Been with DH for 15 years, married for 8, we have two children - 2.5 and 3 months.
All our time together we’ve been talking about having three children. It’s always been what we both wanted.
We had to have IVF to have our two DC (there is a very low chance we can get pregnant naturally) and I had awful pregnancies - I had HG in both of them.
Last night we had a conversation about birth control and what to do as I’m going to combination feed soon... and DH announced he wants the snip!!! I’m gobsmacked as this is a huge turn around. I’m happy to not have IVF again (we just can’t afford it) but assumed we’d keep the door open by just seeing what happened, as three children was always the plan.
He says he’s happy with the two we’ve got now and just doesn’t want another, he can’t explain why he just says “I just don’t want another child”.
I feel like the future we’ve planned has just gone up in smoke!! I feel so sad and shocked by this.
It’s not even like I’d like another right now, but I want to keep the possibility there... but it’s a hard no from him.
I don’t know what to do.
We’ve even talked in the past about adoption if we didn’t want to do IVF & pregnancy again but apparently that’s a hard no too now - he just has changed his mind and wants no more children.
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Beeperbird · 18/10/2018 07:25
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