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AIBU?

Im late!!!!

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ThatsSoFetch · 20/09/2018 13:28

So - long story short. Im always pretty much 99% on time with my monthlies! Its always between a 27-29 day cycle. But normally pretty much spot on 28 days.

Its always the same thing - nightmare for the first 2 days, tails off for 2/3 days afterwards.

But this month - 3 days late. Im shattered, cant stop peeing and I keep feeling super nauseous. The first 2 here I had with the previous pregnancies, the latter I never had with either.

Done one of the really really cheap pregnancy tests and it came up negative - will also note I did this mid way through the day - today actually.

This is a definite TMI but there is a very very minor pinkish discharge - nothing else of note though - and reading up online this could be 'implantation bleeding'.

Ive been with OH just over a year, we have 2 DC's each so really, another is not something we have discussed or even something Im sure we would do.

So - my huge question is - what is the absolute latest that if I do a test, it comes out negative, that I can be definitely sure it is definitely negative. Is 3 days late enough to say it is definitely negative?

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 20/09/2018 13:32

Are you using contraception? You don’t mention any?

DoddleOddle · 20/09/2018 13:36

I mean, the limit technically doesn't exist. There have been rare cases of people never testing positive on a home pregnancy test despite being pregnant but realistically I'd say a week after a missed period. If there's not even a hint of a line then, you're safe.

Are you on contraception?

ThatsSoFetch · 20/09/2018 13:36

Oh sorry - no Im not on anything. We use the withdrawal method. Which is why Im panicking. I had a really bad reaction to the coil and we were giving my body time to recover. Being a bloke, he refuses to wear a condom. (yes I know - sigh)

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SerenDippyEggs · 20/09/2018 13:38

Refuses?! What a knobhead Shock

Also no guarantee! Sorry to be of no use whatsoever Grin

Racecardriver · 20/09/2018 13:39

You definitely sound pregnant to me but you may just be ill. Are you running a fever or anything? Has anyone else been ill that you have come into contact with?

ThatsSoFetch · 20/09/2018 13:40

Definitely not poorly - no fever - nobody around me is ill or has been ill. And heaved dropping DC's off at the childminder this morning.

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ChanklyBore · 20/09/2018 13:45

A man who puts you at risk of unwanted pregnancy, asking you to take serious medical risks with your health, all because he doesn’t want to put a condom on, is not a “bloke” I would touch with a bargepole.

Please start using contraception - if he won’t, find someone who will.

I hope you get the result you want.

DowntonCrabby · 20/09/2018 13:45

Refusing to wear a condom makes you a knob not a bloke Confused

That aside, I’d test again first thing in a couple of days then a few days after that if still negative. The pink tinge could be implantation but could also just be the very early start of a period.

Twotailed · 20/09/2018 13:46

Oh god the withdrawal method 🙄 and don’t give him the excuse of being a bloke! Lots of blokes (like my DH) happily wear condoms if hormonal contraception isn’t suitable for their partners. There is every chance you could be pregnant, or will become so in the future and if you haven’t discussed it with your DP it’s a crazy risk to take.

Anyway, here endeth the sermon. You possibly could be pregnant, 3 days late is still quite early (although if you’re usually regular it might be more of a sign...). I would test again when you’re a week late (assuming you don’t start before then) and see what happens.

Twotailed · 20/09/2018 13:48

You could also test again tomorrow but with morning wee when the hormones are strongest.

EwItsAHooman · 20/09/2018 13:50

Being a bloke, he refuses to wear a condom

That's not a bloke thing, that's a selfish twat thing. DH didn't particularly like condoms but he wore them because he had to if he/we wanted to avoid getting me pregnant.

I'd test again in a day or two with first morning urine and see what the result is.

faeriequeen · 20/09/2018 13:56

Why do you have sex with someone so stupid? Most blokes use condoms if they don't want a baby.

EmmaC78 · 20/09/2018 13:58

I am another one shocked by you using no contraception when you don't want another child!

ThatsSoFetch · 20/09/2018 14:00

Honestly, I dont want the issue to be all about his refusal to wear condoms. If I had pressed it further then Im sure he would have done. He really isnt an idiot - I think we just both thought the withdrawal method would be reliable enough - I havent had a positive test yet....

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Raver84 · 20/09/2018 14:00

The cheap test are pretty reliable I've found and I have had 6 pregnancies . Wait a week and test again if it's still negative repeat in a weeks time. Start using condoms.

SouthernComforts · 20/09/2018 14:05

Surely the withdrawl method is just luck of the draw, and only for people who secretly want to be pregnant. Congrats OP you probably are.

EwItsAHooman · 20/09/2018 14:07

DH and I tried the withdrawal method, or as we like to call it - the "well there's gonna be a DC3" method 😁

Emmageddon · 20/09/2018 14:08

Will it be an absolute disaster if you are pregnant?

Mishappening · 20/09/2018 14:10

He really isnt an idiot - I think we just both thought the withdrawal method would be reliable enough - and he's not an idiot? And you?

How can you not know how totally unreliable this is? Were you off sick when this was covered in school?

Seaweed42 · 20/09/2018 14:13

I would wait a week before testing. Periods can suddenly go a few days out for no reason. 31 or 32 days wouldn't be unreasonable. If you know you ovulated and had signs of that and then 14 days later you get a negative test, then it's likely to be negative.
If it was implantation bleeding you'd have had it earlier than 28 days I think.

TwistedStitch · 20/09/2018 14:14

So you've been having unprotected sex and now your period is late. Well yeah, of course you might be pregnant.

ComeOnRain · 20/09/2018 14:15

My friend was using the withdrawal method, they now have a 5yo & a 2yo, didn't learn the first time that it didn't work!

Refuses condom, dickhead. No condom = no sex.

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Slimtimeagain · 20/09/2018 14:15

I'm sorry but refusing to wear a condom does make him an idiot.

gottastopeatingchocolate · 20/09/2018 14:15

I know people say wait a week - and I know that's almost impossible!

Wait as long as you can, and do the first morning wee.

ChikiTIKI · 20/09/2018 14:17

I have known a friend to get negative tests for the first 12 weeks of one of her pregnancies! Would guess that's probably unusual though!

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