AIBU to follow through on police report?

[44v88x7p]

Hi, my first post here - I love mumsnet but have never before felt the need to post.

I want to know if AIBU to follow through a report I made to the police and I’m hoping the collective wisdom of mumsnetters will help.

Tonight I had to call 111 for my DGM who has multiple serious health issues - think cardiac/respiratory. Her symptoms triggered an Ambulance call out (the paramedics told me off when they arrived as I should have called 999 directly).

The paramedics arrived and started medical tests (ECG, blood sugar, etc). They also have her oxygen and medication to try to make it easier for her to breath.

Whilst the paramedics are treating
DGM and trying to take medical history our NDN phones us - demanding we make the paramedics turn off the ambulance lights as they are keeping her awake, this was at about 11pm.

I tried to tell her calmly that now wasn’t a good time, she became increasingly louder and aggressive swearing and demanded to speak to the paramedics.

The paramedics were very professional and explained that they were attending an emergency and that the lights had to stay on. After some more verbal abuse from NDN one of the paramedics went outside to call for the police. NDN seems to hear this down the phone line and hangs up.

NDN then comes storming onto our property, and let’s herself in the closed front door and begins screaming and swearing at myself, DGP and the paramedics about how she’s being inconvenienced and that this happens all the time (Both my DGP have serious disabilities/health issues and about once a month an ambulance is required - often requested by GP/111). NDN refused to leave.

I admit I panicked and I dialled 999 for the police.

As this was going on the paramedic who went out came back in as the stress was causing DGM symptoms to worsen. Then went back out and moved the ambulance as the situation has escalated out of control - and are happy that I’m already on the phone to the police, who say they’re on the way as the operator could hear NDN.

NDN realises I was on the phone to the police and storms out of our house.

I let the police operator know this and as NDN has left and paramedics are in attendance the police will still need to come but at a lower priority (completely fine I understand it’s saturday night). Obviously if she comes back dial police emergency again.

DGM is now hysterical and symptoms have worsened. As suspected DGM needed to go to the hospital for further treatment. At first she refused further care as she felt guilty for all the trouble but paramedics calmed her down. Unfortunately DGM had to go alone as DGF needs 24 hour care and is wheelchair bound.

Police called to take more details and to give a crime reference number and to say someone would be out later tonight.

As DGMs condition is as yet unclear and I may have to get myself and DGF to hospital at short notice/ in the early hours of the morning we agreed that when the situation is clearer in the morning police will be coming to take statements.

We’ve previously got on okay with NDN so I’m very distressed and confused about the events tonight and me and DGF aren’t sure about police involvement.

However the police let us know that it’s almost certain that the Ambulance service will be making a report of their own due to zero tolerance policies for abuse of NHS staff. So it is out of our hands to an extent.

AIBU to have called the police? Should I make a statement that the police want?

AIBU to think that police or no police, NDN behaviour was BU?

Please let’s not argue about Ambulance call outs. 9/10 they are requested by GP/111. And my DGF is housebound he is often picked up in Ambulances to transport him to hospital appointments as it’s been agreed as the safest way to move him. Even our GP makes house calls and pharmacy delivers medication.

Both DGP have disabilities/conditions that are serious and can deteriorate and become life threatening very quickly and that normally need treatment and monitoring on route to hospital.

[Mrsharrison]

I am appalled. Yes you must take this further. Don't let them get away with this.

[thefourgp]

Yanbu. Make the report. The ambulance call outs are not going to stop and they are correct to have a zero tolerance policy on such aggressive behaviour. If you let it go things could be worse next time. X

[Nandocushion]

You are not BU and you absolutely should make the statement.

[Joe66]

Make the statement to the police and then it is out of your hands and you need have no further involvement. It is then up to them to take things forward if they need to. Hopefully they will have words with the ndn about appropriate response and behaviour, possibly even caution them. That is not your responsibility but is the responsibility of the neighbours for the way they have behaved.

[SpoonBlender]

You're not unreasonable. NDN is a twat, and an offensive one at that. Follow up with the police, get the incident down correctly - don't downplay how awful it was. Give your writeup here as a statement.

The police won't do more than give her a stern talking to, and hopefully that'll make her think twice about being such an utter shit again.

[strong80]

i very rarely post on here (but lurk a lot) but had to say yes, you absolutely must make the statement the police want and take this further. NDN behaviour is utterly appalling.

[SD1978]

Another who says he's, follow through. The lights were going. If this happens frequently- get better curtains. To complain because they are dealing with an emergency is ridiculous.

