to think staying in bed until 9:30 is okay?

[BelindaBrighton]

I am usually up fairly early but am 34 weeks pregnant with my first and sleep is not a thing anymore. Baby kicks wake me up, I can't lay on one side for more than 20 mins, I lay awake for hours on end because I'm so uncomfortable, I wake up sweating etc. I finally fall asleep at silly am and sleep through to 9:30/10 on the weekend. This still isn't enough and I'm still exhausted.

During the week I work so am up at 6:30 on weekdays which is almost killing me, to the point I've vomited a couple of times I'm so tired!

I'm really trying, but sleep is one thing I'm finding so hard. Once I am on maternity leave I will worry less as I'll not have work to worry about.

DP thinks I'm being lazy. Wakes me up at 8 telling me I need to get up. It's starting to upset me. I need my sleep and struggle without it. He thinks I'm milking it.

Anyone else have the same sleep issues? AIBU to feel like DP is being an arse?

[FourEyesGood]

YANBU. If you don’t have to get up, don’t.

[BelindaBrighton]

If we had plans I would be up! Of course.

[cariadlet]

He's an idiot. You don't have any other children to care for so there's no reason to get up. You're sleep deprived in the week so need to sleep as much as you can at the weekend.

[8FencingWire]

What?!! How old is he? You can’t do that to people. If someone tried to do that to me, they’d only do it once.

[Theweasleytwins]

I'd be a pit PA and wake him up every time you wake up

I'm 33 weeks pregnant but already have children so no lie in for me😅

[SoyDora]

Of course it’s ok. I am in a similar position (pregnant, sleeping badly, exhausted) but also have a 4 and a 3 year old so not much hope of lying in! I would if I could though.
What is he getting you up for? Do you have plans that you’re risking being late for, or does he just want you to get up to sit around the house?

[BelindaBrighton]

I would absolutely be up if I had plans of other children to look after. But I don't. I just want to sleep...

[ChortleFace88]

Tell him to fuck off! You need your rest. Why get up if there’s no reason to get up?

Early morning martyrs, who are always up early and think everybody else should be even if there’s no reason to be, are the absolute worst.

[stellabird]

DP is being an arse. You don't have any reason to get up - in your position I used to sleep until I work up, even midday on some days. After the baby is born you won't have a choice.

[FittonTower]

Why on earth is it up to him what time you get up??

[Sweetiedarlingletmein]

YANBU!! Stay in bed as long as you possibly can!

[TheHeartOfTafiti]

Of course YANBU - why do you need to get up? I regularly have a lie in at the weekend (substantially later than 9:30), unless you have something you have to be doing why wouldn’t you catch up? He’s not the boss of you, tell him to leave you to sleep

[Iwouldratherbemuckingout]

He's being a knob. Even if you weren't pregnant there is nothing wrong with sleeping in! You need your sleep. You need a serious word with him about his lack of empathy and understanding.

[blueskiesandforests]

Why in earth is he doing that if you have no other kids and no plans? Can he not amuse himself without you? Is it a power thing? Why on earth does he think he gets to decide what time you get up? That's pretty shocking behaviour actually!

[WrongKindOfFace]

Christ, both of you should get as much sleep as possible now. He’s being a dick.

[MrTumblesSpottyHag]

He is a twat and I agree you should make sure he's awake any time you are. What a bastard.
My DH would sit in the bathroom with me while I had a bath when I was pg with DD1 because I was prone to drifting off and he wanted me to have as much extra sleep as possible without worrying about drowning!

[Teacherlikemisstrunchball]

What a sod. Really unkind unless there’s something you desperately need to be doing. I hate other people policing each other’s sleep unnecessarily.

[Bobbysausages]

Christ! Good luck when the baby is here. He sounds great 🙄

[Harrykanesrightsock]

I would do what theweasleytwins said. Wake the fucker up everytime you’re awake for a few nights and see how he likes it.

[BelindaBrighton]

My point to him is that in 3 weeks I will be full term. Baby could technically come any time after that. If I am not rested, labour will be difficult. My body hurts and whilst it is all normal, this is the last time in my life, until kids are grown up that I will be able to sleep in. Thanks for confirming that I'm not BU and he's just an arse!

[monkeysox]

He's a cunt. Hth

[happymummy12345]

Dp needs telling straight, he's extremely out of order. Should be making sure you're okay and seeing if he can bring you up anything to eat or drink when you wake up. Not having a go.

[LostInShoebiz]

Very controlling behaviour. Odd.

[fiorentina]

He needs to understand how tiring pregnancy and work is and also that he needs to step up when the baby comes!

[HouseyHausey]

Have a lie in! It's Sunday!

So rude of him to wake you as it can one hard to get back to sleep once you'd been woken up.

Plan on getting your own back when the baby is here! "Ah, morning! I know you like getting up early- your turn!"