, but faffing doing that whilst half asleep with a blaring siren alarm in the darkness definitely wakes me up

disneyspendingmoney Wed 16-Jan-19 21:13:22

my body clock slowly alters over the days messing up my sleep patterns, it's a bit like I'm on a 27 hour day than 24. Every now and again I reset my internal clock by staying awake on a Sunday night get to work early then go to bed early.abd get up early.

it works for me, just one day every couple of months I'm sleep deprived during the day.

Annasgirl Wed 16-Jan-19 21:07:14

Could you change job to an evening start? Scientists have found a biological basis for people being night owls or early birds and by forcing yourself to get up early you could reduce your lifespan if it is against your internal rhythm

speakout Wed 16-Jan-19 21:04:20


Why crazy?

I love my 9pm bedtimes- I asleep ny 10 and up at 6am every day.

Nothing ridiculous about it.
I start winding down by 7pm. No housework after that time, just time to relax, read, chat.

I don't have to get up at 6am, I choose to.

LifeofClimb Wed 16-Jan-19 21:00:48

Omg some of the replies here 😱 bed by 9pm! What is this craziness! I like to potter and ... do hobbies I guess. That is ridiculously early for sleep. I get in the house most evenings at 8, that leaves an hour for housekeeping, cooking, cleanup, shower... let alone any relaxing or productive stuff.

CinnamonToaster Wed 16-Jan-19 20:58:12

Evening is by far my favourite time of day - it's the time for socialising but also for quiet reflection.

Also, for me, it's when my husband is also free. I like my husband. He's nice. The more hours we spend together, the better, and I'd rather be awake for those hours because he is more interesting than sleep. I find the talk of bakeries, meal prep and making sandwiches rather reductive. Great if that works for you. But I don't think it's a moral failing for people to align their leisure time to when their partners are around. For many of us, an early night equals hardly seeing their partner all day. That, to me, is a much greater waste than not making it to the bakery until noon.

Wavescrashingonthebeach Wed 16-Jan-19 20:57:00

I agree with posters about an alarm that makes you get out of bed. That used to work well for me. I just couldnt deal with the ticking clock sound though....!!!

Wavescrashingonthebeach Wed 16-Jan-19 20:53:48

I feel your pain. Ive struggled with this since being a child. Always been a night owl in a world built for larks.

I always put off getting up to the last min & have to rush!

When people say "just get up 10 minutes earlier" you want to stab them haha. It's not that easy but other people just dont comprehend and think you are lazy.

Could say to them "just run a marathon" or "just work all night".

We're all different.
Anyway what ive found helps in general:
*Set ur phone to lowest brightness with blue light filter on at night.
*Herbal 'sleepy' teas as night.
*A good routine (easier said than done and i still always revert back to my 'factory settings' haha...)

For mornings:
Work out whats the absolute quickest u can be out the door then add 5-10 mins to this depending on how long u take to get ready. Then only set ur alarm for this time.
Dont set ur alarm too early- dont kid yourself you will only snooze it til the last min and turn it off by mistake!! And miss out on valuable sleep by keep snoozing!

What works for me: If i need to leave at 8am. I set an alarm for 7.30 and one for 7.40. First one goes off, turn off and enjoy my 10 mins. Second one goes off- GET UP PUT DRESSING GOWN AND KETTLE ON.
Move fast and keep warm. Do not sit or lie back down!

Also if you are really groggy when you first wake have a min of bright screen off ur phone that wakes you.

Sorry for the lengthy post!

Jenwiththecurls Wed 16-Jan-19 20:48:31

And also I now love that last 1.5 hours of the working day where everyone has left and I’m super productive and in the zone. I get my best work done then.

(When I tried coming in early it would take me 1.5 hours and several coffees to feel human. It was just wasted time!)

Jenwiththecurls Wed 16-Jan-19 20:45:43

Haven’t read the full thread. I used to think like you and tried to force myself to be a morning person. It’s just not happening. So now I’ve just embraced being an evening person. There are lots of good things about it (like not being knackered when I go out).

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER Wed 16-Jan-19 20:17:58

Have you tried an old fashioned, mechanical alarm clock - the kind you have to wind up? They're much louder than phones or battery clocks and are still available, though not so easily any more.

I used to put one on the other side of the room - not beside the bed - so I had to get up to turn it off - whenever I had to be absolutely sure of getting up at 3.30 am for work.

Cakemonger Wed 16-Jan-19 20:09:41

People really do have very different body clocks. If you've tried everything and you really can't solve it, maybe you just need to organise your life around being a night owl?

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