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bella1426 · 09/12/2018 21:24

...it took to get 'back in the saddle' so to speak. 7 weeks PP and miss the closeness the physical side of our relationship brings but god knows when well have the energy, privacy or time to DTD again...not to mention the horrific thought of being seen naked like this...wondering what's the norm on this subject (if there is one!)

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Philomensapie · 09/12/2018 21:26

Months. I was bruised with friction burns.

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Bibijayne · 09/12/2018 21:26

2 weeks. But we're less active than before DS. Too tired!

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QueenDoris · 09/12/2018 21:26

About 30 minutes. Although the midwife was a bit annoyed as she was giving me a breastfeeding lesson at the time

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MaryShelley1818 · 09/12/2018 21:27

I’m positive you’ll get a wide range of replies here and there is no ‘norm’ I had a straightforward vaginal birth with no tearing. We held out almost 3wks and were both desperate for it!

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steff13 · 09/12/2018 21:27

Here they tell you to wait six weeks. We never waited that long.

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Youmadorwhat · 09/12/2018 21:28

9weeks 🙈

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Sassypants82 · 09/12/2018 21:28

4 months after DS was born and about 3 months after DD!

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KitKat1985 · 09/12/2018 21:29

I think I was about 2-3 weeks after both my births. We took it very gently though.

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KatnissMellark · 09/12/2018 21:29

7 weeks for me. Had a second degree tear. It was ok but not fab, got better quickly though. Lube and wine are helpful.

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Stillwishihadabs · 09/12/2018 21:29

2 normal deliveries, 2 weeks and 5 weeks (condoms had gone out of date 2nd time). I don't think we are particularly active (once a week ish)

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newmun · 09/12/2018 21:30

4 weeks with half a bottle of lube 🚣🏼‍♀️

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AhoyDelBoy · 09/12/2018 21:31

I really don’t think there’s a ‘norm’. You’ll get answers ranging from practically just pushed the baby out (some people do it in the hospital after all Shock) to never again. I guess it depends on a range of factors too. We tried 6 weeks PP but it was too painful (episiotomy) and sometimes it still is 14 months PP. My DP is of the opinion babies can sense whenever their parents are going to DTD and wake up ensuring their own survival before all others Grin

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moofolk · 09/12/2018 21:32

Are you not getting the physical closeness without sex? It's ok to ask for snuggles and cuddles if you're not ready yet.

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SimplyPut · 09/12/2018 21:33

Entirely different each time!

1st stitches - 2mths
2nd deep graze -3mths
3rd light graze -9 days Blush

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PerfectPeony · 09/12/2018 21:33

It really surprises me that some only wait a few weeks Shock... I hope that was a mutal decision with no pressure.

3 months for us, didn’t feel right for a while and our baby had colic. It was nice when it happened and we both felt ready.

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Mouse510 · 09/12/2018 21:33

Months! My boobs were way too sensitive to think about my husband touching them and it wasn’t until baby started sleeping for longer patches and I therefore felt better and more like myself!

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Bambamber · 09/12/2018 21:34

6 months Blush

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AhoyDelBoy · 09/12/2018 21:35

I’m a slow typer so x-post with others. Honestly, I can’t understand how people are thinking about DTD 2-4 weeks PP Shock. Maybe my episiotomy has more of an effect than I realised 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 09/12/2018 21:36

A week with my youngest, but was a c section. About 4 weeks with the others.

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ChocolateTearDrops · 09/12/2018 21:37

My ex was pressuring me from 6 weeks because the health visitor had said that it's usually ok then. Think it took me a lot longer to come around to the idea because of the constant nagging for sex! Hmm

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DuggeeDuggeeDuggDugg · 09/12/2018 21:37

Around 6 weeks first tried, wasn't pleasant (still recovering from emcs) and it wasn't a regular thing until after a year for various reasons.

You will find the time, trust me... Pregnant with DC2 now, conceived when DS was around 16m

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londonrach · 09/12/2018 21:37

You meant to try within 6 weeks according to midwife to make sure everything ok. We tried. It worked. Might have been months later next time!

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randomsabreuse · 09/12/2018 21:37

Long time before bed without a child in it means anything other than sleeping. Priorities change!

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Tiredteacherlass · 09/12/2018 21:37

2 weeks with no 1...a section
About 6 weeks with no 2...2nd degree tear

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OwlBeThere · 09/12/2018 21:38

A couple of months after the first, a fortnight with number 2, about 6 months with number 3. Directly correlational to how hideous they were at sleeping 😂

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