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To ask whether you prefer being blonde or brunette?

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therewillbetime Thu 06-Dec-18 21:55:46

Very trivial I'm afraid but would appreciate any blondes who have gone to brunette (or vice versa). Was white blonde as a child, then as I got older, my hair became mousy. Since I was early twenties (now forty) I have had a combination of light blonde and chocolate streaks which basically make my hair look blonde overall.

I'm fed up with it and fancy a change but certainly don't want mousy hair. I have quite fair skin and green eyes. Is it better being a brunette?! I have never ever gone completely brown and cannot imagine how it would look. I'm basically rather boring and not someone who has experimented much with different hair colours in the past. Any experiences gratefully received.

ikltownofboothlehem Thu 06-Dec-18 21:58:51

I prefer reds. Similar colouring to you and red always looks better on me.

NonaGrey Thu 06-Dec-18 21:59:10

Is it better being a brunette?

Better than what?

Hair colour is personal preference.

I know a few blonde women who would look considerably younger if they switched to brunette.

I also know a few women whose dark hair is not doing them any favours.

It’s personal preference and personal taste. <shrug>.

Pick the one you like best. If you can’t decide ask your hairdresser for their opinion.

Xmasbaby11 Thu 06-Dec-18 21:59:25

I have my mousey hair highlighted blonde. I have medium pale skin and blue eyes..
The colour lifts my complexion and looks natural. When I went mid brown, my features didn't stand out so well. I just looked blah. I tried a darker colour but my eyebrows are fair so didn't look natural.

I'm sticking with blonde!

MonsterTequila Thu 06-Dec-18 22:00:40

Would you go ombré? Best of both worlds then

HildaZelda Thu 06-Dec-18 22:01:21

I'm a brunette. I went blonde once. Never again. I looked like a washed out corpse.

Grumpasaurus Thu 06-Dec-18 22:02:13

Op, I am the same. White blond as a child, mousy natural hair now. Pale skin with pink undertones and green eyes.

Like you I have always maintained some sort of blond, usually highlights of some variety with lowlights of some variety. Once I went rogue and went brown. It looked awful. Then I tried a darker brown, thinking it would look more contrasty. It looked worse. Now I have balayage so my roots don't need doing so often, with a nice clean blond from 3/4 down xxx

Grumpasaurus Thu 06-Dec-18 22:03:14

Ps I also often add purple or pink as peekaboo colours which look great.

therewillbetime Thu 06-Dec-18 22:05:39

So is ombre like balayage? Is that darker at roots (brown) and lighter at ends (blonde) ?

Laiste Thu 06-Dec-18 22:10:28

I'm naturally mouse but for the last 30 years have been pale bleach blonde with low lights/dark under dye. Bra strap length straight hair.

Every 5 years or so i get bored with it and go dark brown.

And then within 2 months go through £££ and major stress going back to pale blonde.

Why? Well - my theory is this: I love the rich, sophisticated sultry look of long glossy dark brown hair and i see it on other women and love it and think ''Yeah - lets do that''. BUT unless you've got the good thick lovely hair the reality of me with dark hair is just total thin lank boring greasy looking ordinariness. Blond is easier to get looking exciting. I turn heads blonde. I bore the pants off even myself brunette.

therewillbetime Thu 06-Dec-18 22:33:58

Thank you Laiste - I know what you mean about the idea and the reality of thick glossy brown hair. I might think again!!

Princess1066 Thu 06-Dec-18 22:35:14

Natural blonde here - faded to mousy in my thirties - live in Ireland so serious lack of sun most of the time hmm

Been through various cuts - long , medium & short & a variety of shades of blonde, red & brown.

