Ok, so I have a stash of money in the house, from birthday cards/babysitting money etc.
Husband asks if he can have some to use for something for himself, and says he will pay it back into my account. I say sure, no problem, just make sure it goes back in to my account. He takes £40.
2 days goes past and the money still isn’t in my account, and I ask him for it. We’ve just had a heated discussion where he suddenly remembered that he paid for our last food shop (it’s usually me that pays food/petrol/misc
House diy stuff- he paid this bill voluntarily) and that it came to £46 so he wouldn’t be paying me back.
I’m livid. He did this one time before and we had a row about it then too. More fool me, I genuinely thought he was going to pay into my account this time. I won’t make that mistake again. He then passively aggressively paid me it back apart from one penny, so think owed £50, paid £49.99. I went ballistic at him that time.
AIBU to just want my money paid back?!
I have that money earmarked for things and now have to scrape it from
Elsewhere. I told him this.
His argument is that all money is shared, that he earns more than me but pays more than me for mortgage etc, I earn a lot less but still spend it all each month on food/ fuel.
I would say the proportions would be the same, of what each of us earns, we both pay 90% each month, on something for us both.
So, Not true figures but for the sake of a nice round number, imagine he earns 1,000 a month he pays 900 on stuff for us both.
Imagine I earn 100 but pay 90 on stuff for us both.
My argument is that we both earn, we both pay a similar percentage on stuff for us both. That money was my personal stash, he said he would pay it back, so therefore he should.
I never spend anything on myself, all money I spend is for us both. The money he took was to pay for a treat for himself and he didn’t have time to go to the cash point first-it was a scheduled appointment, he was running late.
Not that its particularly relevant, but I do 99% of all childcare stuff in the house too, including 100% of nighttime wake ups. Of which there can be anything from 3-6 per night. Plus working 4 long days a week, and all the early morning get ups. Our son is 10 months old, I have had two lie ins,
If he’s so concerned about stuff being split half way, I asked him when we were going to start doing turns at nights? Yea, that didn’t go down well.
Apologies for the huge rant, I just want my flipping money back!!!!
Please tell me who is in the wrong? ( only wanting advice on the money situation, I know he’s being a knobend regarding childcare) thank you.
Sorry it’s so long, I got carried away with my rant.
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To ask for my money to be paid back?!
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newnamechange1234 · 23/09/2018 21:15
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