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AIBU?

To have basically told neighbour to fuck off

221 replies

MrsPuff5 · 21/09/2018 18:11

Neighbour is also a school mum. Neighbour is generally rude to everyone. I tried to be friendly, invited her and kids over, out for days etc. She is not interested and ignores me. I wave hello and try to be cheery and she ignores me still. I take parcels in and over to her, she grunts and takes them. Last week I made a last ditch attempt at conversation and was told by her husband to leave it because my brother, who lives with us, is gay. They are Jehovah's witnesses... Sad but never mind. Would rather not be around people who think like that.

I have recently become friends with a couple of other school mums, who my neighbour is also friendly with apparently. Today I had invited those mums over for a drink before school run. Ten minutes in neighbour knocks and says she saw visitors arriving and can she join us? I replied "absolutely no, you ignore me, insult my family, but want my hospitality because your friends are here. You do not want to be around me, but will happily drink my drink and sit in my house. No." And I shut the door.

The women at my house said they understood but also called me harsh. Am I? Was I wrong?

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Anasnake · 21/09/2018 18:13

Not harsh at all.

Notquitefeelingit · 21/09/2018 18:14

Not harsh at all! Well done.

Notquitefeelingit · 21/09/2018 18:15

She was incredibly cheeky to ask!!

EhWhatPardon · 21/09/2018 18:15

YANBU!! I'd have explained that she might have caught "the gay" from being in my house drinking my bloody tea. Can't stand people like that. Good for you!!

Lululemonade · 21/09/2018 18:15

Well done you. I would have been too shocked and probably nodded mutely and let her in

Stressedout10 · 21/09/2018 18:15

Yanbu

Pinkstars2501 · 21/09/2018 18:15

I’d have done the same to be honest.
Unless there’s a backstory, something like her husband is the one with a problem with your brother and he says she can’t talk to you and for whatever reason (abusive or something) she does what he says. But she was trying to reach out.

But that seems highly unlikely. So I agree, cheeky!

BlackWatchBelle · 21/09/2018 18:16

Considering all the effort you made then no, you weren't harsh. You were spoy on hen

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/09/2018 18:16

Not wrong at all. And your “friends” are complete dicks defending someone who’s homophobic.

Justnoclue · 21/09/2018 18:16

Not harsh at all. Well done for calling her on it.

CaptSkippy · 21/09/2018 18:16

Nope, you were polite considering everything she has said and done. I wouldn't not even be accepting anymore packages for her either.

Lemontart25 · 21/09/2018 18:17

Restrained I'd say. Good for you.

cantgetadecentnewname · 21/09/2018 18:17

Nope and you weren’t harsh imo

WoogleCone · 21/09/2018 18:17

Not harsh at all! They probably just think that because they're unaware of how rude she is on a regular basis

KittysMyName · 21/09/2018 18:17

Good for you! You were definitely NOT being unreasonable!

Itsatravesty · 21/09/2018 18:17

Drinks before the school run Shock Hardcore

Aeroflotgirl · 21/09/2018 18:17

No you weren't harsh at all, she was a rude cheeky fucker. What she is going to make you feel uncomfortable and ignore you in your own home. You were nice doing what you do for her, because any other person would not. Stop being a mug, and treat her how she treats you!

Singlenotsingle · 21/09/2018 18:18

A bit embarrassing for your visitors though, especially if they're friends with her. Confused

bimbobaggins · 21/09/2018 18:19

well done for standing up for yourself op, all too often we see on here people complaining about cf but doing nothing about it so this is definitely the way to go

Iloveacurry · 21/09/2018 18:19

Not harsh at all. She sounds awful.

Aeroflotgirl · 21/09/2018 18:20

Why Single,, they have to know the type of nasty person that she is, op has had enough. She was thoroughly correct to say what she did.

Frizzcat · 21/09/2018 18:20

Nope, carry on

DannyWallace · 21/09/2018 18:21

YADNBU
Most people wouldn't have the courage to do what you did. But by the sounds of it you definitely did the right thing.
Well done!!

Witchofzog · 21/09/2018 18:21

Op you rock Smile

rosamacrose · 21/09/2018 18:23

What did your visitors say?
Why is she friends with them?

I ask because maybe they are 'approved' by her husband. Others may not be.

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