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To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

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Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 09:46

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

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LagunaBubbles · 22/11/2018 09:49

What's the show? Grin

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Spamfrittersforeveryone · 22/11/2018 09:51

House?

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Nanny0gg · 22/11/2018 09:51

Why did you keep on?

What a waste of a break!

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Seniorcitizen1 · 22/11/2018 09:52

Get over it - it is petty like you say - move on

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SummerGems · 22/11/2018 09:53

You all need to grow up.

Response should have been “meh” and then you should have just gone away, googled and said no more.

Really, all this fuss on both sides over a tv programme is way ott.

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ohfourfoxache · 22/11/2018 09:53

Only on MN could the first reply be “what’s the show” Grin

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Finfintytint · 22/11/2018 09:53

Is it Dallas?

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UnderMajorDomoMinor · 22/11/2018 09:53

She is mad, but you are also a bit mad. After I’d asked the first time and she’d done her ‘trust me’ routine then I’d have said ‘right o’ and left. You sort of wound up a mad person there!

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MumNeedsANap · 22/11/2018 09:53

I can't understand why she would think you owe her an apology, that's ridiculous

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bakingdemon · 22/11/2018 09:54

Game of Thrones?

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Magair · 22/11/2018 09:54

I just want to know what the show is

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JustWhatINeededNow · 22/11/2018 09:54

Dallas 😂

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CaptainMarvelDanvers · 22/11/2018 09:55

It sounds like you’re both a little crackers.

I would just forget about the whole thing and act like it never happened.

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SassitudeandSparkle · 22/11/2018 09:55

Did this really happen? If it did, YABU OP. The fact that the other colleague has contacted you about it is a sign too!

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SummerGems · 22/11/2018 09:56

Surely everyone knows what happened in Dallas though? Well anyone who watched it anyway....

Oh btw, whatever it was, they die in season z

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The4thSandersonSister · 22/11/2018 09:56

I'm guessing Jon Snow GOT.

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Caprisunorange · 22/11/2018 09:56

You both sound bonkers 🤣

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Slytherdor · 22/11/2018 09:57

It is a great show! haha. I am wary of saying what it is in case I spoil it for someone else. Only one important person has ever died! It's none of the suggestions so far. Maybe I can post a link to it that doesn't give it away in the link title!

I am aware we need to grow up- in my defense she is 20 years older than me...but really she got my back up and I let myself get irritated which is why I stuck it out. Petty for sure... what can I say. I'm prepared to die on this hill today!

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DevonshireCreamTea · 22/11/2018 09:57

I'm sorry did this happen on your lunch break at school? The pair of you sound as bad as each other. Get a grip.

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SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 22/11/2018 09:57

I probably couldn't have handled more than two "trust me's..." and would have changed the subject, otherwise you'd be encouraging her weirdness

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RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 22/11/2018 09:58

It sounds like you’re both a little crackers.

Grin

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FFSFFSFFS · 22/11/2018 09:59

you are correct that she is batshit.

however - you are just as batshit.

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UsedtobeFeckless · 22/11/2018 09:59

Supernatural? No-one stays dead in Winchester World ... Grin
Don't apologise though, she's bonkers.

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user1471517900 · 22/11/2018 10:00

It's South Park and Kenny isn't it.

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Joboy · 22/11/2018 10:00

She was trying not to spoil a tv show for and you have now gone and spoiled for yourself .
And if it game of thrones everyone knows he did not die

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