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To report my neighbour singing / humming?

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emmagreen481 Sun 16-Dec-18 22:29:23

It’s constant. Day and night. I’m starting to wonder if she ever leaves the house. I’ve been here since August and I am starting to lose the will to live.

The sounds of a strangled cat come from the flat above, yet strangely I’ve never seen her. As far as I am aware only a man named Derek lives there, and he also sent me a xmas card with only ‘from derek flat no 10’ Btw she’s definitely (I hope) not a ghost as I’ve heard them speaking. In fact, I can hear every time one of them yawns

Pachyderm1 Sun 16-Dec-18 22:30:11

Why would you report? Just talk to them.

Elphie54 Sun 16-Dec-18 22:30:40

Report for what??

HolesinTheSoles Sun 16-Dec-18 22:31:14

That would drive me mad. I would try to move somewhere with better sound insulation.

FannyAndMoonFace Sun 16-Dec-18 22:31:24

Better log it with 111 pet

InsomniacAnonymous Sun 16-Dec-18 22:34:15

Singing/humming is not illegal.

waxy1 Sun 16-Dec-18 22:34:23

Gas them with a moped exhaust.

AGHHHH Sun 16-Dec-18 22:35:48

Singing/humming is not illegal.

Many things are not illegal that I'm sure you would want to stop, it's common decency.

emmagreen481 Sun 16-Dec-18 22:36:55

I’m sure it is illegal if they are doing it at night

PatricksRum Sun 16-Dec-18 22:38:17

Um, by the sounds of it, it's you who needs to leave the house. hmm

SaucyJack Sun 16-Dec-18 22:38:28

Report them to who? I don’t think there’s an equivalent of RIDDOR or the National Grid to regulate a decent standard of singing.

PunishmentSnart Sun 16-Dec-18 22:40:01

She might be a ghost.

Ghosts who hum can certainly yawn and talk...

AnneTwackie Sun 16-Dec-18 22:40:35

Burn her with fire

KittensAndChristmasCake Sun 16-Dec-18 22:41:47

Gas them with a moped exhaust.

😂

ollhe Sun 16-Dec-18 22:41:52

Of course singing not illegal at night!
Noise that goes above a certain decibel limit at night is illegal. But I doubt singing would count.

Why don’t you knock when it’s late and politely ask them to stop? They probably don’t think they’re being heard.

JustHereForThePooStories Sun 16-Dec-18 22:42:36

Report her to whom? Simon Cowell?

AGHHHH Sun 16-Dec-18 22:42:51

Do it in return so they also find it annoying and won't want to do it...

anniehm Sun 16-Dec-18 22:43:02

Depends upon what you mean by all the time, people can sing in their own home if it's not amplified during the daytime (8am-10pm), unless they are a professional opera singer it won't be that loud. My dd is a semi pro singer and I can't hear her unless I'm in the same room beyond a slight hum.

AGHHHH Sun 16-Dec-18 22:44:15

My dd is a semi pro singer and I can't hear her unless I'm in the same room beyond a slight hum.

You must have really good soundproofing. sad I would hear it as though I'm in the same room wherever I am in this house!

LEMtheoriginal Sun 16-Dec-18 22:44:30

When our neighbour moved in he wiuld strum his guitar and what i can only describe as wail in the early hours. It was a bloody nightmare.

My DP mentioned it to him ina jokey are you torturing your cat kind if way and hes not done it since!

AntiHop Sun 16-Dec-18 22:47:52

What time is she doing it at night?

orangesandlemmings Sun 16-Dec-18 22:48:07

I don't think you can report someone singing in their own home

Unless actually you think Derek has kidnapped someone who's passing the time by humming?? If I hadn't watched the movie about Michelle knight earlier my mind wouldn't have gone there!

Sparklesocks Sun 16-Dec-18 22:50:49

She might not even be aware she’s doing it. The most civil thing would be to knock on the door and gently mention you sometimes can’t sleep if you hear the singing at night and would it be ok to keep it doing during 10-7 or whatever. I don’t think the council would do much if you reported it to them.

springydaff Sun 16-Dec-18 23:00:46

Horrific that you can hear them yawning. oh God no wonder you're at the very end of your endurance - that is appalling.

Is it a private landlord? I'm sure there are legal obligations for soundproofing. Contact Shelter to get some advice.

