To be uninvited and fuming?!

[PartyPooper86]

NC as this could be outing! An acquaintance of mine - let's call her 'A' - is having a big birthday party this weekend. She is very good friends with my best friend 'B' so I was going along with her. Bought an outfit, gift , changed some plans, was looking forward to seeing 'A' again and from what 'B' told me, she was looking forward to seeing me.

Today 'B' gets a message from 'A' to say I can't come to the party. The reason? An 'ex' of mine (Who I was seeing for a month, 2 years ago and who is DP with 'A's best friend) said he will not go if I'm there. 'A's best friend also said she won't go if her boyfriend/my ex isn't going so therefore I have been uninvited to ensure they go. I haven't spoken to or seen this 'man' for 2 years and had no plans to speak to him other than a polite hello if we were in close proximity. Things didn't end on the best of terms but not the worst either considering it was only a month long 'romance'.

I get that 'A' can invite who she wants but I can't quite believe the immaturity of it all and the fact she didn't message me herself. So AIBU to turn up to eat the buffet,drink the drink and leave to be annoyed by this debacle?!

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

I’d be right totally pissed iff with this. Sounds like everyone is making a massive mountain out of a mile hill

[Knittedfairies]

How 'big' a birthday? 13?

[ScreamingValenta]

YANBU. However, they all sound very childish - you might be well out of it.

[Iamnobirdandnonetensnaresme]

Obviously you are underestimating how fuckin amazing you are. You are his one that got away, your month long romance is still effecting his relationships 2 years later!!
You are a star and a threat to his current relationship.

How very sad for them both.
I’d be annoyed but you don’t need these people in your life!

[Duchessgummybuns]

They don’t sound like people I’d want to spend time with personally! Go do something nice for yourself instead

[Move2WY]

Not only childish but extremely controlling of your friends best friends.

Him for not going. A best friend for not goingg if he doesn’t and now A for going along with it all. She should invite you but just tell them she hasn’t. I doubt they would leave the party if they saw you.

Such drama

[BumbleBeee69]

Bunch of self absorbed twats. Treat yourself to a Spa day lady

[Janedoughnut]

Were you invited in the first place as you say She is very good friends with my best friend 'B' so I was going along with her as I'm wondering if the ex not going if you were was made up to stop you attending.

[Sparklingbrook]

Doesn't 'A' have to tell you herself?

[CoastalLife]

I wouldn't give it much head space. If she's just an acquaintance then it's not really a surprise that she would side with her best mate over you, regardless of who is right or wrong. If it was largely due to your mutual friend that she invited you to begin with (apologies if I've got this wrong), maybe she just felt that was the easiest way to let you know the situation has changed. If she doesn't know you well it might have just been really awkward to contact you directly. It is all very juvenile but since these aren't close friends I'd just forget about it and make other plans.

[SouthWestmom]

Obviously she's going to prioritise her best friend over one of her friends friends. She probably didn't think when she agreed, her friend has kicked off as has the ex - seriously what is she going to do? Sucks for you but that's life.

[SummerStrong]

Sounds like the ex never got over you OP.

I think they sound pathetic! And I wouldn't want to be going to the party anyway.

[PartyPooper86]

@Iamnobirdandnonetensnaresme aww thank you! I did wonder why such an extreme reaction! Me and best friend 'B' are now going out just the two of us 😁

[PartyPooper86]

@Noeuf she actually did ask if there would be any problems/awkward because she knew we were together. I said no of course not it's all water under the bridge!

[SouthWestmom]

Not on his side though. You get to be the bigger person here. Enjoy your night with your mate.

[JamesBondFire]

Pleased to here you've made other plans OP. Don't waste any more time on this nonsense!

[cuppycakey]

I would be so tempted to message A and say of course you understand, you feel so sorry for XP new DP. It must be so embarrassing for her to realise XP has never got over you.

Then block them all.

Idiots!

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

If anyone tried to blackmail me like that ("I'm not going if X is going" "And I'm not going if he's not going") - tbh, I'd just tell the I will be sorry they won't be there.")

Sods!

[Seventiescarpetswirls]

Knittedfairies - sniggered when i read that!

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

cuppycakey has the best suggestion

[GoGoGadgetGin]

Yep! Do cupys text!

[Prinstress]

Aw B is a wicked mate for binning the party!

I'm sure you's will not be missing out in the slightest, they sound like a bizarre bunch.

[Thehop]

Please send that message 😂😂

[TeddybearBaby]

Very cringey / childish. I’m so pleased your friend is staying with you. Think they all sound ridiculous........ and petty........ and rude. Take it as a compliment, you obvs made a big impact x

[dustarr73]

At least your friend is loyal enough to drop the party and go out with you.She has her priorities right.

After all that your ex and his gf probably wont even show.