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To think this is an absurd party request?

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MerryMax Tue 18-Dec-18 09:18:48

DD is invited to a 7th birthday party today. The birthday girl's mum has given clear instruction that all parents need to stay and be present on the climbing frame. I've had a cold and don't feel like traipsing around a climbing frame trying to follow a bunch of 7 year olds. Surely at 7 they can be in there on their own?

Witchofzog Tue 18-Dec-18 09:20:30

Is there even going to be room for every parent to do this? She sounds very anxious

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo Tue 18-Dec-18 09:20:59

Very odd! They're plenty old enough to play by themselves. I bet they'll hate being so closely supervised.

Bluemascara4 Tue 18-Dec-18 09:21:59

Wow! She sounds very anxious and unreasonable.

How many children are attending the party?

ItIsChristmasTime Tue 18-Dec-18 09:22:08

YABU. If you’ve been asked to stay and accepted the invite, then I don’t see you have any choice. Perhaps the mother has a disability that prevents her from being able to supervise such an activity but it is what her child wants to do, so she has arranged the party accordingly.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Tue 18-Dec-18 09:22:43

Is this outside in their garden?
It's too bloody cold for a metal climbing frame

Whataboutbobbo Tue 18-Dec-18 09:23:17

If you don't like the conditions, don't go.

masterandmargarita Tue 18-Dec-18 09:23:48

Wrap up warm and look after your kid!

MerryMax Tue 18-Dec-18 09:26:27

It's a soft play not outside. We will all be crouched down inside the climbing frame. It's not exclusive hire either so loads of other kids will be in there.

Suziepoozie Tue 18-Dec-18 09:29:04

If it’s open hire during a busy time, I imagine the parents will be told to get off. It’s ridiculous at 7.

LilMy33 Tue 18-Dec-18 09:31:07

She sounds very over anxious expecting parents to follow their 7 year olds around. My 2 would have gone spare and told me in no uncertain terms to bugger off.

FannyFanackerpants71 Tue 18-Dec-18 09:31:47

Could be the soft play centre insisting? I think you may have to just do it for your dc. Maybe also the other mum feel she could not safely monitor all the kids attending and being safe rather than sorry. I've often had to stay at these types of things. It's a pain agreed buy not much you can do.

mindutopia Tue 18-Dec-18 09:33:00

If it's a public place, she can't make you do anything. Do you think she means just don't drop and run as X number of children is too many to supervise alone in a public soft play? Either way, just go sit down at a table and enjoy a coffee. It's not like she can kick you out, it's soft play.

LongWalkShortPlank Tue 18-Dec-18 09:34:16

I'd clarify what she means. I'm assuming she wants parents to keep an eye on their own children because it's an open party and has worded it awkwardly. It's kinda silly to assume she means ON the climbing stuff itself, it's a soft play.

Iloveautumnleaves Tue 18-Dec-18 09:36:45

I’d stay as that’s what she has asked, but at a soft play I would not be in the frame with a 7 yo. No. (If it was an outdoor frame I would decide whether to comply or not go)

mumsastudent Tue 18-Dec-18 09:38:13

thinks; I wonder if a couple of the dc have issues behavioural or otherwise & though her dc may want all dc in class to come/or those specific dc she thought the best way to cope was to include all parents. treat it as a socializing event for you too & get to meet other parents - alternatively ring the mum up & explain you are not feeling well & under those circumstances would it be ok for the dc to come without you?

ApolloandDaphne Tue 18-Dec-18 09:38:17

Just on the climbing frame and nowhere else in the soft play area? How weird. I am not sure the soft play facility will like 15 parents or whatever huddling round the climbing frame!

SleepingStandingUp Tue 18-Dec-18 09:38:18

Well I'd go and stay, but just sit and have a coffee. If she turns around and tells you to get in there, you can calmly decline and say that you have responsibility for her

Wooooooooaaaaaaaahhhhhhh Tue 18-Dec-18 09:38:43

I wouldn’t follow my 6 year old round soft play.

ApolloandDaphne Tue 18-Dec-18 09:39:38

At age 7 i would expect to be able to leave a child at a soft play party unless they had any specific needs which meant a parent would need to be there.

SnuggyBuggy Tue 18-Dec-18 09:40:06

Helicopter parent party grin

Molakai Tue 18-Dec-18 09:41:14

Why will you all be crouched down inside the climbing frame confused

steff13 Tue 18-Dec-18 09:42:23

I'd stay, but I wouldn't be crouching inside the climbing frame. I can't believe the venue would allow that. Won't you be in the way of the other kids playing? If my daughter was there playing, I'd wonder WTF you were all doing.

Molakai Tue 18-Dec-18 09:44:05

The only way I've ever supervised at soft play with over 5 year olds would be from a chair in the building. Is that what the mum means? Maybe the centre has ratios of adult to child ....

gamerchick Tue 18-Dec-18 09:44:47

Ignore her. It's soft play hell, no need to make it more uncomfortable than it is.

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