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AIBU?

To lie about getting a boob job?

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user1490465531 · 11/01/2019 21:07

AIBU to lie to my family if/when I go in for a boob job?
I was hoping to do it later this year but they will give me so much grief over the money I'm spending I really can't face telling them.
Might need one of them to look after my dd whilst I go in so was just going to make out I'm going in for something else but I hate lying about something like this.
AIBU to consider this .
And what could I even say I'm going in for without getting them worried?

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Doyouavocado · 11/01/2019 21:11

I’m guessing you are a teenager? If it’s your money you are spending then who cares, you are an adult, unless it’s their money?

Just be honest, I’m sure they will realise when your boobs triple in size Grin

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user1490465531 · 11/01/2019 21:15

No its my 4oth birthday present to myself and as I'm a single parent they think I should spend my money on better things which realistically I should.

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elephantinstripeysocks · 11/01/2019 21:19

i wouldnt lie. it will be much worse for you if there are any medical complications or problems and you may find it harder to get help from them. I would just be honest. You're an adult. Its your money. I presume theyre not lending/giving it to you. If they criticize or ask questions you tell them to mind their own business and ask to see receipts for their weekly spending. Wine/cigarettes/chocolate/holidays/make up/beauty appointments/boob jobs. All non essentials and I would point this out if they judge you.

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elephantinstripeysocks · 11/01/2019 21:20

and for the record I think your own self esteem (which Im assuming would get a boost from this or you wouldnt be doing it) is worth the money.

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ShinyMe · 11/01/2019 21:20

What's the point in lying? It'll be obvious afterwards.

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eco1636 · 11/01/2019 21:21

Don't lie to them it could all go pear shaped and you'd need their help.

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Aquamarine1029 · 11/01/2019 21:23

How exactly do you plan on hiding these new boobs? You'll only make things worse if you lie about it because they will know the second they see you. Lying about things is something a child does. You are a grown woman and can spend your money any way you want to. There does not need to be some big family discussion about this.

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whatsthepointthen · 11/01/2019 21:24

wouldnt it be obvious Confused

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legolimb · 11/01/2019 21:26

It's up to you . Either tell them or don't. It's your money to spend how you wish - unless of course you owe them all money.

fwiw - I had a nose job two years ago and told no family members. They still haven't noticed Grin

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eco1636 · 11/01/2019 21:27

I don't think my family would notice a subtle boob job the

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eco1636 · 11/01/2019 21:27

But I wouldn't do it as non essential surgery risky

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user1490465531 · 11/01/2019 21:34

I'm only going for a subtle increase.
I'm very very small and it looks worse the older I've got as I've put on weight everywhere but my boobs so look totally unbalanced.
When I was younger and slimmer I gothink away with it.

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livs1987 · 11/01/2019 21:36

Wait what? You want to tell them that you’re having something else done....this doesn’t make sense as NHS hospitals do not carry out cosmetic procedures so it will be obvious it’s a cosmetic/elective procedure by process of elimination, which will obviously expose the fact that you’re spending money on plastic surgery?

May as well just be honest

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user1490465531 · 11/01/2019 21:39

I don't need to tell them what hospital I'm going into.

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uhtredsonofuhtred · 11/01/2019 21:44

Bit different to your circumstances, but 10 years ago I had a miscarriage and was haemorrhaging I was rush to hospital i had no money on me and needed to get home the next day when I was released from hospital, I called my mum told her I'd had a really heavy period and fainted she thought nothing of it pick me up and dropped me home, a couple of days later I woke in a pool of blood and was heamorrhaging again i managed to call for an ambulance before I passed out, my mum turned up at mine (too check how I was doing) just as the ambulance did and my whole lie was uncovered. The moral to my (very long) story is that it will come out on the wash,everything always does, just be honest they might be fine with it you never know

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CSIblonde · 11/01/2019 21:45

I didn't tell my mother when I had one at 26. I went from 32AA to 34B. She suspected ,but I had put on weight anyway at that time after being abnormally thin due to depression. I just wore baggy stuff round her & said it was down to weight gain/going on the Pill, as I never saw much of her any way.

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Cranky17 · 11/01/2019 21:47

My family would totally judge me for a boob job, we have similar circumstances,

But you have to tell them, you will need help afterwards... you could lie and say your sugar daddy is paying for it Wink

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PositivelyPERF · 11/01/2019 21:47

Seriously. I’m very small chested and have put on weight, so my boobs look ridiculous, but I’d rather spend the thousands that boob job costs, in buying some fab exercise equipment and healthy food. As it is, I’m too greedy and lazy. 😁

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elephantinstripeysocks · 11/01/2019 21:47

go big or go home op. Come out with DDs and style it out. "its the pill." should do it.

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Cookit · 11/01/2019 21:48

I don't need to tell them what hospital I'm going into.

You’ll need someone to bring you home though won’t you? Both times I’ve been under general anaesthetic, even though relatively minor procedures, I was told I need someone to fetch me (and then stay with me after). Or do you plan to bring a friend?
I can see why you’d want to not discuss it though. I would consider something like that not really my family’s business.

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Wannabeyorkshirelass · 11/01/2019 21:49

I've never seen a boob job that didn't look like a boob job, even the 'subtle' ones. I think it would be irresponsible not to tell them what's going on if they're looking after your child.

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Cookiedough123 · 11/01/2019 21:50

I had one and you cant tell as i wore padded bras before anyway!! I did personally tell my mum and the odd person but no one guessed at all. You will need someone to help you for at least 24 hours as it is hard lifting things. You also need to have someone with you when you leave the hospital as my hospital wouldn't let you leave without a chaperone. I got dropped off by a friend and picked up by my boyfriend later that evening. You will also need to be careful picking your little one up ideally not at all for at least a week or two!

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MiceSqueakCatsMeow · 11/01/2019 21:51

Won't they notice that your boobs are different?
I'm 45 and getting braces this year. I can't see why their opinion would stop you. I think you should go for it.

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PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 11/01/2019 21:51

Implants are obvious though, so they'll know as soon as they see you.

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PenelopeFlintstone · 11/01/2019 21:52

What do they think you should spend it on?

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