Am now very dark brown with a chin length bob & everyone says it really suits me so I'm sticking to it for now grin

Sometimes it's just a matter of trial & error - I cut & colour my own so I'm lucky in that regard.

lilySalvatore Thu 06-Dec-18 22:37:19

I personally think blonde is less ageing as darker hair tends to frame the face and draw attention to any lines, I guess it depends on skin tone but I find I look softer with fairer hair as I’ve aged.

baubled Thu 06-Dec-18 23:23:31

I'm fair with green eyes and have red hair, why not throw blonde/brunette out and go for a complete change grin

lostlalaloopsy Fri 07-Dec-18 08:02:27

I just had my dark hair lightened with a few blonde highlights. I prefer it this way, I'm very pale so the dark hair was washing me out. My main problem with being blonde is that I have incredibly thick hair so dying it takes ages!!

AmIRightOrAMeringue Fri 07-Dec-18 08:06:20

My hair is really fine, I'd actually like to go darker but if I don't bleach it's too flyaway and greasy.

Just a thought I think you can get apps or go on websites wheré you upload a photo and it changes the hair colour or style for you so you can experiment with different looks

knittedjest Fri 07-Dec-18 08:08:25

I prefer my hair dark, almost black. I'm very pale and have a strong jawline and light eyes. With dark hair I'm pretty striking (don't mind me tooting my own horn) but with blonde hair everything just seems to blend together in a cloud of beige. Plus my hair grows like a weed and I'm too lazy to upkeep blonde hair.

PaintingOwls Fri 07-Dec-18 08:10:03

Aesthetically I liked blonde more on me but the bleach totally obliterated my hair. I'm also lazy and found the upkeep a pain.

JamPasty Fri 07-Dec-18 08:23:45

I dyed mine ginger - had more complements on it in the first year or so than I ever did as a blond. Upkeep is a royal pain though (applies to all dye jobs I assume)

MrsScamander Fri 07-Dec-18 08:35:55

Redhead grin

MulticolourMophead Fri 07-Dec-18 08:37:27

I used to do brown as I started turning grey around 20. I would have gone bokdervin colour but my ex didn't like the idea i might do something outrageous.

I now have white blonde bleached hair and it does suit me.

MulticolourMophead Fri 07-Dec-18 08:38:10

Bolder in colour, not whatever that was there 😁

UserMe18 Fri 07-Dec-18 08:42:28

I am very pale with blue eyes, I've found blonde hair doesn't wash me out as much, I tend to do ombre with a couple inches of darker roots. I like having dark glossy hair (more natural for me) but I find blonde makes me stand out a bit more. Thankfully with roots being acceptabe it's low maintenance, if it ever really falls out of fashion I may have to go dark again because I can't be doing with a 3 hour hair cut every 6 weeks lol. I agree with others I think lighter hair is less aging (on the women I can think of at least).

MsHopey Fri 07-Dec-18 08:43:18

Brunette is too boring for me personally. I like my hair to be BAM in your face.
I loved blonde, white blonde, but the bleach made my hand terrible, the condition was scary and I lost most my hair in a bleaching accident. And my roots came through in around a week and looked terrible.
I too am naturally a mousy colour.
I have dyed it red pretty much ever since it all broke off.
Only have to do it every 8 weeks or so and way less damage than being blonde, and I still get go show my personality with it.

Birdsgottafly Fri 07-Dec-18 08:45:05

I was blonde, or a mix, from when I was fourteen.

I went brunette on occasion and although I suited it, I liked being blonde.

I now have to be brunette, because my grey comes through so quickly and I have to home dye.

I'm going to go back to the hairdressers next year, when I've done a few jobs in my house.

Take advantage of being able to do what you want with your hair!

PoisonousSmurf Fri 07-Dec-18 08:46:38

I seem to be treated better as a brunette. 'Dumb Blonde' is a term bandied around far too much.

Iknowthatguy Fri 07-Dec-18 08:47:07

I'm blonde, very blonde as a child now dark blonde that I get highlighted. I have blue eyes and blonde freckles in the sun. I don't suit darker hair, it makes me look ill.

The best hair colour is whatever suits you best.