You poor thing.

emmagreen481 Sun 16-Dec-18 23:02:32

I am due a baby in February so hoping to get some payback for it with the noise. And nope both council. And yes, it is opera music

AGHHHH Sun 16-Dec-18 23:03:10

I'm sure there are legal obligations for soundproofing

Perhaps there are guidelines on new builds but I really don't think there are laws on changing existing properties soundproofing. It's the reason I've left so many places.

AGHHHH Sun 16-Dec-18 23:03:51

I'm sure there are legal obligations for soundproofing

Was meant to be a quote..

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sun 16-Dec-18 23:07:57

Sorry I'll shut up from now onblushwinkgrin.
I throught I had quite a good voice, actually. Thats my BGT plans down the swanny. angrygrin

Bluebellsarebells Sun 16-Dec-18 23:15:16

I only came on this thread to check you're not my neighbour..
I don't live in a flat or know anyone called Derek.
I like to sing. Usually in the shower or at night.
I'm surprised nobody has been around to check on my cat yet.

notforyou Sun 16-Dec-18 23:19:57

PatricksRum .. I couldn't have said it better.. ha ha.

I honestly don't know what to make of this ..
emmagreen481 . They sound like cheery folk grin I'm sure if you just spoke to them and asked if they could be mindful at what time they choose to hum (!) Or sing.
After all .. tis' the season to be jolly - might be a nice way to break the ice ! I mean they appreciate opera (not for everyone I'm sure) but they sound like human beings !! Approach them !? fsmile

FannyAndMoonFace Sun 16-Dec-18 23:41:58

OP did you just wish a noisy baby who screams all night upon yourself ?

fawkesRedux Mon 17-Dec-18 04:18:00

"I am due a baby in February so hoping to get some payback for it with the noise. And nope both council."

You sound awful.

You don't have the maturity to speak to her.

You want payback for something they might not even be aware if having an effect on you.

What does your DP (the baby's father) think about the noise?

TanteRose Mon 17-Dec-18 04:37:28

Report her to whom? Simon Cowell?
Proper made me laugh grin

Mummyoflittledragon Mon 17-Dec-18 04:58:13

Sounds as if Derek likes singing day and night. Get your dp to have a word with him. If it doesn’t stop, noise cancelling headphones?

Iaintdonenothing Mon 17-Dec-18 05:21:42

Humming is my absolute pet peeve. Above people who chew with their mouths open, don't use manners and actually over crying babies.

I was on a flight recently and had to sit next to a woman who would randomly break into humming Christmas songs and that nearly sent me over the edge.

I second knocking on her door and asking her to turn it down a bit.

Bloodybridget Mon 17-Dec-18 05:39:40

I sing a lot around the house, hope it's not driving the neighbours mad just poor DP.

Northernknickers Mon 17-Dec-18 07:22:09

Join in EVERY chorus loudly...then applause wildly at the end, with cheers of Bravo, encore, whoop whoop...she might get the message if you do it often enough 🤷‍♀️

springydaff Mon 17-Dec-18 17:55:10

Do you think Think Derek is a countertenor?

Exhaustedmummy1811 Mon 17-Dec-18 17:57:32

Ffs you sou d like the bitch who lives next door to me. I am not allowed to sing, wear shoes in the house, play any music at all and my children aren't allowed to play with lego. Get over yourself!

Notsurehowifeel0 Mon 17-Dec-18 18:08:28

I can totally understand where you are coming from op! I had a friend who used to complain about a neighbour singing constantly and used to think my friend was a grumpy bugger and that singing is a happy sound so why would it bother her.

Then we moved onto a house with neighbours who have a late teen/early 20's ds. His girlfriend laughs ridiculously loudly constantly. I'm not sure she ever sleeps. At first I thought it was sweet that her and her boyfriend seemed so happy and young love and all that. Now it's drives me bonkers! Their room is on the adjoining wall with my daughters bedroom and she is massively disturbing her sleep because she laughs all bloody night and then she's laughing early every morning. We can hear her over the TV in the living room. It's so odd because we have pretty good sound proofing and can't hear much else from the neighbours just her laughing all the flippin time. So hearing neighbours singing every so often wouldn't bother me but I can understand how it frustrating it gets when it's constant.

AGHHHH Mon 17-Dec-18 18:13:07

@Exhaustedmummy1811 the OP hasn't mentioned anything other than CONSTANT singing, day and night, which any reasonable person would find annoying.

If you do this yourself then stop being so bloody annoying to your neighbors and don't project your own issues with your own neighbours onto the OP just because they share ONE similar complaint!

GlassLantern Mon 17-Dec-18 18:14:07

To whom?

BGT?
X factor?

