DH works with young people and in one of his roles he works alongside 19/20/21 year olds, although he is senior to them, they do a similar supervisory role of younger teenagers (think a summer camp). Obviously he spends a good few weeks with these people and builds up friendships, he's a fun kinda guy with low inhibitions so has always been popular. When he was younger he was one of the best looking in his year group and all his female friends were the super pretty popular type. I have no issue with that because I am flattered he picked me when he could have had his pick!
Now we are in our early thirties and I notice a lot of the young people he has worked with in the last are now late teens and early twenties. Ditto for the older ones. He has a lot of these - particularly females - on his Facebook. I think girls tend to add more than boys naturally as I think girls form stronger bonds with people if I generalise. But so many of these girls are the popular, stunning type he would have been friends with and fancied when he was younger.
He has a duty of care and I believe he remains professional but AIBU to feel a bit hmmm 🤔 about it? He's still a man and he could easily develop a crush/thing with a twenty one year old and it not be all that abnormal! When I was younger I would have questioned how he knew, and why he had, each and every one of those girls on his FB but I'm older now and a lot more chilled and less paranoid but some of these girls are popping up on my 'People You May Know' and it is playing on my mind.
In his defence he is a brilliant father and attentive husband. I have no reason to believe he has done anything wrong. He is of a 'bantery' nature - before the term banter was commonly known I would say he was flirty but he would be the same with a 70 year old man IYSWIM!
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LateLatte · 24/09/2018 11:00
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