Boyfriends hair

[chattyemma]

I’m so angry right now it’s unbeliveable My partner works from home and he has long hair shoulder length which is usually tied up (but looks better down). Today he said to me before I went to work that he was gonna go to the barbers and get a tiny bit chopped off about 2cms just to tidy it up when he called his mother this morning to say he’s He’s going out and if he’s needed he’s on his mobile and he’s going to town to go to barbers she said come down mine and I’ll take you with your father speaking to his cut at the same time. His mother has never been happy with it with him having long hair and as always said for him to cut it short but he has always said no and me 2 when she has tried to get me involved.

So this morning when he went with his mother and father the barbers he thinks (and me) that they got the barber to cut it shorter than what he wanted I think it looks about 6 inches it’s now just under his ears and now he can just about to tie up and he is really annoyed about it.

He refused to pay the barber because of how short they cut it and just walked out (strange he didn’t hit him) and his mum txt me in work saying how embarrassed she was of his behaviour and that she paid his bill. I wanna text her back and say about you blame him because of what happened.

Need some advice what would you do

[Secretsquirrel101]

Are you always this angry about fairly inconsequential problems? His hair will grow back. Just text his mum back and say ‘oh dear, shame he didn’t like iy’ AND leave it there, what’s the issue?

[Secretsquirrel101]

Also it’s not ‘strange’ he didn’t hit the barber he’d be a fucking weirdo if he did.

[user1473878824]

Well I think you should all grow up really.

[Blueberriesandbananas]

Your bf sounds like his under the thumb with both his mother and you!
Isn't he old enough to make his own decisions regarding his hair?

[SpottingTheZebras]

Are you both children?!

[ScreamingValenta]

There's nothing you can do about his hair except wait for it to grow back.

It's concerning that you think it 'strange he didn't hit' the barber. Does he normally hit people who've annoyed him?

Next time, he needs to go by himself if he thinks his parents are countermanding his instructions. You don't say how old he is, but it seems strange that anyone over the age of 16 would take their parents along when going for a routine hair trim.

[CatboySpeed]

What do you think you should do? Say a magic spell so his hair grows back?

[milkmoustache]

Unless his mum had gagged him at the barber's, why was your DB unable to tell the barber what to do himself??

[HildaZelda]

Eh? How old is your boyfriend? Why is he so under his parents thumb? What grown adult lets their Mum take them to the barbers?

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

I had to double check you were talking about your partner, not a child. My son is 3 and is capable of staying whether/how much he wants his hair cut. I don’t understand how your partner had his hair done like mummy wanted if he didn’t want it.

[chattyemma]

The reason why I was confused about him hitting the barber was because when he said to him about the barber said “well I think it looks better on you”

His mother is a total control freak if she don’t get her own way she makes his life a misery

[Ellisandra]

I had to re-read this.
I was sure the OP said boyfriend, then I realised it was one of those “my MIL cut my toddler’s hair” posts.
No.
Boyfriend.
WTAF?!!!

[RtHonLady]

I miss the Mumsnet of old....

[Ellisandra]

When you say he works from home - you mean, he does his homework? And he’s 11, right?

[MarmaladeIsMyJam]

Howling at the fact a grown man went to the barbers with his Mum AND his Dad, then is convinced they secretly convinced the barber to cut off more than he was supposed to. How did they manage that then? secret handshake?

[ScreamingValenta]

The reason why I was confused about him hitting the barber was because when he said to him about the barber said “well I think it looks better on you”

Why is that a reason to hit the barber (not that there would be any valid reason to hit the barber)?

[chattyemma]

Thanks for the abuse. Remind me never to come here again

[ApolloandDaphne]

Blimey, what an over reaction about some hair. It will grow.

[Playdayswasthebest]

Whaaaat?

Can you imagine if this was a post by a man saying that his girlfriends hair was cut too short and he didn't like it?!

Grow up.

Definition of First World problems.

I bet he secretly likes it shorter but is too scared to tell you.

[fc301]

It's not abuse. You asked AIBU?
Yes, you are - unanimously.

You are aware hair grows back!
Your BF is aware he can tell the barber what he wants?

How old are you both?!

[Ellisandra]

I cannot imagine why you think not hitting the Barber is in any way a surprise? What kind of person are you?

The barber gave the length he was told (presumably by the mother, but also presumably your boyfriend didn’t tell the barber what he wanted? Making it reasonably to do what he did.)

So the barber was just trying to make him feel better.

[SecretWitch]

Dang, op, it’s HAIR! Btw, violence against anyone is not normal behaviour...even if the barber gave him an unsolicited chop job.

[Soontobe60]

How ridiculous! Is he three?

[TerfsUp]

(strange he didn’t hit him

WUT

Hitting someone for a bad haircut? Whoever thinks that this is acceptable behaviour needs help.

[SerendipityFelix]

The reason why I was confused about him hitting the barber was because when he said to him about the barber said “well I think it looks better on you”

Still wouldn’t be a reason to hit someone....:

This is meant in the kindest possible way, OP, but

1. This isn’t your problem
   
2. Violence isn’t normal or healthy
   
3. Grow up, all of you