This is a bit of a self-indulgent misery insomnia post.
A friend was messaging me earlier, just having a little moan about life and I was being sympathetic, but then she said how lucky I am to have everything so easy and I'm confused and actually a bit upset that she would say that.
I've been a single parent of 2 for 10 years. I work in a low paid job that is physically exhausting and mentally draining. I live in a tiny house that needs work doing that I can't afford.
My friend who thinks my life is so easy is married (happily as far as I'm aware, though I know you can never really know what's going on in other people's marriages) and she and her husband each earn more than double my salary. She's been moaning about how stressful it is that she is having to move house because her current house, which is a lot bigger than my house, is apparently far too small to live in now she has a child.
And another friend years ago commented on how lucky I was too have just walked into a job after taking time out as a SAHM. I didn't just "walk into" that job, I volunteered for a charity and a paid position soon became available, I was asked to apply for it because I had shown myself to be good at the work as a volunteer and I worked really hard on my application and preparing for my interview and got the job.
Even back at primary school I was bullied by a girl in my class for having such an easy life compared to her, though there was nothing I had that she didn't and plenty of children who had more.
The bullying was so bad I could barely speak until I was in my 20s. I self-harmed for years and still frequently struggle not to. I suffer from anxiety.
I know that comparatively my life isn't that hard, at least I don't live in a warzone and I have a roof over my head and I'm not terminally ill.
But why do people who are the same as me or better off always think I have everything so easy?
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Itssoeasyeasy · 13/12/2018 02:19
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