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To find it really distasteful to take photos of your children’s gifts?

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StarfishSandwich Sun 11-Nov-18 21:29:50

I’ve noticed a trend on Facebook for mums to post photos the night before their child’s birthday of a big pile of wrapped up gifts. Or just as bad, after the event posting a picture of a big pile of opened gifts.

Since when does anyone want to see pictures of presents? It feels really tacky and showy.

Flowerpot2005 Sun 11-Nov-18 21:33:12

Depends, they may just think it looks really special & want to share it.

Aeroflotgirl Sun 11-Nov-18 21:34:20

I think it is in bad taste and quite braggy. Whatever happened to a couple of pictures of the kid opening gifts. What about people who cannot afford to give as many presents. Unfortunately with social media you will get pictures such as these, the Christmas ones with the tree with loads of presents under it.

EmeraldShamrock Sun 11-Nov-18 21:35:39

I usually take a photo and WhatsApp to the family. I am not on FB. I agree it is showing off a bit especially the Christmas ones with piles for each DC.

CarolDanvers Sun 11-Nov-18 21:36:30

Don’t do it then and try not to get too worked up about what others choose to do smile

jaseyraex Sun 11-Nov-18 21:37:24

I can't get worked up about what people choose to post on their own social media tbh. Some people probably are doing it to show off, some people probably do it because they post every little thing, some people do it to show family etc. Unfollow/unfriend them if it bothers you.

madmomma Sun 11-Nov-18 21:38:10

I agree but I don't think people necessarily mean it in a braggy way. Makes me cringe but some people can't take a shit without putting it on fb

DuggeesWooOOooggle Sun 11-Nov-18 21:38:30

I find it a bit weird - 'look at all these things I have bought my child'. )Subtext: aren't I a good parent?) Who else other than the recipient child gives the smallest, shiniest of shits what you give your children for their birthdays or Christmas?

I know a few people on Facebook who do this but I just hmm and scroll by.

mumof2sarah Sun 11-Nov-18 21:38:33

I take pictures for their memory boxes but I don't post on social media. I'm paranoid someone will see and think oh easy target to rob lol.

I think people do it for different reasons, some probably to be like "look how many presents I've bought", others because they like to share everything, others because it might be a way to show some family members, some do it because it's what others do, some because they feel proud of what they've been able to do.

I don't have a problem with anyone sharing it, if they want to share it then so be it. I say that about anything on social media, it's upto that person what they want on their account and if it's something I don't agree with I just unfriend them or mute them or scroll on by. Each to their own x

ClaryFray Sun 11-Nov-18 21:39:07

It's memories. They grow up too soon, and I wanna remmeber it all. Coming from a women who is suffering infertility which messes with my mental health sharing my child's like helps me, I get to look back at happy tones and not feel so like a failure.

Not everything has a selfish reason behind it. You don't know people's reasons.

Sequinsglitter Sun 11-Nov-18 21:39:22

I share picture of mine opening their presents but just a picture of presents seems a bit odd

GoldenMcOldie Sun 11-Nov-18 21:40:31

Could it just be that they feel happy and want to share the moment?

StarfishSandwich Sun 11-Nov-18 21:43:44

I totally get memories, sharing the moment etc. But what exactly is so special about a big pile of stuff in wrapping paper and a couple of balloons or whatever?

Surely the bit worth doctumenting is the look on little Timmy’s face when he opens the game he wanted or Samantha trying out her new roller skates at the park?

Stripyhoglets1 Sun 11-Nov-18 21:43:49

The kids like to see the pictures and like to look back on previous years memories as well. I like seeing pics of friends and family celebrating/opening gifts. It's not like the 1970s where you only took a few pics on a film camera why wouldn't you take more these days?

masterandmargarita Sun 11-Nov-18 21:46:05

Yanbu it is rather braggy

someonekillbabyshark Sun 11-Nov-18 21:46:16

@StarfishSandwich I'm no longer on FB but it did always make me laugh seeing the HUGE pile of presents people would post and then the next day the kids opening all the sh*te it got from Poundland and home bargains for Christmas / birthday!!

ILoveDolly Sun 11-Nov-18 21:47:53

Personally I hate it and would never do it. It's tacky. You can defend it all you like, it is tacky. Do it by all means, if you love it, my opinion is just my opinion. But, ugh!

Persiangirl Sun 11-Nov-18 21:55:45

I think it shows no regards for those that struggle. It’s always the same people that go OTT for each and every possible occasion, I scroll on by.

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Sun 11-Nov-18 22:12:15

Most families have photos or even a vhs tape! in a drawer or somewhere of their children opening all their gifts.

What's different is pictures of the pile the night before and the putting it on social media.

It doesn't bother me because social media isn't actually a true reflection on people's lives it's the the representation they want others to see but also because don't look because I don't care.
My family and my Christmas Day is what matters to me, why would I waste it looking at other people's lives online.

Muffin17 Sun 11-Nov-18 22:13:09

Totally agree OP- very boastful

ThePinkOcelot Sun 11-Nov-18 22:17:40

It’s tacky and totally unnecessary! A bit like everything people put on FB! I mean, who gives a shit?!

Boohissmiss Sun 11-Nov-18 22:19:37

Persiangirl how does it show no regards? It’s no different to people sharing pictures of their holiday to Florida when the kids up the street can’t afford to go to the local town. Or someone posting pictures of themselves wearing designer clothes when others can only afford Primark . We are all different and most of the time others have more .

Lifesnotfair Sun 11-Nov-18 22:23:24

Completely 100% agree with you op.
This is nothing about the joy of seeing your child with a gift they desperately wanted and are happy and grateful to receive. The child would be in the photo in this instance.
This is about Braggy consumerism at its worst.
Look at me I can get my child this pile of presents.
Look at me look at me look at me.
And stuff anyone who may see this that is struggling to provide for their family for whatever reason.
It’s just all me me me

StoppinBy Sun 11-Nov-18 22:25:33

I always feel slightly guilty on xmas morning when my kids have like two or three presents to open and my friends post up what looks like a whole room of gifts lol but they are not doing it to be braggy at all, they are doing it because they are excited about the coming day and they are the kind of people who post lots of photos of everything.

The guilt wears off in a day or two and I know that it is ok that we only do a few presents and some other people do lots and I also know that my children don't care as they don't know any different.

sophisticatedsarcasm Sun 11-Nov-18 22:27:50

I’m one of them parents, 🙋🏼 And quite honestly don’t give a shit what you think 😊 so what if I’m happy my kids are another year older, it’s memories, it’s not about the presents about being thankful they’ve made it another year, life is to short and I wanna remember it as best possible for the time we do have. I work hard and am glad I can give my kids a day to remember. My mum did it for me and my brother (filming and lots of pictures) I’d rather my kids got up and see shit loads of balloons and some presents than the parents arguing and no one bothering. I wanna share with my family that one of my favourite people in the whole world has a special day, that’s what I live for, so it’s tacky, So are a lot of things people post on Facebook. Just get over yourselves and scroll down if you don’t wanna see it.

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