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Am I breaking the fashion rules of weddings

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Rosskidsmum Wed 17-Oct-18 14:03:39

I need help, I don’t know if I’ve massively over thought this now or am I going to be hunted down and killed by the wedding fashion mafia?!
Went shopping for my DF cousins wedding this weekend, as it’s now going to be too warm for the suit I was originally going to wear I have purchased cute checked tan tapered trousers and a cream basic Tshirt to go with paired with tan and cream heels I was happy with my look... then I read that you Cannot wear, cream ivory or white to someone else’s wedding! I would never dream of wearing a cream dress to someone else’s wedding but a tshirt will be ok surely? I’ve been out today and panic purchased a black top and blazer instead, but it really doesn’t look as nice 😞 am I massively over thinking this or are people like to pass comment on my colour choice, I would hate to offend anyone.

shearwater Wed 17-Oct-18 15:47:21

Sounds great. Would be great with a cream or tan trilby/fedora hat.

Willow2017 Wed 17-Oct-18 15:49:31

Ttalking about weddings meghan annouced her baby news at eugines wedding
Actually she didnt.
Can we stop all the Meghan bashing now? Its pathetic.

A cream top and beige trousers would upstage the bride? Oh ffs!

RosiePosies Wed 17-Oct-18 15:53:17

Sounds like a lovely outfit, really want to see it!

shearwater Wed 17-Oct-18 15:54:31

Meghan and Harry told the main members of the family quietly, it was not a big upstaging announcement. I imagine people there had started to speculate as people did here and they could hardly lie about it.

StairMonster Wed 17-Oct-18 15:55:05


GoingNuckingFuts Wed 17-Oct-18 15:55:44

as others have said, as long as you dont turn up in a cream white or ivory dress then your good, if youre that worried send a picture of you in the outfit to the bride and ask if she minds you wearing it becuase its a cream top, and the no cream/white/ivory rule. x

bringincrazyback Wed 17-Oct-18 15:58:39

It's not going to look 'bridal' so it's fine IMHO.

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops Wed 17-Oct-18 16:25:59

You won't look bridal. Far from it, don't worry!


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DanSullivan Wed 17-Oct-18 16:42:28

Sounds good to me. Could you add a jazzy statement necklace to break it up a bit?

Rosskidsmum Wed 17-Oct-18 16:42:49

It’s all from next apart from the shoes, I can’t find the blouse

Rosskidsmum Wed 17-Oct-18 16:43:20

I was thinking that!

Rosskidsmum Wed 17-Oct-18 16:44:39

Statement necklace I like the sound of the fidora too smile

Stonebake Wed 17-Oct-18 16:44:54

Yeah that isn’t bridal. If anything it might be a little bit casual, but that totally depends on the flavour of wedding.

I love trousers to weddings though. So much more comfortable. Next wedding I go to I want to do the full Cara Delevingne top hat and tails! Don’t think I can pull it off though. I’d make it look bonkers sad.

TheDowagerCuntess Wed 17-Oct-18 16:55:28

It's absolutely fine.

If you're a bride who would mind - have you really nothing better to be doing on one of the best days of your life? Nobody, but nobody will think someone in checkered trousers and a cream satin top is upstaging you.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie Wed 17-Oct-18 16:59:06

I genuinely don't understand why it's frowned upon to wear a white dress as a guest. Everyone knows who the bride is! I wouldn't give a shit if a guest wore a white dress to my wedding.

ShalomJackie Wed 17-Oct-18 17:06:13

Sorry but I think it will look like you have come straight from work

Stonebake Wed 17-Oct-18 17:17:22

I don’t get it either nigel, but it’s hust one of those traditions I suppose. Wouldn’t bother me, but it’s equally no skin off my nose NOT to wear white / cream to weddings. So I don’t.

Why should it bother anyone if someone wore something not in keeping with tradition to any place or event? Eg hot pants to the office or to a christening? I mean, why not? No good reason, it just isn’t seen as appropriate.

shearwater Thu 18-Oct-18 05:46:11

"Not wearing cream/white/ivory" isn't a tradition though, not at any wedding I've been at, it's just made up by socially awkward, insecure, petit bourgeois posters on MN, probably the same ones who launder their towels and linen daily.

Loads of people wore cream and ivory dresses at my wedding and looked lovely, I was just looking at the photos the other day. I never heard or bothered about it until MN, and I shall continue to ignore it!

LynetteScavo Thu 18-Oct-18 06:12:10

"*Not wearing cream/white/ivory" isn't a tradition though, not at any wedding I've been at, it's just made up by socially awkward, insecure, petit bourgeois posters on MN, probably the same ones who launder their towels and linen daily.*
This Two people wore cream shift dresses to my wedding 19 years ago. Both were totally appropriate.

Stonebake Thu 18-Oct-18 09:19:01

Nah, I’d heard of no white / cream at weddings a very long time ago. Maybe it depends on the area you live in or your particular friendship group.

Do you also think Halloween is a modern American import and made up holiday by any chance?

Stonebake Thu 18-Oct-18 09:24:42

And, tbh, even if it is made up by petit bourgeois mumsnetters, (lovely classist phrase you chose there btw - they don’t even use that phrase in Paris anymore), I still won’t risk it personally. It’s no skin off my nose to wear a different colour is it? If someone might not like me wearing it on their wedding day, I tend to steer clear. I don’t care how pwetty my dwess is enough to risk annoying someone.

I didn’t care what anyone wore to my wedding btw, including bridesmaids, but I still have the common sense to wear something other than white at someone else’s wedding. It’s a bit self absorbed to insist that I must wear cream because I want to when it isn’t even my wedding.

Stonebake Thu 18-Oct-18 09:30:10

This is (American) Glamour. If you google “can I wear white to a wedding?”, you’ll find a tonne of articles saying pretty much no. It’s not “just on MN”.

shearwater Thu 18-Oct-18 11:25:49

Safe to say it's probably some crap that blew in from the US then.

It would be difficult for me to care less what fashion magazines say. They talk a lot of shit in order to make women feel insecure and sell you stuff.

GertrudeTheGuineapig Thu 18-Oct-18 11:45:20

Ah sorry. Nobody is right but you. I’ll forget I ever had an opinion now. Thank you for correcting me.

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