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Would you charge family for Xmas dinner?

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peachypetite Sat 24-Nov-18 15:40:02

In our family it's more normal that we all share out the cooking between us so contributions are split like that

PersonaNonGarter Sat 24-Nov-18 15:40:00

OMG! No! Fuck, that is horrible.

We host Christmas: buy the turkey and pudding, everyone else brings a dish eg sausages in blankets etc. That shares the cost and the work.

Cannot think of anything less hospitable than setting the menu and demanding your ‘guests’ pay for it.

user1493413286 Sat 24-Nov-18 15:38:45

I think it’s fair to be honest; why should she have to cover the cost every year when it’s likely to be £100 plus and why should she have to cover the cost of not wanting to do so much cooking.
We don’t actually give money to whoever hosts but do the equivalent really in bringing champagne/pudding/starter but maybe she doesn’t trust everyone to remember/get the right thing and wants to organise it herself.
Also £17 isn’t exactly much; maybe Christmas is breaking her financially and she can’t do it all any more

raisedbyguineapigs Sat 24-Nov-18 15:36:33

I'd allocate a dish to each person but £17 a head sounds a lot. Surely it's just a posh roast dinner! What's she buying?? Is tell your bf to come to yours!

OlennasWimple Sat 24-Nov-18 15:35:18

Personally I wouldn't - I would ask people to contribute by bringing specific contributions to the meal instead ("Uncle Paul is bringing stuffing, Auntie Lucy is doing the sprouts" type thing)

But if someone asked me for cash I'd pay - it's really expensive hosting, particularly at an expensive time of the year. When we have had Christmas meals as a big group of friends, we split the cost.

formerbabe Sat 24-Nov-18 15:34:41

It's really expensive to cater for Christmas dinner for a lot of people.

I did it one year for my better off than me in laws angry. It cost me over £400shock

If we do Christmas with my family, we will share cost of food or all bring different components of the dinner...

Don't think of it as her charging you but instead think of it as you all contributing to the cost of the food.

Staceyjas Sat 24-Nov-18 15:31:22

AIBU to think you should ask family to pay for their Xmas lunch?
My partner has just told me
Me that his mother who he's having Christmas lunch with said she wants £17 per head from him!I'm going to my family's for lunch so invited him also but he has had it there all his life with his grandparents and siblings too. she said she doesn't want to do It all from scratch and wants to Get it all pre done so it's more money, which I understand but he's gutted and feels like he wants to come to my family now. I can see it from both sides and it's hard work and can be expensive but not like she is financially destitute.

this has never happened before and he has offered to bring the dessert etc but he said handing over cash just feels wrong. As he says it's about family not money but I wanted to see what other people's opinions are ? Or if you do this.
Thanks thanks

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