Parcels & Neighbour

[CSIblonde]

I took in a parcel or two for upstairs neighbour. Now he knocks daily saying he's got a parcel coming can I sign. His friend (lives elsewhere) also has parcels delivered here. I'm fed up, it's every day. I wanted to ask him something the other day re our (dodgy) LL & he said 'I'm busy' & carried on upstairs, so he's only nice if he wants his parcel. I've stopped answering my door but he's knocked again, twice today which again, I ignored. AIBU to not want to be parcel service even tho I'm at home studying most days? I'm worried he'll have a go now if we see each other around.

[cheesefield]

Just refuse to take them in when the postie comes. He'll soon get the message.

[Ubertasha2]

Say sadly you don’t have enough space for others’ parcels. Or a notice saying “ Only parcels for CSIblonde to this address, please”, if he gets arsey, him you’re busy studying and can’t be disturbed unless absolutely necessary.

[NotAnotherParkingFine]

What an awkward situation for you. Carry on ignoring. Does he know if you're in or not? Is your car outside, if so can you park it elsewhere for a couple of weeks? Can you go to your local library for a while to study? I used to prefer studying in the library. It shouldn't take long and he'll move his attention to someone else. My friend is a nurse working shifts and has a sign in a plastic cover pinned to her door which says "shift worker sleeping, do not disturb". It shouldn't take long and he'll move his attention to someone else.

[CSIblonde]

Notanother
He can tell if I'm in as he's told me my kettle is really loud & he can hear it over the clanking pipes/ heating (v old Victorian converted house). I'm googling now to see if they do silent kettles! I've always kept TV very low with subtitles, as I'd hate to be a noisy neighbour. I don't have a car, no need in London.

[StoneofDestiny]

Just say you are out and can't take parcels. He can't know if you're in or out if he is out - surely?

Or tell him you don't want responsibility for other people's parcels.

[CSIblonde]

Stone
He works 2part time jobs with hours that seem to change constantly, so I'm never sure when he's around. I'll just go to the Library more til he gives up as pp suggested. I'd rather cosy up at home now it's Winter tho.

[ReanimatedSGB]

Just tell the postie (or delivery monkey) that you won't accept parcels for neighbours - or put a sign on your door saying so.

I'm planning on buying a parcel store because I get quite a few and will be getting more soon - the neighbours are currenly nice enough about it but I don't want to be a pest.

[snitzelvoncrumb]

I just wouldn't accept them from the postie.

[Gingerrogered]

You mean he expects you to get parcels when he's in? Weird.

Do the parcels have his name and house number on it or yours, or just a generic address that could be either flat?

People send things like drugs through the post but could be putting your name on or a generic one, so if it's detected in the post it can't be definitively linked to them.

[Redglitter]

Just tell him no you can't take his parcels and when the delivery arrives just refuse to take it. Don't go skulking about hiding from him. Just refuse them

[Flowerpot2005]

I'd be slightly concerned a friend is sending parcels there too.

Don't go to the library, don't buy a new kettle & next time he knocks just say I'm sorry but I can't take your parcels any longer due to the amount of times I'm being disturbed when I'm studying. You need to make other arrangements. Tell delivery drivers the same.

Put a do not disturb sign on your door too. He'll soon get the message.

[Janedoughnut]

ReanimatedSGB delivery monkey

Seriously? What a nasty way to refer to someone.

[MaluCachu]

I thought that too Jane.

[BuggerandBalls]

Tell him you have headphones on during the day so you can concentrate without being disturbed; you won’t necessarily hear the door so can’t agree to take parcels? (Also means you can ignore when he comes knocking).

[CSIblonde]

Ginger
He's in & out all day with 2 local part time delivery jobs. His non English speaking Mum is in 24/7.She never answers the front door or their door to anyone. His parcels are addressed to him/his flat. It worries me his friend has letters that look like bank statements & other parcels daily here too. Is that legal?

[onemouseplace]

My upstairs neighbours actually have a note on their Amazon account to try me if they aren't in - at one point they were getting deliveries daily while they were out at work, and I got mightily pissed off. It has calmed down a bit recently (and they are great neighbours in other ways) but I was pretty pissed off.

They also seem to have all manner of bills to their flat in names that don't live there as far as I know - I suspect they might have friends using their address to get proof of address for things like bank accounts.

[SpottingTheZebras]

The next time the postie knocks politely say you won’t be taking in anything else for him or anyone else who does not live in your flat.

The next time he tries to talk to you about taking in parcels say you will be out from time to time and also too busy studying a lot of the time when you are home to be distracted.

And repeat, every time you are asked by either. It won’t be long and it will stop.

[KeysHairbandNotepad]

Stop being such a pushover! Just tell the delivery person that you won't take neighbours packages. You really don't have to do it you know.

[Returnofthesmileybar]

Next time just say "I'm busy" and close the door, if he stops you say "look I tried to talk to you about something recently and you were really rude, so no i won't take parcels for someone who is only nice when they want something. Tell mammy to answer the door"

[NRPDad]

Tell delivery man no thanks. They will leave slip for the neighbour to collect or arrange re-delivery or put it in a 'safe' (supposedly) location.

Neighbour will soon get the message and stop bothering you. If this is your only real interaction with him then no harm done to the relationship.

If he does get in a mood about it suggest that his mother answer the door. He can tell her on the days he is expecting a parcel...

[Aprilsinparis]

CFs!

[Weetabixandshreddies]

Just because you are at home when he knocks it doesn't mean you will be in when the postman knocks does it? If he is in then he can take his own parcel. If the postman knocks just dont answer. If he asks later explain that you had to pop out and sadly missed his delivery. Then you haven't actually refused have you?