SecondTimeCharm Fri 07-Dec-18 08:50:09

i’m naturally a fairly chestnutty/mid brown and i LOVED being white blonde.. i miss it still 3 years down the line but the expense of upkeep and the damage of bleach on my hair plus two pregnancies means it likely won’t come back for a good while...

i’m fairly pale but olive skin tone if that makes sense (tan well if i do) but in my experience white blonde hair look amazing on pretty much anyone

AHeartAPenny Fri 07-Dec-18 08:51:39

If I was causasian I'd definitely pretend I was a natural redhead 😍 But I'm brown-skinned so no way I could pull it off! Nor blonde. But my dark hair is thick and shiny so I'm happy with it for the most part.

SunnyJune Fri 07-Dec-18 08:51:51

Hi, you've just perfectly described me!
I was also really blonde and then hair started to go mousy. From the age of about 13 I just got highlights on top of highlights over and over so my hair has never been brown except!!!!
At about 18/19 I decided I wanted a change and went a chocolatey brown, I thought it would look more swishy and the upkeep would be so much easier, at first, in the salon, I didn't hate it. I got home brushed it and styled it myself and I immediately couldn't shake how 'boring' and 'bland' I felt. After about a week or two I felt like my personality had gone and I got it fixed back to my usual blonde. Now I'm 22 I've gone a lot more ashy and I love it more than ever!! Don't do it, you'll probably regret it! But if you do it isn't the end of the world your colour might just be off for a few months .

JaceLancs Fri 07-Dec-18 08:57:44

I love being a brunette
Now in my 50s so a few greys
My hairdresser advised going slightly lighter so not too harsh and also puts in a few streaks of a warmer brown but not really red which makes it look less flat
I have my roots done and pulled through every 6 weeks and a full head colour every 6-9 months

UserMe18 Fri 07-Dec-18 09:22:44


I know what you mean, I stupidly tend to make sure I wear glasses for certain meetings and presentations to try to look a bit more intellectual lol, doesn't help I'm quite young for my position too.

Chesneyhawkes1 Fri 07-Dec-18 09:26:20

I've been all sorts. Currently dark brown roots with blonde ends. And some caramel bits to break it up. Think I'll go lighter next visit on top.

I loved my red hair but it was such a pain to maintain. Needed re-doing so much more.

I get really bored with mr hair colour and want to change it a lot.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Fri 07-Dec-18 09:35:57

I've had dark brown, black, blonde, caramel, highlights and everything in between but always went back to red, because it feels more me. Currently it's bright red/pink after bleaching, I can't get the colour to sick this time round which is frustrating. I've also been very bold and had blue hair - I loved it but it was a pain to maintain.

Chocolatebourbons Fri 07-Dec-18 09:38:50

Personally I prefer being brunette - makes me look younger and is more flattering for my colouring. Naturally brown anyway but the darker I colour it the nicer it looks imo. Sadly though my years of colouring days could be over after a reaction to my last colour and a recent skin patch test.

foxtiger Fri 07-Dec-18 15:57:27

I've never been anything but ginger (which I love) for my entire life. However I'd love to know what it's like to have brown hair for a day as they say people take you more seriously. I've never seriously considered going blonde - I think it would suit my colouring better than brunette in theory, but I feel like nearly everyone goes blonde at some point and it's not a very imaginative choice.

wink1970 Fri 07-Dec-18 16:13:17

Naturally dark brown, but at 48 with the increase in greys, I now have a full head of various highlights, a mix of lighter brown, dark blonde and the odd silver-blonde.

It costs a small fortune to maintain and I would love to stay brunette but don't like grey roots!

MissLadyM Fri 07-Dec-18 16:24:51

I'm naturally dark almost black. I once died it proper black and it looked so witchy!Blonde aged me terribly. I'm now a redhead and it feels so right for me. It depends what suits your skin tone and it's not a 'flat' colour. Natural looking hair is made up of loads of different tones. Just make sure it's in great condition

MassDebate Fri 07-Dec-18 17:00:38

You've pretty much described me too therewillbetime. I tried going darker a few years ago after feeling the blonde upkeep was a bit much - asked the hairdresser to take me back to my natural (now mousy) colour but it ended up as a mid brown. I hated it - it made me feel really drab and none of my clothes looked right. I ended up going back for a few blonde highlights to be put back in and it looked so much better!

