to call boys in sick on friday when we go on holiday?

[Marie0]

I've been meaning to ask the school receptionist but I've been really busy in work and DH has been doing pick ups and drop off's for our DS1 (13) and DS2 (11).

We're going away for the weekend on Friday and I haven't taken the boys out from school before but they will need the day off as we are going first thing.

Not sure what the procedure is - presumably I need to ask the school permission to have the day off? It seems a bit of a faff - I think it may be easier to call them in sick?

Is it really that important to ask permission? Anyone else just called them in sick for 1 day off?

[NannyR]

You just jot a quick note saying that they won't be in on Friday because they are going on holiday. It will either be marked as authorised or unauthorised absence. I really wouldn't lie about them being sick.

[CrochetBelle]

Just send a note or email that they'll be absent Friday due to a family holiday.

Don't teach them to lie to get out of school.

[MeltingWax]

I would send them an email this week to let them know. They won't be able to authorise absence for a holiday so the unauthorised day will be on their records but if it's just one day it won't be enough to raise a flag with the welfare person I should think.

I wouldn't ring in sick - just be honest and take the unauthorised day.

[Marie0]

OK, thank you Nanny, yes I'll write a note. Don;t really want to lie put just worried there may be forms to fill and then they may say 'no' and of course I would still go anyway!

[ilovesooty]

Just state that they will be absent due to family holiday. Don't say they're sick when they aren't.

[Marie0]

Great thanks all, yes I'll drop them a note or email.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

Your not asking for permission you are asking them to authorise an absence.

[Marie0]

Boney

Ah right, in which case I don't need authorisation - it will be an 'unauthorised absence' which is fine

[BeenThereDone]

Absent due to family issue.... Was the standard reasons I used to give for absence if they weren't actually ill/have appointments.

[rainbowstardrops]

Definitely just be honest. I work in an infant school and we always have a chuckle when we get a note in the register to say little Johnny is sick and then their best mate tells us they've gone to Butlins or wherever

[Rebecca36]

Not worth lying because it doesn't set a good example and it's possible the boys will mention it to friends when they get back. Just do as has been suggested, write a note saying they will not be in on Friday as going away.

If the school complain later, let them. Nothing will be done because you don't make a habit of it so don't worry.

Have a lovely holiday!

[NoLeslie]

I actually would phone in sick. Not because it matters but because our stupid system means the school would rather have absences from illness than unauthorised ones. So I would lie as a favour to the school.

[Thatstheendofmytether]

You don't need to ask permission they are your children and it's 1 day. Just don't send them in, call them in sick or phone o. the day and say you are leaving for holiday they won't be in but you do not need the schools permission.

[pissflaps45]

Don't forget the £60 fine for each parent either. After the court case over taking children out of school were the parents were successful schools fine parents no matter what the reason is now.

[Marie0]

Ah right I didn't realise I didn't need permission.

I got the impression from other parents where I live that you have to 'ask' for children to be taken out of school for holidays. They mentioned forms and getting 'clearance' from the school, but I didn't know if this situation applies to every school or it is a regional policy.

I won't call them in sick - not just because it's a lie but I know I can't trust DS2 to not tell anyone as we are going to Center Parcs - his favourite place in the whole world and he won't be able to resist telling everyone about the rapids!

And as PP pointed out then I would look like a complete dick anyway when I collect him from school on Monday and his teachers will be sniggering because I'd have told a big porky pie! :)

[Marie0]

BOmbard aaargh you really are doing my head in!

He is temporarily excluded! No where did I say for two weeks!

We are hoping he will be back in Tuesday / wednesday after his head of year contact us for a meeting.

Now go and get a hobby PLEASE!!!!!

[Aragog]

Just send a note or email that they'll be absent Friday due to a family holiday.

This.

At our school you wouldn't be fined, but it would be unauthorised absence. However, one unauthorised absence really isn't going to be an issue. Our LEA only send fines out from day 5 of a continuous holiday absence.

[Marie0]

piss flaps

I'm not bothered about the threat of a fine.

My DH and I are a pretty good team and are not remotely intimidated by a potential fine or court action over something so trivial

[Marie0]

Bombardier

My story is straight - well straighter than the amount of brain cells you seem to have.

[KitKat1985]

Don't lie. You can guarantee at least one of your DS's will be over-heard talking about their holiday on return to school, and it'll just be awkward.

[Marie0]

yes KitKat I agree - then I'll look a bit silly lol

[Wolfiefan]

So he misbehaves at school and behaves badly at home? Yet instead of giving him some routine and security you pull him out of school to miss the few lessons he’s actually attending to take him on holiday. YABU.
And thinking of lying to the school? Unacceptable.

[Marie0]

Wolfie

Not really sure what you are talking about? what makes you think he doesn't have routine or security? I think a holiday with his family is far more important than missing a few lessons - that's if he indeed did attend them.

[Wolfiefan]

So school doesn’t matter? And you wonders why he misbehaves there? He’s been excluded. When he is due to return to school you want to take him out to miss more school? Sort your priorities.