AIBU to think that my husband has stolen my period **Thread title edited by MNHQ**

[Countrymarch]

My DH has always been on the sensative side- a few suspicious sniffs at the end of Rocky and leaves the room when Mrs Jumbo sings Baby Mine to Dumbo- that kind of thing...

However, when I was pregnant, he was an emotional nightmare. If I had a weepy day, he'd be mopey and a bit pathetic, but be unable to say why. If I had backache, he'd be booking in physiotherapy for 'an old sports injury' in his lower back that would suddenly be playing up.

The less said about the birth, the better- let's just say, he was checked out for appendicitis whilst I was waiting to be induced.

Roll on a few years and all is fine (mysterious back injury miraculously cured and appendix intact). However, I've been having the most God awful time of it with my periods for the last few months. So unbelievably painful and emotional, that sometimes I just have to tuck myself away, have a long bath and curl up in bed so that I don't end up killing someone.

I've been to the docs and they're looking into endometriosis, however....

My DH seems to take my obvious distress as a sign that he too is due his period.
Lots of moaning and 'stomach aches'. He's very emotional and last night, he ate my emergency bar of Galaxy.

I can't describe the sheer amount of murder I wanted to commit when he feebly asked to go to bed early as he was 'feeling a bit funny and cross', tucked himself in bed to watch Ian Botham's greatest cricketing moments, leaving me to deal with the kids (with no chocolate) and tidy the mess he'd made around what can only be describe as his sofa nest.

This isn't the first time it has happened and seems to now be a monthly occurance.

I'm not cross at him for being a massive wet fart, we all have our moments... But AIBU to think he's stealing my God earnt right as a woman to monopolise pmt????

Does anyone else's DH do this, or should I genuinely be concerned that he's got a secret fanny?

Yours, with true period style irrationality.


Please note, the thread title was originally: AIBU to think that my husband is just a MASSIVE GIRL. - the OP regretted this! (see her subsequent posts) - Added by MNHQ

[AuLoinSontVontLesNuages]

Are you always so misogynistic ?

[SummersB]

Well I haven’t even read your thread but my 13yo DD called me out the other day (rightly so) when I called somebody a girl because it’s massively sexist. I was very proud of her! So: whatever the issue is, YABU.

[RandomObject]

Unfortunate use of language aside - your husband sounds strange. It's a bit like that episode of House with the patient who mirrors those around him.

[ShotsFired]

You are totally U just for calling him a "GIRL" as a derogatory term.

We have enough low level sexism to deal with on a daily basis without women adding to it by using our own names as insults.

[SpiritedLondon]

Yeah I think the title is not going to go down well.

[pinkyredrose]

Do you think 'being a girl' is an insult?

Fwiw I think he sounds like an unempathetic, needy, whiny PITA.

[MissionItsPossible]

Massive girl? Is that meant to be an insult?

[LadyRochfordsFrostedGusset]

Phew, though it was another Trans thread...

[Chickychoccyegg]

He sounds like a nightmare, I would definitely have murderd him for the patheticness by now

[Woopsimsorry]

Oh my god she is obviously being LIGHTHEARTED! Get a grip people

[53rdWay]

Wouldn’t a ‘massive girl’ be a lot less pathetic than he is? You seem to be getting on fairly well with actual pregnancy and birth and possible endometriosis without needing all the hand-holding he does.

[SquatBetty]

Really hope you don't have any DDs, OP seeing as they are clearly the inferior sex in your eyes.

[ree348]

It's women like you that spoil it for the rest of us, so because he's sensitive he's all of a sudden a 'massive girl' and has a 'secret fanny'?! We've made leaps and bounds in women's progression and still have lots left to do but then women like you come along and put has back in the dark ages.

That aside, yes he is being sensitive and I understand why you find it annoying but next time think about what kind of words you are using to describe him!

[hazeyjane]

Huh?
He sounds attention seeking and whiny. Not sure why that would make him like a girl.
What's wrong with calling him a pain in the arse?

[CryingMessFFS]

Being pathetic, like your DH, does not equal him being ‘a massive girl.’ Misogynistic attitude that does women and girls a disservice. Now if you’d asked ‘is my DH being a pathetic attention seeker’ then I’d say absolutely.

[JustABetterPlayer]

Oh the joys of stereotypes, coming to a forum to ‘moan’.

😎

[RandomObject]

Almost sounds like factitious disorder. People who fake injuries and illness for attention (I think it's a renamed Munchausens)

[senua]

Oh my god she is obviously being LIGHTHEARTED!
What's lighthearted about misogyny?

[Nothisispatrick]

He doesn’t sound like a girl, he sounds like a pathetic, needy, attention seeking wimp.

[ErrolTheDragon]

No, he's definitely not a 'girl', and therefore his symptoms echoing yours seem like they're some sort of weird psychosomatic thing ... or he's just being a massive knob.

Well, if feeling 'a bit funny and cross' gets him an early night, maybe you need to get in there first with 'in agony and bloody furious'.

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

He might not be a girl but he's certainly a Wuss.

[BarbarianMum]

Yes a "MASSIVE GIRL" -and what could be worse than that?

[EmeraldShamrock]

Other than your wrong choice of words. Yanbu this would really piss me off, sympathy pains but it would feel like a competition.
I am rarely sick but if I am DP usually decides to feel sick too.

[TwiceMagic]

I’m going to brush past the poorly chosen title.

I think your H is being awful. My ex used to do this to me all the time: if I was ill, he’d always have much bigger issues. It’s infuriating and it’s a way of telling you that you don’t matter as much as him. He needs to be the centre of attention, and have everyone looking after him. His dare you go into labour or have pain from possible endometriosis, that means that he’s not the centre of the bloody universe.

It’s nothing to do with bring sensitive. Quietly, sniffling along to films is not a problem (although ostentatiously doing it so everyone understands how very sensitive you are is deeply irritating); imagining you’ve got appendicitis and having it checked out so that your wife’s labour cannot be the primary consideration of the day is awful.