Mmmm, I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable or not. It’s a Christmas one & probably overthinking & being unreasonable.
Large family, lots of siblings and nieces/nephews etc. I thoroughly love shopping and find nice things for them all. They range in age from toddlers to 20 somethings. And I’m fortunate to be in a position where I can treat them.
The AIBU / Eldest DSis never likes the presents I send, (we are virtually NC, that story would take a book with a sequel) - it’s never right, sweet shop Hamper (do not send again as it’s not good for them, please don’t), books or toys are a no no, Amazon vouchers never get used.... I can’t send £20 each as I’ll get a “that’s too much & moans to my DM”. I genuinely have had a decade of “displeasure”. So I’m spending as normal on all the others and only sending them a £10 each cash. I feel a bit mean, I have no idea if my DNs like the presents I send or if they are even get them, as I don’t have any contact with them, I last saw them 5 years ago. It just feels like I’m being unfair and treating them differently if I send them a £10. My other Nieces & Nephews, who I do know a lot better, always really appreciate their presents. I try to put some thought into them.
So the AIBU to just send a £10 in a card as that should be acceptable by DSIS, but it does mean treating them less favourably than their cousins???? I’ll add the cash saved to my annual donation to the local homeless charity - it will be more appreciated.
So as not to drip feed, they are exceptionally well off, but in my mind that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t send a Christmas present. They are family, even if they don’t want much to do with me (nothing wrong with me, I’m just not in their eyes in the same league).
That was overly long, and probably really boring, sorry.
Ps Name Change, purely as I am a habitual name changer. And yes my DSIS has been the subject of other threads!! I did say that that story is a book or two! This is fairly minor in the scheme of things, just makes me a little sad, and I feel I am being unfair.
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sundaysundymundy · 16/12/2018 20:29
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