Psychological advice/ DS 6, very small penis

[somanybloodysticks]

I'm here for traffic but happy to be redirected to a more appropriate talk area if there is one?

Basically my DS, now 6, has a v small penis. We've been to docs when he was younger becausd he also had problems with urine infections and his foreskin. We've asked about the size a few times and been told, yes its small but its within a range of normal (its at the very bottom of that range) and it may hopefully become more proportionate as he gets older and / or hits puberty.

We accept this and aren't pushing for further investigation or treatment, mainly because we don't want him to get a complex about it. I.E. if we make a big fuss it becomes a big deal / medical thing.

For the same reason we have never spoken to him about the size, although we are a very open family nudity wise and he washes his willy every night, because of the foreskin problems he has had.

Anyway, he told me yesterday that he has had some comments about the size now. I tried to be relaxed and 'well we all come in different shapes and sizes love' but my heart absolutely broke for him.

I know he is going to get this a lot and as he gets older it will become less about general curiosity and more about teasing him.

I really want to prepare him for this, in a positive way, in advance so that he is ready and, hopefully, strong enough not to let it get to him / stay with him into adulthood.

So, Im wondering if anyone has any experience of this, or any knowledge or advice. Or if there are any organisations that anyone knows of that give parenting / psychology advice for kids!?

Thanks in advance!

[somanybloodysticks]

I have restarted this thread with a new name because I realised the previous one was odd / misleading.

[JenBarber]

[zenasfuck]

Who has even seen your 6 yo's penis to comment on the size ?

[paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking]

Why the biscuit ? I have similar concerns with one of my DC. I've never posted because I feared that type of reaction, although so far its only been his sister that's made a comment.

Sorry OP no advice as I'm exactly where you are.

[somanybloodysticks]

Other 6 year olds when they pee!!!

[somanybloodysticks]

Good to know Im not alone Paddling

I was also wondering why the biscuit?

[MrsMWA]

All you need is here www.hypospadiasuk.co.uk/emotional-consequences/ if you are a troll then shame on you. Some of us have to battle with this very difficult issue.

[AjasLipstick]

Anyway, he told me yesterday that he has had some comments about the size now. I tried to be relaxed and 'well we all come in different shapes and sizes love' but my heart absolutely broke for him.

Who has seen a 6 year old's penis aside from immediate family?

[Lasagnefordinner]

Maybe really going the extra mile to boost his confidence in general so he develops a thick skin so to speak may prepare him for anything. Extra curricular activities like drama, sports, music, scouts, cadets, modelling even? etc. So if he is a very confident boy that grows into an extremely confident man he will have the attitude that it really doesn’t matter to him and if others care he won’t give a fuck anyway.

[Babymamamama]

Sorry but doesn't the primary school have individual cubicles in the loos? All children need privacy.

[tiredgirly]

I am gonna report this thread

Don't infants toilets have cubicles with wcs, not communal urinals?

[Magicpaintbrush]

I'm a bit confused as to why the OP is getting these negative comments. It's perfectly possible that other children might see his bits when he's going for a pee in a urinal or something isn't it? Correct me if I'm wrong about that.

I'm unsure why a biscuit is necessary. The OP sounds like a genuinely concerned parent to me.

[paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking]

Who has seen a 6 year old's penis ? Really, have you been in a swimming pool changing room or a boys primary bathroom. Ok they are calming down by 6 but they aren't know for their shyness! And I assume the OP was talking about other children commenting. And as my DS's sister has pointed out that DS3 has a very small penis compared to DS2 then I would imagine its not beyond the realm of possibility that other children could comment too.

[Rebecca36]

Your son's penis will grow as he gets older, op. You've been reassured it's not abnormal in any way. A child's penis may be small now but could well be quite big when he is a man so don't worry.

However I'm wondering who has seen it to comment!

[Kittykat93]

Find it odd that he's already had comments about size at that age! 16 maybe but I wouldn't expect it at 6.

[GeoffreysCat]

It's a shame that someone who seems like a genuinely concerned parent can't post about a sensitive subject without being accused of being a troll.

OP - no advice I'm afraid but you are doing the right thing in not making a big deal of it. You need to try and work on boosting his self esteem so that he feels confident in other areas of his life particularly about his physicality so sports would be good. Your GP might be able to help with counselling suggestions if you feel like that's something he needs further down the line.

[tiggerkid]

I think it's a bit of an overkill to be concerned with the 6 year old's size. OP, please don't take any offence to my response as I don't want to be offensive but I would probably wait and see if your concern really does develop into an issue later on. A 6 year old is a very young kid, and I can't envisage what can possibly be done about this at that age. As long as you don't believe he has serious health issues that can be clearly connected to the size of his willy, I'd leave it alone as you are risking creating psychological issues in his mind.

If kids at school persist in laughing or making comments about his willy, I'd talk to the school and tell them your son is feeling bullied and/or harassed. That should put a stop to it fairly quickly.

[somanybloodysticks]

Thanks MrsMWA! Thats so helpful! I am most definitely not a troll!!!

Thanks Lasagne he is super confident and we do lots of stuff like that so it's great to hear that seems like a good route!

PositiveVibz your name name is not reflected in your comment . You can refuse to believe it if you like but, err, its true! Fwiw I dont think bodies are 'creepy'.

Babymama they have urinals like most boys loos!? Also him and friends spend lots of times outdoors / camping etc and are fond of an outdoor pee!

Peoples reactions to this thread are odd!?

[somanybloodysticks]

Just to super clarify - its other kids his age who have commented and he has mentioned this to me!

[somanybloodysticks]

Thanks for the reassuring / useful comments!

To those who are shocked and appalled... I think its those kind of (genitals are shameful / weird) attitudes that cause people to grow up with psychological issues around them!

[LaurieFairyCake]

No one thinks genitals are weird

But we get loads of weird trolls who get off on talking about tiny penises

[Welshmaiden85]

No advice OP but just to say troll hunting comments are horrible. You have my sympathies. My sons school has urinals from nursery age (3) and don’t know why people are disbelieving you.

[FingerLickingGod]

Do we really need to know the details about how often he washes it?