To think he's begging it?

[embarrasedgf]

Just that really.

My partner is into his gym workouts big time. He's there at 5am, during his lunch break, & 7pm. Each for 2 hours. He's obsessed.

He used to be overweight (not massively) and about a year ago he got really involved in fitness with his friend and his life has been taken over by the gym.

Don't get me wrong he's done so well, he's been entering body physique competitions with bodybuilders and the like and has placed first in most of them out of about 180-200 competitors per time. His body is absolutely amazing and I am so proud of him for this, even though he is in extreme diets during this time which makes him moody, irritable, tired and generally difficult to be around. (Carb depletion, calorie reduction, white foods only, no sugar etc)

Although I massively support him in this (I make all of his prep meals for the week etc, pay for and attend all of his competitions, run through his stage performances etc) I am beginning to tire of his ego.
He has always been addicted to social media but now it is really taking the absolute piss.
Yesterday he told me he has PAID FOR followers on Instagram and Facebook. As in, he's paid £55 for 3,000 followers on insta and £59 for 2,000 Facebook friends.
All of these 'people' are obviously fake profiles; they are just to like his photos of him with no top on basically or his stage photos.
Now what I am asking here is am I completely unreasonable to be pissed off with him ?
Yes he has a great body, yes he looks good but he's trying to promote himself for the wrong reasons. He wants followers because he believes that if he has more then he is more popular. I feel like his ego has started to rule him and he doesn't understand why I am annoyed with him for not caring about the real life support from me and his family and the admiration we have for him. He is more bothered about pretend people on his social media than what we think.
Not only that but he has started following an extra 5,000 people this last 2 days, just anyone that he can, this includes profiles of naked women etc all to boost his profile.
I am more than supportive but I'm starting to feel like his body and his social media is more important than us and his family and his daughter more importantly.
We checked our battery usage and mine was 1.5 hours per week on instagram (I don't have Facebook) and his was 15.7hours a week on instagram and 22.5 hours a week on Facebook. Is he taking the piss or what?

Am I being unreasonable thinking he's just starting to become too obsessed with himself and his image or should I put up and shut up and just support him ?

[Birdsgottafly]

I think that you can only complain about his Social Media usage if it stops him from playing his part in the house or being a Dad.

As for the money that he is spending, if it's coming out of his 'spending' money, then that's his choice.

My concern would be that competitive Body Building isn't healthy, nor are the eating plans that they follow.

[ChristianGreysAnatomy]

Yuck. Sounds horrible to live with.

Stop facilitating. No more special meals, let him get his own. Andd definitely stop paying for the competitions. Stop attending. Stop following him on social media. Just withdraw.

If he’s an ok guy he’ll come out of his bubble eventually.

[Belina]

Insta and FB followers cost no more than 20 pounds esociskly for only 3k that is like 5 pounds
Hes lying

[Belina]

Especially

[Moonandthestars]

Must need to feed his ego

[Ofthread]

I would suspect steroids, especially with the irritability. It’s not healthy to work out 6 hours per day, especially without guidance from a pro coach. He needs help.

[AjasLipstick]

Aside from anything, buying followers is known to be a bad way to grow your profile. He should research properly.

[DolceFarNiente]

Stop facilitating. No more special meals, let him get his own. Andd definitely stop paying for the competitions. Stop attending. Stop following him on social media. Just withdraw.

^This. I don't know how you can still find him attractive - there is little less appealing than this level of vanity.

[Mrsharrison]

Yep he sounds repulsive.

[overnightangel]

Sounds like a vain bellend

[SD1978]

Does he work as well?

[SageYourResoluteOracle]

I absolutely don't think you should put up and shut up - living with this kind of behaviour would drive anyone to distraction. But I do think it sounds as if he has a rather serious problem. He's become obsessive but could it actually have become a compulsion? Might he have body dysmorphia?

[ichifanny]

So he works out 6 hours a day and spends the rest on social media ? Does he spend any time with you and your daughter ? Doesn’t sound like he would have much time left for anything else , this would upset me and I’d find it pretty upsetting the level of self obsession .

[VladmirsPoutine]

Why are you paying for all his competitions?

[Nightwatch999]

I would seriously dig and look to see if he is taking Steroids to enhance his body. The mood swings and the costs of buying social media followers makes me think he is not being honest.

[penisbeakers]

I'd be sitting him down and reading him the riot act. Spending money on followers, being glued to social media, being grumpy etc whilst you mug about after him and pay for competitions? Fuck that malarkey.

He needs a reality check.

[Zoflorabore]

This would be so odd putting for me.
Nothing worse than a man who loves himself like this and it sounds like he's got an addiction to it all.

Does he have any non gym related redeeming qualities?

I would rather have a man that is both physically and mentally with me and the dc than all the six packs in the world. Means nothing when it's at the expense of his family.

Sounds like he's getting too big for his boots.

[OldTownNew]

Is he entering drug free competitions? Because if not, there's no way he's winning physique competitions without being on steroids

[Limtedattention]

I'm sorry but he sounds like he needs to get a grip on what's important in life. Fake followers? What's the point?

[bumblingbovine49]

Your husband has switched on addiction (overeating) for another one (over excercise). I know in this appearance obsessed world, people believe no excercise is too much but 4+ hrs a day in the gym is an obsession. He has also swapped one sort of unhealth diet for another.

[BabySharkAteMyHamster]

He sounds like a complete knobhead 😂😂😂

[Seniorschoolmum]

38 hours on social media - that’s an entire working week. Imagine what your world would be like it he put that much effort into working to benefit your dd, rather than feeding his own vanity.
Definitely stop helping him, that can’t be healthy, but also not a great role model for dd if the only thing that matters is how you look and how man people “like” you.

[Seniorschoolmum]

Many people.

[Merryoldgoat]

Why are you paying for his competitions? Seriously, why would you pay for his hobby?

[Choice4567]

@embarrasedgf agree with ^. Why are you paying for his competitions when he clearly has money to spare to buy followers