Hi everyone. Before I start, I just want to make sure that everyone knows I'm not some jealous woman that demands my daughter is the top on everyone's priority list. My daughter absolutely loves her uncle so it's going to break my heart when she realises that feeling, possibly, isn't mutual. I want some honest advice on what to do and even opinions on whether you think I'm imagining it all.
DP and DBIL only have 18 months apart in age, because of this, they were the bestest of friends growing up. Of course they had normal sibling rivalry, but no one had a stronger bond than them. When I got pregnant with DD, DBIL didn't seem bothered at all and we expected that tbh because we thought he was never into babies anyway. He never asked about the pregnancy.
After I had given birth, 'congratulations' come flooding in from everywhere. We didn't get a congratulations from DBIL, we barely even noticed that tbh. When DD was 10 days old we took her to her nans house (where DBIL lives too) and only then he congratulated us. We hadn't heard a peep off him the whole 10 days. He only stayed for 30 minutes because he was meeting some friends and he didn't hold her. This bothered us a little, but we put it down to DBIL just being DBIL. DD is 13 months old now and she follows him everywhere and loves him to pieces. We didn't expect this, because out of the whole 13 months he's done nothing special to deserve that amount of love from her.
DBIL has a friend, whom he has been friends with for coming on 8 years. Friend recently had a baby and DBIL has not stopped going on about the little bundle. He rushed straight to the hospital to see her after she was born, and was the first visitor to hold her. He's uploaded images of him holding the baby onto social media (something he's never done with my DD). He almost pesters friend with requests for updates on friends DD.
DBIL is the kind of person who will shun and ignore you if you speak to him about this. He won't apologize and correct it or even say nothing but his actions will still change. He will shut himself off from me, DP and DD. So I have to tread lightly.
AIBU or is there an obvious difference between the treatment of the two girls? He has no biological connection to friends DD. He isn't Godfather either so he shouldn't have a sense of duty either. Any help will be appreciated. Sorry this is poorly written, I'm shattered and trying to look after a 1yo as well.
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DBIL prefers friends baby to his biological niece
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Abilouise · 23/09/2018 08:51
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