To think waking up early will solve 99% of my problems!(133 Posts)
Someone please help me!
I am single handedly causing my own issues by sleeping in late EVERY MORNING!!
Due to me waking up late.. I'm late for work everyday meaning i always have to work late to make up my hours. This has a knock on affect to my evenings where banks/places are closed by the time i finish work so i have to wait for weekends to run errands. My work is very flexible so they don't care too much.
I always looks like SHIT at work because i literally roll out of bed, into clothes and out the door! Which affects my self esteem!!
I can't arrange morning meetings/appointments because i know I wont wake up on time.
My weekends i wake up super late so waste half the day in bed. Ffs!! I only have a few hours during the day to carry out all my errands!!
I've always been this way. Since a child. I used to be late for school everyday and constantly reprimanded.
I don't know why!! I've been tested by the GP and everything has come back fine. Ive tried going to bed super early/late/reasonable hour. Nothing works!! I've tried setting several alarms on both my phone and manual alarm.. I sleep through them all!!
I think its learnt behaviour. My mother is exactly the same and was always late. She was self employed so never really had consequences for this. She sleeps until noon most days!! Our household was a 'night owl' household. We'd all be awake until early hours despite given bedtimes and then late every morning.
I don't know what to do!! Its ruining my life!! How do i change?? Has anyone else ever suffered the same?!!
If i could just wake up at a reasonable hour 99% of my issues could be resolved!!
How do i discipline myself?!
Has anyone else ever suffered this? Its not normal!! I piss myself off!! I cant rely on myself to do anything morning related which cuts out half my days!!
Someone please advise or give me a kick up the @**!!
I know you've said the GPs tested you but have you done more research on it? I ask just because somewhere in my memory I have am murky recollection of reading an article about someone who'd discovered they had a genuine condition where something to do with their internal clock was wrong and she genuinely couldn't reset her body clock to wake up early. It had run in her family. I reckon it might have been in a book I read about sleep??
So - maybe do some reading to see if there is a real condition and if you might fit that.
If your sleep is bad you can get refereed to sleep clinics.
Another night owl here. Great post @MitziK - I do a few of these things but will look at some of your other suggestions.
You’re not suffering, you’re being lazy! Most people HAVE to get up, otherwise they would be sacked\ kids wouldn’t get to school etc...
Just get up when your alarm goes off. Simple.
How do you set your alarm, does it only go off the once?
I set my phone to 7.45, 8, then 8.10. I’m usually up by 8, and then 8.10 goes off when I’m getting ready.
I genuinely don’t understand the people saying they can’t get up earlier - if you were to go on holiday to the USA would you stay on UK time your whole holiday? Or would you be able to adjust when you got there (go to bed later), and again when you flew home (go to bed earlier)..? I know someone like this, swears she can’t get up earlier, keeps everyone waiting, it drives me mad. So I’d really like to understand it better.
Sunrise alarms are good, as PPs have said.
What worked for me: children. Drastic but they totally reset my body clock. Sometimes now I set my alarm to get up about 5:30, 6ish so I can enjoy a cup of coffee and something on netflix before they wake up!
Obviously that is not a practical solution but giving yourself something positive to get up for and then really seeing the benefits will help. Buy yourself a couple of pieces of new makeup as an incentive to make time to put them on maybe?
I literally don’t understand this. I have to get up at 6.30 for the dc and to take dd to the school bus at 7. I have to. If I turned over and went back to sleep, she wouldn’t get to school.
I don’t understand how people can ignore alarms. Unless there’s something physical wrong with them.
So, if you think there might be, do some research. Go and see your gp.
Try a daylight lamp on a time switch with your alarm.
I can solve this for you. Honestly. I can. It is just about changing your mindset. I was alway awful at getting up. Last minute every single time. And then I chatted to an "Early Riser" friend of ours. And what he revealed to me "blew my mind" as my 12yo would say.
"Whatever time you get up, the first 3-4 minutes are shit. Early riser or not. Delaying it, with the snooze button, 6 alarms, last minute alarms, across the room alarms, fairies singing or birds tweeting - whatever - makes no fucking difference. The first 3 minutes are shit. But just get over it. Sit on the loo, Have a wee/poo. Feel shite. Then do you know what. You feel OK. Get on with it."
I considered this. Experienced exactly what he said the next day.
He is right.