Since then I've toned down the blonde a bit - my hair goes pretty light with a tint (no bleach) so I have a few highlights mixed with a few lowlights to ensure the blonde doesn't take over too much. The result is quite a natural golden blonde which requires less upkeep than full on highlights.

Ariela Fri 07-Dec-18 17:09:20

I prefer my naturally reddish hair, but never quite manage to dye the grey out of it without it going brown or orange. So it looks a sandy reddish grey mess.

kitkatsky Fri 07-Dec-18 17:11:15

I was mousy and have gone both blonde and brunette over the years. Similar colouring to you as very pale but blue eyes rather than green. Honestly I much prefer being blonde but it is hard work to keep it up!

gamerwidow Fri 07-Dec-18 17:16:52

I had very dark brown hair before I started going grey and I used to dye it brown/black but as the white outnumbered the dark I’ve started to go lighter and am light brown/dark blonde now because it’s easier to maintain and I find is less aging as I’ve got older. Really depends on the individual though as to what looks best.

TooYoungToBeSoTired Fri 07-Dec-18 17:17:58

I went from brunette to blonde. Much prefer blonde, makes me look just a bit more youthful/ fresher (it’s a balayage though so not too harsh of a blonde).

SantyClaws Fri 07-Dec-18 17:19:24

I'm exactly the same colouring as you, and was white blonde as a child too, fading to mouse as I got older.

Have short hair so it's been many colours over the years grin it's actually natural at the moment and turns out i'm completely grey now! (41)

I def look better blonde, dark brown made me look like it'd been dug up and red just looked too fake on me. Light brown was nice, just a bit boring.

Favourite was platinum blonde/silver. Going back to that shortly.

TruffleShuffles Fri 07-Dec-18 17:21:02

I naturally have quite dark brown hair with a light olive skin tone and very light blue eyes but I was a blonde for about 12 years. At the beginning of the year I decided to start going darker gradually as the root maintenance every 4 weeks was starting to become tiresome and I also found out I was pregnant so wanted to get a more low maintenance colour. I still have pretty blonde ends but with my natural colour roots, I hate it! As soon as I get the time after I’ve had my baby I will be going back full on blonde as I just feel anything darker for me personally is just boring. Also I can get a good golden blonde colour without bleach so the condition has always been good but I do have some bleach foils and darker blonde foils put through just to break up the colour.

keely71 Fri 07-Dec-18 17:21:22

I’ve been both, and as the saying goes, blondes definitely have more fun. I was a fair bit younger then, but got far more male attention as a blonde.

Titsywoo Fri 07-Dec-18 17:22:34

I have blonde hair but would love to be a brunette - it doesn't suit my skin tone sadly. I have curly hair and always think brown curly hair looks better than blonde. Am currently thinking about going strawberry blonde though!

WendyWarthog Fri 07-Dec-18 17:27:29

I'm blonde but purely because I have too much grey now to keep up to having darker hair.

I used to have bright red hair - dyed - and I loved it but it just got harder and more expensive to keep covering up the grey roots that appeared so quickly . So I chose to go lighter and am now blonde. My roots only need doing every 8 - 10 weeks rather than every 3 or 4.

And as you start to go grey, your skin tone changes too. That's why old ladies who still use Harmony Hazel Brown - can you still buy that? - look a bit odd. Like Tom Jones did before he stopped dyeing his hair and went silver fox.

grasspigeons Fri 07-Dec-18 17:28:24

I have mousy hair and have kept it mousy.
Its a natural hair colour that matches my skin and eyes.

SerenDippitty Fri 07-Dec-18 17:34:27

Brunette. Blonde doesn’t go with my skin tone (pale with cool pinky undertones).

