Many threads on here about friends who are not supportive enough or ghosting people...
Made me think that after talking to people on the mental health profession as I work with many of them but I am not one myself ... it was clear that taking to people who are always loom and gloom and focusing on their own problems is very draining.
Their advise is always up stay clear by the people draining you of the energy and spend time with uplifting people who give you the right type of energy.
The more I get older the more I realise this to be true and for my own sanity and my immediate family I try to distance from those that are always moaning and try to offload on you instead of looking for professional help.
If I have serous problems I try to talk about them to people I pay to listen to me and thatvare trained to give me help.
I might need a moan now and then but I try to take the edge off it by balancing it with some fun conversation.
Everyone can go through a bad patch ... I am talking about the people who for years and years moan or talk about their problems incessantly like there’s no way out an don’t try any professional help counting on friends to listen to them all the time.
I know I am going to be flamed ... but am I really unreasonable to try to avoid people that drain me and might make me a version of themselves... always focusing on the negative?
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Caulimademedoit · 16/12/2018 15:41
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