AIBU to object to my DF (friend) referring to her baby as 'dead baby'?
Her baby was diagnosed a few weeks ago with DS and, as you can probably tell by the thread title, has decided to abort (but hasn't yet) and keeps referring to the baby as 'dead'.
I'm in bits for her, I can't imagine what she is/ about to go through, and trying to be as supportive as I can but I'm finding it really difficult when she keeps using these words.
This friend unfortunately has form for deliberately making outrageous statements, but I do wonder whether on this occasion there's more to it and perhaps she is subconsciously trying to ready herself for what is about to come.
I think one (minor) reason why I'm finding it difficult is because her decision conflicts with what I believe mine would be however, I appreciate not everybody has the same circumstamces in life or feels the same but everyone absolutely has the right to choose.
I'm trying so hard to be understanding but I nearly lost my own baby, post birth, not long ago and I'm finding her choice of words quite provocative and triggering of a time when I thought I was going to have to go through the trauma of telling everyone I knew that my new born baby had actually died. Unfortunately I've had quite bad PTSD following this time and although my friend is aware of these struggles I know it's not going to be on the top of her mind at the moment and I certainly don't want to turn things round and make it all about me.
Can anyone help/ give me some advice? I want to be as supportive as possible but I'm really struggling with this and I don't want to be a bad friend at such a sensitive time.
-I am so sorry to anyone who has been through anything similar to what has been mentioned in this post.-
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AIBU to object to DF referring to their baby as... (TRIGGER WARNING: CONCERNS DOWNS AND ABORTION)
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SadandConflicted · 11/10/2018 14:15
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