BettyOBarley Fri 07-Dec-18 17:38:28

I prefer brunette for cost and effort as it's my natural colour so no expensive trips to the hairdresser's for highlights every 8 weeks but I do miss being blonde, I felt so much better about myself but that's just as I felt it suited me more... although interestingly everyone else says the opposite.

Didyeeaye Fri 07-Dec-18 17:39:38

I think it depends on your features, complexion and personal preference.
I'm naturally a 'dirty' blonde with pale skin and bright blue eyes. I go between blonde which makes me look plain imo. Although I attracts 'butter wouldn't melt' comments (mostly from older people)
I prefer being a brunette as it seems to make my eyes pop and as shallow as it sounds I seem to get more compliments for my looks x

Parttimewasteoftime Fri 07-Dec-18 17:48:34

@paintingowls snap.
I colour my own so can't keep up with Blonde.

DinosApple Fri 07-Dec-18 17:57:07

I'd look ridiculous as a blonde, wrong skin tone. My hair's naturally nearly black and my skin is very pale.

Personally I think blondes tend to look younger, but it may just be that I have an 'old' face!

Tried a red when I was younger and it looked awesome - really brought out my brown eyes.

Positi Fri 07-Dec-18 18:02:50

When I was very tanned, and had my hair done to a curious shade of red, the sun eventually bleached the dye out of it and I was blonde and looked good. Generally I prefer brunette, as I think it suits my physically more and this will sound strange, but I think it suits my personality more. My hair is the colour of Kate Middletons naturally (haven't gone grey yet), and I haven't died it since that one time when I lived in Italy where I went some sort of red colour which I hated. I actually liked the blonde at the time, but I just feel brunette suits me as a person more. I don't have very sleeky lustrous hair, so it hides a multitude of sins.

Dogmum94 Fri 07-Dec-18 18:14:27

I am really pale with blue eyes. I am naturally really light blonde but started dying it dark when I was 17. I have had red, darker blonde, light brown, dark brown, pastel pink and now black hair. No matter what colour I’ve had I’ve always gone back to dark as I just prefer it.
As I’m quite pale I get a lot of comments about how it makes my eyes stand out and that I look quite striking. I just felt so pale and wishy washy with blonde hair so I’d never go back again

Ratonastick Fri 07-Dec-18 18:16:50

I was originally very dark chestnut brown with very pale skin and green eyes which is a weird combination. I went grey very young (in my teens) so have gradually dyed my hair lighter and lighter to cover the grey so now I am blonde. Surprisingly it looks much nicer and more natural than my original colouring. I think it is to do with the way your skin changes as you go grey, but I don’t really analyse it too much!

RosieRoo4 Fri 07-Dec-18 18:31:24

I have weird colouring, naturally auburn with olive skin and brown eyes, when I’m brunette it brings out the dark under my eyes and I have to pile on the make up, I’ve had half a head of highlights for years and the mix of blonde and brown suit my skin tone and features, I can also get away with wearing a lot less face paint!
Block colour looks awful on anybody over the age of 20, a mix of colours is much more flattering. If I was you I’d go medium brown with some honey lights round my face.

AnotherPidgey Fri 07-Dec-18 18:35:30

Your colouring sounds similar to mine. I think of myself as being "fair" but I'm probably only scraping that in the summer when the ends have blonded up naturally. The under side is very dark.

I can't be bothered with maintenence so haven't done anything more exciting than natural looking blonde streaks years ago. I like my natural summer tones, but in winter when I darken up, I pick out my natural red tones with a 24 wash red dye that comes out a bit brighter than mahogony as it picks up well on my natural variation.

therewillbetime Fri 07-Dec-18 21:56:54

Thank you for all of your posts and suggestions. I THINK I might stay blonde after all but maybe go for a different tone. I am looking at pictures of brunettes who look stunning but who have long, glossy hair (mine is a bit finer!) and I would probably end up looking extremely dull!

imonlyherefortheAIBU Fri 07-Dec-18 22:02:24

I have light brown hair but have been blonde for about 7 years now, went brunette once during that time and massively regretted it. Love my blonde hair

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