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DH doesn't get up until lunch time

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robinsinthespring Fri 07-Dec-18 11:37:12

My DH is retired. (I work a 2 mornings a week). He never gets up until at least noon, and last week he stayed in bed till past 2pm. When we were on an all inclusive holiday in a lovely location he still wouldn't get up, not joining me on the beach till lunchtime. Am I being unreasonable to feel sad that life is being wasted and angry and upset that I have to do so much by myself. I try to encourage him to get up, but all I get is daft excuses like "I'm listening to music" or" I must have drifted off again". Should I just carry on doing my own thing? WWYD?

WilburforceRaven Sat 08-Dec-18 19:59:10

Why is getting up at 7am after 8 hours sleep any better than getting up at midday after 8 hours sleep?

It isn't.

Oakenbeach Sat 08-Dec-18 20:03:41

But what we don’t know (or maybe I missed it), is he a night owl (ok, we all have different body clocks) or whether he just spends a massive amount of his time in bed wishing his life away (not healthy if it becomes a lifestyle)

A580Hojas Sat 08-Dec-18 20:09:48

If you are sleeping until midday and getting 8 hours sleep then that means you are starting to sleep at 4am. There's a ton of research showing that keeping these hours are detrimental to human health. But if you want to keep those hours and the person you share a house and life with is the same then fine. If not, make an effort to find a compromise.

A580Hojas Sat 08-Dec-18 20:12:31

I can't believe you are a high rate tax payer (wooooo! go you) with your basic lack of cognitive skills Wilbur.

adaline Sat 08-Dec-18 20:19:01

There's a ton of research showing that keeping these hours are detrimental to human health.

There are also lots of people who genuinely struggle to go to sleep at a "normal" time and who naturally stay awake until 1-2am or later. Science might say that's unhealthy but there we go.

Lots of people work nights/shifts and can't sleep regular hours, or they have disabilities or caring responsibilities that mean they need to be awake at 2am and sleep at 3pm, for example. Getting up at 7am doesn't make you morally any better than someone who lies in until midday, yet there's an underlying tone on this thread that that's the case.

WilburforceRaven Sat 08-Dec-18 20:25:29

I can't believe you are a high rate tax payer (wooooo! go you) with your basic lack of cognitive skills Wilbur.

Don't believe me then. hmm If you believe a person is lying or trolling, report the post. I'm not entirely sure how you can accurately assess a person's cognitive skills based on a post or two, but please, crack on.

Fairenuff Sat 08-Dec-18 20:33:45

Well OP hasn't bothered to come back to the discussion, that's why posters are just talking about themselves.

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