Pinkywoo Mon 17-Dec-18 18:22:42

@springydaff that's amazing, I actually love his voice!

Birdsgottafly Mon 17-Dec-18 18:33:27

"Singing/humming is not illegal."

No but it could be considered anti-social.

OP, speak to them, she perhaps shouldn't be living there and that might worry her into being considerate.

My DH used to have a friend, with MH issues, we knew he'd stop taking his meds, or they wasn't working, when he used to sing non stop.

Exhaustedmummy1811, how loud do your children play lego?

purpleface Mon 17-Dec-18 18:36:22

Maybe Derek is like Norman Bates and does both voices? fwink

NameChanger22 Mon 17-Dec-18 18:37:26

I would gladly swap neighbours with you. Mine are constantly yelling - yelling at the kids, yelling at each other, probably yelling at themselves. They also slam every door in the house regularly and stamp about yelling. It sounds like a mad house. They were doing it at 2am this morning. Think yourself lucky. I've never reported them.

MissionItsPossible Mon 17-Dec-18 18:38:21

Report them. I’m sure someone could do with a laugh

bumblenbean Mon 17-Dec-18 18:42:46

MAybe it’s derek singing falsetto?!

Cosyjimjamsforautumn Mon 17-Dec-18 18:45:28

Maybe Derek is perfecting his ventriloquist act grin

Strongmummy Mon 17-Dec-18 19:33:34

Go and seak to her. Then pray ur baby doesn’t cry a lot coz she’ll have zero sympathy 🤣

TenForward82 Mon 17-Dec-18 19:45:27

Just go and talk to her. She most likely doesn't realise you can hear it all.

Biggerknickersagain Mon 17-Dec-18 20:09:56

I live in a flat and when we don't have TV on or anything I can hear a lot from downstairs, I don't think they've ever shut a door, slamming is the preferred method. I can hear the TV, them laughing at the TV, call the dog, the dog bark when the door knocks, their washing machine and toilet flush - I work nights so sleep through the day and as I don't have stuff on I can hear it quite clearly.
They also hear me when they don't have TV or other things on, they know when I'm hoovering, they hear my phone alarm go off to get DC up for school, they hear me up and down the stairs. They hear us talking. They even asked how I was feeling today because they'd heard me coughing and barking at times with a nasty cold.
We don't moan at each other though because that's just the sound of someone living. I don't do things like having the washer on late and nor do they, but we had a conversation about the crap soundproofing. We realise that it's the soundproofing that's at fault, not each other and we don't expect each other to live in silence because the soundproofing is too poor to keep out 'normal' noise. Neither of us are that bothered.

Sounds to me you're in a similar situation, and if you can hear them yawn, then they can probably hear stuff from your flat too - due to the soundproofing.

I don't think your comment about the baby was great to be honest, just speak to your neighbours and explain the way it's carrying.

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes Mon 17-Dec-18 20:12:48

Is your neighbour SuBo?

Dollymixture22 Mon 17-Dec-18 21:27:06

My neighbour bursts into shouty signing everyso often. The type blokes do when they are really drunk walking home. A little irirtating at 9am on a Saturday - infuriating at 3am on Thursday morning.

I let myself down and banged the wall at him. It stopped that night - but only had a few days reprieve. If I had any courage I would talk to him about it

Snowwontbelong Mon 17-Dec-18 21:31:03

Ask if he takes requests!

SerenDippitty Mon 17-Dec-18 21:33:13

Could she be wearing earphones and singing along? People who do that often don’t realise what an awful noise they are making grin.

FoxInABox Mon 17-Dec-18 21:36:09

Humming drives me insane- there’s a man at swimming lessons each week who hums for the whole half hour of the DCs lesson. It makes me feel really stabby.

brizzledrizzle Mon 17-Dec-18 21:46:11

It's his cat - best call the RSPCA

Gibble1 Mon 17-Dec-18 22:22:15

You might be my neighbours. I have just sent DH in to tell DD to stop wailing. She’s got a horrible singing voice and wears headphones so can’t hear herself. Sadly we all can and I pity our neighbours who all sing beautifully.

SadOtter Mon 17-Dec-18 22:35:48

YANBU to be annoyed by it, but YWBU to try reporting it to anyone.

I live in a flat, I can hear downstairs' lullaby thing and next doors awful singing and the flat opposite's parrot and other next doors fucking hamster (which I am pretty sure must be pushed right up against my bedroom wall) all of these are very annoying but alas are part of living in a flat, I have no doubt they hear us sometimes too.

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