To ask if you have children how often do you go out socialising with friends ?

[Peachsnowpop]

As the question says....

[Fatasfook]

Couple of times a year

[SharkSave]

On my own its probably twice a month

[hiptobeasquare]

On my own with my friends probably twice a month or so.

[Want2bSupermum]

Normally 2-3 times a month but that's because at this stage my work and personal life have merged. I'm often going out with people I'm friends with too and it's a work function we are attending.

[Want2bSupermum]

Sorry 2-3 times a week not month. I'm tired, from going out so much. I had a great night in with the kids watching home alone, making our own popcorn creations. Love nights like this.

[Bubbaduck]

Maybe once or twice a month with friends. Go out more regularly with DH as the DC are either at their dad's for the weekend or my mum will look after them for us.

[Aquamarine1029]

When my children were little, rarely ever. That's what happens when you have children because they come before your "need" for a social life. I am so sick and tired of parents whinging on and on about their inability to go out like they did before children. If going out is so bloody important don't have children.

[Seniorschoolmum]

To their house for a coffee or a glass of wine, maybe once a week.

Or do you mean out out, after dark, on licensed premises . If this, 3 or 4 times a year.

[Birdie69]

Mine are bigger now, but when they were young I'd say almost never. I didn't prioritise my social needs over my kids , ever.

[SharkSave]

Mine get left with their dad while I go out, and most of the time are in bed when I go. Can't really see how that's not prioritising them

[tomhazard]

Once every 2-3 months. I find the demands of a job plus 2 children and a husband who travels means I have time for bugger all else. I only have like 2 friends anyway

[EmUntitled]

I go out with friends about once a month, DD (18 months) is looked after by DH. I also do volunteer at a Brownie Pack each week and leave her with DH then too, although I'm not sure that counts as "social life"!

As a couple we go out once every few months and my mum babysits. She has has DD overnight a few times so we could have an evening out and a night off.

I don't think I'm prioritising it over her. She's with her other parent most times and she loves visiting her Nanna.

[BreakYourselfAgainstMyStones]

I have friends over or go to theirs about once a week, we go out maybe once a month.

That's not me prioritising anything above my children, I am a single parent with 5 children, I work hard and run my house all by myself and it's bloody hard. A few hours of fun once a week keeps me sane.

[BitchQueen90]

Once a month ish. I'm a single parent but DS stays overnight with his dad 2 or 3 nights a month.

[Hanuman]

Around once a month. We also go out as a couple around once or twice a month.

We don't have family who can babysit so we use babysitters - we have two who we have got to know and trust. Our son seems absolutely fine with this! He is 2

[BiscuitDrama]

If I had good friends locally I could imagine seeing them once a week maybe. As it is, probably once a month, to new friend group things.

[TipseyTorvey]

I don't think going out socialising means you shouldn't have had children. What a strange matryr like comment. I suppose that's in line with the other thread about a mother shouldn't leave her child's side until its three. Meh. Anyway when they were tiny I probably went out 3 or 4 times a year, now they're bigger and I can explain about babysitters I go out 2 or 3 times a month. Sometimes just me and my mates and sometimes with DH either alone or with other friends.

[CupoBlood]

Every other weekend as no dc, when they are here never.

[VickieCherry]

No kids yet, but I rarely go out 'after dark' with friends now because all my friends have children. It's fine. We go to each others' houses or have coffee/lunch, or go for a walk.

That's normal at this stage in life, I think? I did more than enough drinking and partying when I was in my teens and 20s, I don't really miss it.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

When the dc were small, once a week. We had a babysitter permanently booked on a Friday evening. We’d arrange to see friends or go to cinema or a party or the theatre. Or just go out for dinner by ourselves, but quite often back home by 9.00 if we were knackered. It was as really important to us to have that couple time outside the home, even if it was just a few hours.

[GreenFieldsofFrance]

i go in phases. Don't go out for months and then get motivated and book in nights out with mates so i'm out every week for a few weeks. Do all that, think i can't be bothered now for a while and then don't go out for months again! Probably across a year i go out 10 times.

[Elllicam]

Maybe every 3-4 months. I have 3 5 and under though. I also get out with DH every couple of months.

[Escolar]

On my own and leave the kids with DH - say once a month on average.

With DH and get a babysitter - say once every two months.

I think once you have kids you find different ways of socialising. Eg we sometimes have another family over for supper, kids play together while adults chat and drink wine. No need to get a babysitter.

[Andcake]

All my friends don’t know each other or hang out in a group so I probably squeeze in one night out a month if that so it means I see people once or twice s year in reality

[wendz86]

On average about once a month but will be about 3 times in Oct .