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bella1426 Sun 09-Dec-18 21:24:40

...it took to get 'back in the saddle' so to speak. 7 weeks PP and miss the closeness the physical side of our relationship brings but god knows when well have the energy, privacy or time to DTD again...not to mention the horrific thought of being seen naked like this...wondering what's the norm on this subject (if there is one!)

Branleuse Tue 11-Dec-18 10:00:26

less than a week with my last two. I just felt desperately in love with dp and really wanted to. It was really gentle, and I dont think we even finished properly. It seems a bit mad now looking back, but ive always been quite highly sexed.

KonaMum Tue 11-Dec-18 10:01:46

3 weeks (post c section so no tearing to contend with). I was desperate to by then. Our sex life was less that amazing whilst I was pregnant - hyperemesis, feeling exhausted and then I was huuuge and it was just logistically tricky, so I was really keen to get back into it!

He’s three months now and we’re only really managing about once per week... you have to be a bit creative with a co-sleeping baby to contend with! But I’m glad we try to make the effort.

SchnitzelVonKrumm Tue 11-Dec-18 10:34:26

Months - neither of us felt like it. But I was told absolutely not before six weeks with all three DC, by midwifes and consultant. Suspect the idea that a woman must be up for sex even when bleeding and exhausted after birth is another gift of the porn era.

SchnitzelVonKrumm Tue 11-Dec-18 10:41:44

* It is SO important to reconnect as a couple even if you're not totally up to it.* Fortunately DH and I connect in lots of ways, including the sheer joy of having a lovely little baby. And he wouldn't want to have sex if I wasn't totally up for it.

OracleofDelphi Tue 11-Dec-18 10:52:32

Shepherd - thats so awful... you poor poor thing.... flowers What a total fucking arsehole he was...

I think there is no "right" time.... what feels too soon for some, will be the right time for someone else. I think its dependent on what your physical relationship was like pre conception, amount of sex during pregnancy, how you feel post birth, level of trauma and level of lochia / bleeding etc.

I was 6 weeks with my first as I had stitches and 2.5 weeks with my second (no bleeding no stitches). MY DH was not that keen on sex when I was pregnant as he was too worried about the baby. I also had a massive hormonal rush both times after mine were born when I literally wanted sex all the time... Might explain why there is only 15m between my two. Oh and DH is the least sexually aggressive man I have ever met, so there was no pressure from him.

ethelfleda Tue 11-Dec-18 10:56:43

Months later for me. DS is 13 months and breastfed which makes me feel touched out to be honest!

jessstan2 Tue 11-Dec-18 11:00:03

Eight weeks.

loubluee Tue 11-Dec-18 11:02:00

About 4 weeks the first time- internal and external stitches. 2 weeks the second time. I couldn’t wait blush

Isitwinteryet Tue 11-Dec-18 13:25:27

9 months before I physically was able. 12/13 months before I started to enjoy it again.

WTBE Tue 11-Dec-18 13:58:43

Just under two weeks, felt like a right sex pest after giving birth blush

Even though we took our time and DP was gentle, probably should have waited as after it was very sore for me. I had stitches also.

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