My job means I’m not allowed to take annual leave over the festive period and it is our busiest time of year - I will be at work on Xmas eve day, then again Xmas day night, so just getting back home is difficult. This year is the first Xmas DH and I will have as a married couple (no kids yet), last year he came to my parents with me (his parents were invited but declined) so this year I agreed to come to his parents for Xmas.
I was planning on going back to my family for Boxing Day but now my parents and brother/aunts/cousin/uncle have announced they’re spending the whole festive period in the States visiting distant relatives. This obviously means I won’t see any of them at all at any point. My cousin has come out and said that there’s no need to spend Xmas away from them all unless kids are in the picture and she wouldn’t spend Xmas with her partner’s family even if they were married unless they had children. Mum says they’re just taking the opportunity to see them as I won’t be there on Xmas day anyway. I’m upset because they could choose any other time of year and I could go with them, but I do not have that option at all with it being a time of year when I’m not allowed to take holiday. I just thought it wasn’t fair to have DH have Xmas away from his parents but then refuse to return the favour the following year when I’d been invited. I really feel like my family are trying to prove a point and punish me for not seeing them. This post isn’t going to change anything, they’re going and I can’t even if I changed my mind, just interested to see what others think, maybe I’m being unfair.
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Jabbythehutt · 20/11/2018 11:27
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