[Zippetydoodahzippetyay]

Absolutely not being unreasonable. Neighbour is way out of line. Definitely make the report.

[overnightangel]

She trespassed as well as all the other awful behaviour.
Damn right I’d be following it up , with bells on. Was she drunk??

[Geraldine170]

It’s weird if NDN has always been okay before. Do follow it up, if there is some underlying reason why her personality has suddenly changed (I’m thinking maybe a mental health issue or dementia or maybe the effects of prescribed drugs.) then that will come up and be taken into account by the police and may well mean it speeds up her getting help for any problem she has.

[Frequency]

Absolutely make a statement. This is disgusting behaviour. I hope our DGM makes a swift recovery.

I was locked in my garden by an ambulance the other day. I'm at the end of a cul-de-sac and my garden gate opens out directly onto the road. There is a keep clear sign painted in front of it but clearly this does not (and should not) apply to emergency vehicles. It was the closet to my neighbours house the ambulance could get. It was pressed so close to my gate, I couldn't open it and didn't fancy climbing through the rose bushes to get over the fence.

I was supposed to be meeting a client so I went back inside, popped the kettle on and called her to explain. At no point did I consider swearing at anyone. My client also understood.

[Shadow1234]

Shocking behaviour from the neighbour! (Some people are just
so rude)

If I was woken up by an ambulance outside, I'd be more
worried about my poorly neighbour than the lights flashing!

You must make a statement! No ifs or buts!

[Shinesweetfreedom]

I can’t believe the fucking selfish bitch is worried about a bit of light when your dgm is so seriously ill.I can’t understand why you question yourself ringing the police.I think I would have dragged her out of the house.
You follow this up in the strongest possible terms for the benefit of all the emergency services and your grandparents.
Selfish twats like this really boils my piss.

[Lallybroch]

I don't know why this has suddenly become a thing for people to complain about emergency service vehicles. You are definitely not being unreasonable. Your neighbours behaviour is appalling and the distress she has caused your GM is shameful.

[Nightwatch999]

Hi OP i am a Paramedic and i will guarantee the crew who cane out to you would of reported your NDN to the Police.

[user764329056]

You had all the worry of your DGM and your NDN decides to add mores stress to your situation, disgusting of her, sorry you have gone through such an awful night

[BedtimeTea]

Yes, follow through. Your ndn must be nuts! What a selfish, selfish person.

[Emelene]

I'd follow through, your poor DGM - makes me so cross even reading how your neighbour behaves! I wouldn't want things to escalate any further and would hope police involvement brings it to a stop. I hope your DGM gets well soon xxx

[ThisIsNotMyRealName1]

Absolutely not unreasonable. In fact, it would be unreasonable not to follow up /tthrough on this. Gosh, how unnecessarily distressing for your DGM, you and DGF, as well as the paramedics trying to do their job.

[MudCity]

You absolutely must follow this through. It is shocking behaviour.
I am sorry to hear that your DGP had to put up with this.

[SAMlady]

I don't think you panicked at all to call 999 when NDN forced entry to your house and was aggressive. I think that was the only course of action.

I would hope they are round to grovel first thing tomorrow, and enquire after your poorly DGP (Hope DGM is ok)

Definitely assist the police with the report, it's unacceptable behaviour and you need to know they're not going to do it every time you need to call for an ambulance

[Tinkerbell89]

Yes give the police a statement, this will back the paramedics complaint too. Her behaviour was unacceptable and could cause more issues in the future. You need to report it as this could happen again if you call an ambulance.

You need to think of the paramedics, yourself and family. If police have a log on her and it happens again it'll build a case against her. She may have been having a bad night but she was causing the paramedics to be distracted and not able to concentrate on the job at hand which could cause severe problems in the future.

Not only has she entered your property without consent, but been aggressive and anti social. Who behaves like that when someone's needing urgent medical attention? It's not normal behaviour.

You need to protect yourself for the future. Hope everyone is ok.

[CanuckBC]

You have to follow through on the police complaint. What absolutely bizzare behaviour. The fact it escalated the health emergency only makes it worse!

Emergencies happen which entails emergency vehicles using their lights and sirens. I hope the neighbour never has to inconvenience the neighbourhood with an ambulance or police vehicle. Forbid should they use their lights in an emergency🙄

I hope your grandma has a full recovery. It sounds like you have a really tough living situation.

[penisbeakers]

Your NDN is a fucking horrible cunt and should be ashamed of themselves.

[Redglitter]

Please do make the statement. Your neighbours behaviour was put of order on so many levels.

Wtf gets into these people.