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AIBU?

To ask if my DH’s inconsistency about food needs to stop?

103 replies

JontyDoggle37 · 21/09/2018 20:49

Tonight I have cooked cheesy bean enchiladas. He has eaten and enjoyed them before (I know, because I’ve written the recipe into my cooks notebook - anything that gets ‘the face’ on first eating doesn’t make it that far). I’m a pretty good home cook, so I’m not serving up burnt offerings. But TONIGHT he decides that said enchiladas are ‘problematic’ because they don’t contain any beef. They have never contained beef at any point we have previously eaten them. The recipe is really tasty (I’m fairly critical of my own food, if I thought it was crap I wouldn’t mind).
This happens often - meal previously eaten is now not ok, for a variety of reasons. Also, if I introduce a new meal, it must not be ‘too green’ or he won’t eat it at all - I.e. more than one v small portion of a green vegetable on the plate. Broccoli, spinach and carrots would be unthinkable. He claims this is because he doesn’t like too many vegetables - but if I produce a meal full of red and orange vegetables (carrots, peppers, red onions, red potatoes) he will eat the lot (unless we’re having one of those days where he suddenly doesn’t like it anymore). AIBU to choke him with a fish slice the next time he comes out with one of his ‘pronouncements’? For context, he cooks 2 x a week (under pressure) and I am always expected to say how tasty/amazing it is.. (I did once suggest his repertoire was getting boring and he needed to expand, he met this with extreme injury and disdain)

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SodTheBloodyLotOfThem · 21/09/2018 20:50

YABU for marrying a 2 year old

Cheby · 21/09/2018 20:51

OMFG. Put DH in the bin.

Thebluedog · 21/09/2018 20:52

Tell him he doesn’t eat it all he gets no pudding Hmm

GerdaLovesLili · 21/09/2018 20:52

Aaaargh! Get him to go through your cook's notebook and tick all the recipes he's "prepared" to eat. Then when he "goes off" the thing, you have proof that he actually, willingly wanted to eat it.

Then choke hime with a fish-slice.

Pursefirst · 21/09/2018 20:52

LTB

bridgetreilly · 21/09/2018 20:53

You do not need to pander to his inconsistencies. The rule is: if you've cooked it, he eats it and is polite about it. And vice versa, of course.

NonaGrey · 21/09/2018 20:53

He either eats like an adult or he cooks his own food.

If he can’t say anything nice then he should shut the fuck up.

Idontevencareanymore · 21/09/2018 20:53

Next time tell him you made it with mince and it's under the layers. Act like a kid, treat like a kid.

Cynara · 21/09/2018 20:53

I came on to say pretty much exactly what pp has said! I refuse to take this crap from my 3 year old when he tries it on, ywnbu to deploy the fish slice.

Verbena87 · 21/09/2018 20:55

I suggest a week of exclusively green meals. Saag paneer, bean salad, pease pudding, green lentil dal...

(And yes, fishslice is justified)

PositiveVibez · 21/09/2018 20:56

Well if he doesn't like it, he knows where the kitchen is.

'problematic'!!!! Problematic my arse. The cheeky fucker.

Passmethecrisps · 21/09/2018 20:57

Urgh. He sounds like my dad became weirdly. When we were kids we were skint so I presume choice was like it or lump it.

Gradually as we all left and things became more comfortable he has become more and more picky and it drives my mum insane.

Suddenly he doesn’t like broccoli having eaten it all his life. He claims he has always hated it.

He will only eat spiral pasta. Nothing else as he claims it turns his stomach.

Infuriating when he comes here to visit as it is harder work feeding him than it is feeding my 5yo and 1yo

Theknacktoflying · 21/09/2018 21:00

I know you have spoken to him reasonably about it and made suggestions as to improve the situation that is just so frustrating.

If it hasn’t worked the only way forward is a star chart and some bibs ...

How many are you cooking for?

MrBeansXmasTurkey · 21/09/2018 21:01

What would he do if you told him he is too fussy and annoying so you are no longer cooking for him and he can cook for himself?

delphguelph · 21/09/2018 21:03

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

ScrambledSmegs · 21/09/2018 21:04

He either eats what you cook with gratitude, or he cooks for himself.

Dickhead.

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 21/09/2018 21:06

@Cheby

Hahahahahaha. That made me chuckle!

And yes, off he trotts to the bin OP.

dudsville · 21/09/2018 21:06

It's an odd conversation for two adults to be having. Obviously anyone cooking should kindly have in mind what the other likes, but it's not a one way deal. You're not cooking for him. You're coming the evening meal, ie there's enough for whomever lives there.

LeftRightCentre · 21/09/2018 21:07

We would be cooking for ourselves from now on.

DuchessThingy · 21/09/2018 21:08

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Travis1 · 21/09/2018 21:10

I’d just stop cooking for him. Fuck that for a game of soldiers

Wallywobbles · 21/09/2018 21:11

When my kids did this I precooked a weeks worth of plain pasta. They were pretty keen on other options by Thursday.

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ConsiderHerWaysAndOthers · 21/09/2018 21:11

Your husband is a complete twat and a rude one at that. If you don’t want to chuck him in the bin as wonderfully suggested by a PP then I’d refuse to cook for him at all from now on and do seperate meals.

lottiegarbanzo · 21/09/2018 21:11

Stop pandering - I mean that particularly in terms of the praise and gratitude you offer when he cooks. What's sauce for the goose...

ScrommidgeClaryAndSpunt · 21/09/2018 21:11

Tell him to stop being such a helmet and eat the goddamn food - or sort his own out.

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