Hi all,
This is going to sound ridiculous coming from a 30 year old woman but I'm being what I would class a bullied at university. I don't know what to do about it.
I'm a mature student on a course with 90% mature.
I have been doing it for some time because I have taken breaks to have and raise my 4 children.
I rejoined a new cohort this year after over a year out. I knew I would be the new girl but I thought that due to the nature of the degree and because the majority of people are mature it would be fine and easy to build relationships.
In the beginning loads of people were kind and I felt welcome. I put myself out there and it paid off.
Now though for some reason some of the women have been alienating me from the group. To make matters worse we are doing a class project with a shared grade.
Some of the issues are;
I tried talking about my kids and other stuff that the other people were talking about during break but no one would talk to me and at one point they actually got up and walked away.
I went to the coffee shop with a few of the girls and they told me they were going to the loo and to wait there, so I got us a table, I waited and waited and eventually watched them grab coffee and walk away. They got a table outside. They knew I was waiting. They could see me sat there.
One person in particular was rolling her eyes when I was asking for clarification on a topic and said in a very harsh tone that I should read the books, I had but I didn't get a point.
They created a group for a presentation and deleted all my work and would not take on board my input or suggestions and two girls did my part of the presentation and wouldn't allow me to contribute. They must have been having private chats or meetings and not inviting me as I could not keep up and they did and talked about things I had no clue we had agreed or discussed.
They eat lunch together in the canteen but I ask to join and it's always "sorry no room" or they pretend to not see me sat alone.
Reading that back I can see how petty and childish that all sounds and I'm a grown up woman and a professional so I just need to get on with it and not let it bother me but for some reason it does. I can handle most things and I'm pretty laid back but I feel fed up.
I don't feel able to go to my tutor being so petty at my age and plus I can just ignore it for the short time I have left.
I haven't told anyone irl about this, including my dh, it's not that bad but I do dread university now and I spend many hours a week there isolated and it's hard to ignore.
Never thought I'd be going through this after high school.
Aibu to let this get to me and to have a secret cry about this
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Being bullied as a mature student
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ihateit · 14/11/2018 22:13
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