Wedding Drama

[Namechanger86745]

I’ve namechanged as this is very outing.

A close friend of mine has got engaged and has asked me to be bridesmaid. I, of course, said yes and have been happily helping her plan. She’s had some bridezilla moments but they are mainly with her MIL who is a bit crazy.

So the problem is with the bridesmaids’ dresses. I’m a firm believer of wearing whatever the bride wants you to. She has also asked us all to pay for our dresses but she told us upfront when she asked us to be bridesmaids that we would need to so we are fine with this (within reason). There are 6 of us and we all absolutely hate the dress she has picked. She has found it online with her DM and it is honestly the fuglest dress I have ever seen.

www.kissydress.co.uk/product/orange-organza-ruffles-sweetheart-floor-length-ball-gown

We’ve decided to tell her how we feel and drew straws. I obviously drew the short straw. So AIBU to tell her that we do not want to wear and pay for these monstrosities? How do I do that without upsetting her? She’s so stressed and I don’t want to add to that.

She wants them in yellow btw. Not a flattering colour on any of us

[nornironrock]

Is it a Disney themed wedding?

Sorry - I've nothing further to add apart form I hope it goes well, and she can see sense.

Perhaps a gentle reminder that she will still be looking at the photos in 20, 30, 40 years....

[uggmum]

F**k me. It is hideous.
You cannot possibly wear it.
What is she thinking!

[dotty12345]

Oh dear, they’re bloody vile! Not really sure how to advise you to talk to your friend but I think you must!

[TidyDancer]

I don't know how you go about that conversation but they are seriously hideous! You can't wear that!

[stellabird]

It looks like something out of "Big Fat Gypsy Weddings" !

Just in case this isn't a windup, yes I'd say that all six bridesmaids hate it and are not prepared to pay for it. Sure it may stress her, but she is stressing you by telling you what to wear with no consultation. Grit your teeth and just do it.

[AnguaUberwaldIronfoundersson]

Shit, £144 for THAT?!?

If she was paying, I'd suck it up but why should you spend £144 on something you're going to wear once and then throw in the bin. That's before you have spent out on the hen do, wedding accommodation, shoes, underwear, hair, make up, drinks on the day and other things.

[cardiffqueen]

Whoa!!!! If I was size 10, I think I'd enjoy wearing something as ridiculous as that, it's funny. I would want to pay £140 for the privilege though!

[ArtemisWeatherwax]

Lol.

Just that, as your response. Lol.

I mean, I love the dress, it reminds me of my childhood Ladybird Cinderella book. It's beautiful. But I'd never wear it, or force someone else to buy it and wear it. In public.

[Bambamber]

Holy shit that is an awful dress! Good luck

[Fairypiggy]

Also not very practical for six brisesmaids. Those dresses look like they will take up loads of room.

[Fairypiggy]

^bridemaids!

[Aprilshowersnowastorm]

Just let it go.....

[Cloud9Until6am]

Jeez it's £144!! That would be the clincher for me. Can you all afford it!?

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

I think if she was paying I'd just suck it up. But if it's your money I think you get a say, it's unreasonable to make others shell out on something they hate. She can't have it both ways imo (not financially contributing but deciding what you wear). I think you should agree a colour / type of dress with her and then go and find one yourselves

[wafflyversatile]

On the bright side it could have been the yellow.

Maybe come up with some alternatives before you talk to her?

[LagunaBubbles]

Yellow? Is it a Sesame Street themed wedding because you will all look like Big Bird!!

[Hoppinggreen]

I would wear it for the Lols
( but then I don’t have to so I can say that)

[Harleypuppy]

I'd wear it. Reminds me of Halloween pumpkins. 🎃

[fanfan18]

OMG, that dress!!!

No way! She has got to be joking.

I'd just say no.

YANBU.

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

And yeah everything about that dress is grim! No one will wear it again

[LagunaBubbles]

Waffly it is the yellow bridezilla wants them in!

[Namechanger86745]

It has crossed my mind that she might be trying to wind us up. But she’s so stressed at the moment so she doesn’t have much of a sense of humour in regards to her wedding.

[HouseworkIsASin10]

You pay you choose. Tell her to pick a colour and if she wants short/long style, then leave it to you all to pick similar dresses to each other.

[TheTrapDoor]

Yanbu, it's hideous!

[BlueEyedPersephone]

You could tell her that you all assumed the dress would be able to be worn for other occasions, this can't, therefore is too pricy and grim. Find a coast or monsoon that you all like and propose as a solution ?