I'll try to post this without rambling but I'm upset and finding it hard.
Last night, cuddling husband in bed. His hands wander, I tell him as he's exhausted and really needs the sleep rather than sex. He says "but I miss you". Translation, "I miss sex". I point out we had sex twice last week. His response was "and that's more than we've had in the past year".
Here's my last 12 months.
-Heavily pregnant
-Given birth. Stiched up. Piles.
-Establishing breastfeeding. Permanent baby-boob contact.
-2 weeks later, my dad dies. Fly to Spain without my baby for funeral. Hideous funeral at a mosque, see his face, body covered in a cloth, buried in a weird brick hole, filled in with concrete. Can't deal with this but I'm told by my dad's Muslim family that it's normal.. (I was brought up by my mum in England, not religious). Still struggling with the impact his death/funeral has had on me.
-baby doesn't sleep well. Exhausted.
-Struggle with breastfeeding after being away from baby for 2 days. Try to re establish good supply for 3 months. Ultimately fail.
-sell house. Buy new house. Move. Unpack. All while toddler has chicken pox.
-overnight trips to Spain to deal with my dad's affairs, empty his apartment etc
Plus all the day to day shit, housework, looking after the children, cooking, KIT days at work. Etc.
But I'm still measured on how much sex I've been "providing".
I tell him all this and has just says "I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset you"
I feel so inadequate. I feel angry because who the fuck is anyone to make me feel like that. But I still feel it. We went through all this with our first baby, I'm upset it's still an issue.
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bruise · 11/12/2018 09:30
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