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To expect my friends to pay?

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samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 15:39:24

Me and 3 friends are going away for one night next year June.
The hotel room is 2 double beds and is costing £248.
As usual I reserved it on my bank card (using 3 months ago.
Today checked my bank and yesterday they've charge my account the full £248.
I've text my friends telling them what's happened and can they all pay there share.
They've all said no this close to Christmas,they have nights out planned and this close to Christmas can't do it.
So basically I've lost £248 ..I can't afford to cover £248.
Aibu here?

ShoppingBasket Sat 08-Dec-18 15:47:59

Sometimes they charge the card as a pre check and you get refunded again in a few days.

samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 15:48:16

They deffo won't cancel as we've paid over £100 each for the concert tickets.

Pachyderm1 Sat 08-Dec-18 15:48:18

This is really tough. I really feel for you but I also don’t think you can expect your friends to pay on no notice. If I were your friend I would pay if I could, but December is such an expensive month. Maybe the genuinely don’t have the money? I guess it’s a lesson learned to check the terms and conditions really carefully next time.

samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 15:49:06

Surely they can't expect me to pay either.
None of them would use their bank card so stupid me said yes.

Butchyrestingface Sat 08-Dec-18 15:49:15

When I booked it said "no prepayment needed,pay on arrival "
When you click on the terms and conditions it then says "full payment can be taken anytime prior to arrival"

Sorry, missed that post. Definitely raise the anomaly with the hotel.

And probably don’t book on behalf of others again.

Howdoyoudoit31 Sat 08-Dec-18 15:49:58

Why don’t you tell them they need to pay?! You can’t cover it all and if they don’t pay they can find another room to stay in.

Don’t be a walk over.

Redtartanshoes Sat 08-Dec-18 15:50:42

Contact the hotel ffs

VictoryOrValhalla Sat 08-Dec-18 15:50:58

In future you don’t book until you have the money from your friends.

PremierNaps Sat 08-Dec-18 15:56:55

Contact the hotel like others have suggested

JustWhatINeededNow Sat 08-Dec-18 15:57:34

Oh I'm so angry on your behalf. It'd sour the whole bloody trip for me. Dickhead friends.

Iknowthatguy Sat 08-Dec-18 15:58:54

You should have made sure you had the money before booking if that's what the ts&cs said. However it's really unfair of your friends.

samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 15:59:46

I'm going to give them a call.
It's not made aware on booking page you may be's once you actually go onto the hotel page and look at hotel policies.
Bit sneaky if you ask me

diddl Sat 08-Dec-18 16:00:43

"They've pretty much said they can't pay any of it."


Not even a tenner a week??

If they don't intend to pay can you alter it to a room just for you or keep the booking just for you?

WilburforceRaven Sat 08-Dec-18 16:03:58

Lesson learned, never ever book something in your own name without the money first.

HollowTalk Sat 08-Dec-18 16:04:07

I would do everything I could to cancel it. If it's next June, there's plenty of time to book something else and you might find you can get an AirBnB or a B&B that's cheaper.

FishesThatFly Sat 08-Dec-18 16:04:17

Nice friendshmm. Can see just how much they value your friendship by this...

TruffleShuffles Sat 08-Dec-18 16:04:56

If it was a non refundable room like you’ve mentioned OP they will take the money straight off your card. It’s only rooms that allow you to cancel where you pay on arrival. There is usually a difference in the price between the two options.

VictoryOrValhalla Sat 08-Dec-18 16:05:52

Don’t give them any of the booking details or reference until it is paid in full. Who has the concert tickets? If you have them I would threaten to sell them to cover the hotel costs because you can’t cancel it or afford to cover it for them.

ArcheryAnnie Sat 08-Dec-18 16:06:05

If they've already paid £100 for concert tickets, they are going to want a hotel room. Just say that's fine, you will sell on their bed spaces to other concert-goers, and they can find their own hotels themselves nearer the time.

(My bet is that you not have to find any other takers for the spaces.)

But yes, this is really shitty of them.

Bombardier25966 Sat 08-Dec-18 16:10:21

Which hotel is it?

xwhoiamx Sat 08-Dec-18 16:10:51

If your friends knew you were booking it and were happy to attend (ie you didn't goad them into it) they are being cf and should pay up. You can't afford it either. Give them until end of month and make it clear you expect payment by then or you'll be cancelling and booking a room for 1. Not OK.

PS. Hope the big concert is Take That 😊

xwhoiamx Sat 08-Dec-18 16:11:48

Oh and if it is Take That, let me know as I can help you find takers for those spare beds if they don't pay up...

samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 16:12:38

I wish I had take that tickets ha ha
It's for pink and it's the Marriott hotel

HJWT Sat 08-Dec-18 16:13:13

I guess if they literally don't have it then they don't have it to give ??

samppo Sat 08-Dec-18 16:13:31

I have the concert tickets too (well I booked but ticketmaster haven't send them out yet )

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