It is only the first 3-4 minutes that are a bit shit. And this happens whether is is 7am or 11am. Or 2pm. If you are early. Late. On time. No difference.
Just get up.
Get the 3-4 minutes over with.
That is it.
Set all the clocks in your house one hour early. At least when you leave 'late' for work, you'll have the nice surprise of not actually being late.
The lighting up alarm clock helped me to stop dozing off immediately after switching my alarm off.
I was always like that until I was about 46, then I started waking about 5am or even earlier. I hated it because I didn't get a lie in at weekends, I was far too awake too early!
Get a job with a later start and don't worry about it. Sleep is marvellous and staying in bed late at weekends is a treat to be enjoyed, not just for teenagers.
Since giving up work I've gone back to sleeping late and it's divine!
PS: My child also didn't like getting up early, even as a baby, and was frequently late for school. He developed a system for sneaking in and avoiding registration. He's a dedicated professional now so it did him no harm but he frequently works at home and stays up late, working, sleeps the next day.
Must be in our genes.
Husband gets up quite early, makes sure he doesn't wake me.
I've "trained" myself to get up early by setting my alarm clock at normal time for a couple of days .... than 5 min earlier .... than taking away an other 5 min... and so on. It took some time but I wake up at the "right time". Maybe worth a try....
I take it you are younger than 40 :-)
Soon your bladder will refuse to let you have a lie in !
You have a bad habit,
Presumable you sleep an average length of time.
Force yourself to get up very early for a few mornings- by 9om you will be ready for sleep.
Tonight is a late night for me ( been pickin up my DS from work).
I am normally in bed by 9pm and asleep by 10 o clock.
I wake every morning at 6am.
Some mornings I am at a yoga class at 7am.
On Sundays I do my supermarket shopping, back home by 8am, all housework and food prep done by 9.30 am.
Leaves the rest of the glorious day to relax or have fun.
I see sleeping late as wasting the day.
How late do you sleep in for work? How late does this make you? Just wondering how massive an issue this is? Like 20 min or 4hrs? Could you try telling yourself you are allowed to go back to sleep on a weekend if you get up in the week. Tbh I don't think anyone likes getting up but most of us don't have flexibility so have too! Could you try booking things in on a morning at work? As a trail with a work friend maybe?
It’s a choice though isn’t it? You’re not unable to wake up early, you’re choosing not to. If you had a flight to catch to go on your dream holiday of the offer of a thousand pounds, you’d get up when the alarm sounded.
I think you’re telling yourself you can’t get up/wake up to the alarm, it’s just the way you are, not your fault etc but it’s an excuse because in reality there seem to be little in the way of consequences.
If you’re really bothered, just get up!
Have a baby, that'll soon sort you out ￼
I used to be similar. The thing which changed me was having to deliver training to some staff every day for a week at 8am - small groups, just for 1 1/2. - 2 hrs. It was a killer for the first few days, but I’ve tried really hard to make it a habit. I now get in around 8.30 every morning instead of 9.45.
It’s easier said than done though. Make an early morning appointment. Work out how long it takes to get to work, how long to get ready - I get up at 7.15, but my alarm goes off at 6.58, 7.04 and 7.08. I then lay there until 7.15 before dragging myself out of bed. Some days are more difficult than others though to get up.
It’s about setting a new routine and sticking to it.
Tbh you sound very much like ds1. He’s fucked up so many opportunities because of it.
Get a lumie wake up clock. I was the same until I got my lumie. A year later I was riding at 05.30 for morning workouts at the gym.
I'm working on this. I am thinking of doing it kindly to myself - mainly because I'm a grump in the mornings - by getting a coffee machine. The smell of the fresh coffee would get me out of bed. Also toying of putting jus roll croissants in the oven and putting a timer on. The thought of a firefight get me out of bed more than the pastry. Either that or put one less than members of the family so the last person up doesn't get one.
We’ve bought Phillips Hue bulbs. You can set a wake up alarm so that the bulbs come on gradually from about ten minutes before the alarm time. By the time your alarm goes off you are already awake. (In theory... doesn’t always work - definitely worth a try though)
But I do agree with ChopOrNot.
A lumi alarm clock - go to bed early and use 'sunset' mode as it will help you get to sleep, then use the sunrise (and alarm) to wake you up
No electronics in the bedroom - helps quality of sleep
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