To be upset friend has ‘abandoned’ us on holiday(486 Posts)
My mum has kindly paid for me and my two year old DD to go on holiday to Majorca for my birthday present. I’m a lone parent on a low income and haven’t had a holiday abroad for years nor am I likely to be able to afford one for several more so it’s a huge treat and I have been looking forward to it for many months. My mum has paid for the accommodation for me, DD and a friend and flights for me and DD so friend only had to pay for her flight. I invited one of my best friends to come along. I’ve known her for 13 years, trust her completely, have been on holiday with her before and have never had so much as a cross word let alone an argument with her. She adores DD and is great with her.
Friend wanted to hire a car which I wasn’t bothered about, but she was keen and I offered to go halves but she said she was happy to pay for it as she was getting the holiday free. On that basis I decided to bring DD’s (big, heavy) car seat as it seemed tricky to book one for the hire car and after getting advice on here seemed a better idea overall.
We flew out two days ago. DD had never been on a plane before and was tearful and clingy so it was a huge help to have friend there and would have been a nightmare without her.
We’ve all three of us been suffering with a cold/chesty cough thing since being here but not incapacitated and everyone has been up and about and functioning ok.
Today friend went out for a few hours and on her return announced that she was feeling too unwell, the bed wasn’t comfortable enough and she was going home. I was just in shock and tried asking why but friend just kept repeating she felt ill and was leaving. I got quite panicky and angry and we argued but she’s gone. She took the car seat out of the hire car, brought it up to the apartment and left in the hire car.
I’m just in shock. There’s eight days left of the holiday, I’ve got more luggage than I can carry and I’m on my own with a two year old.
No other friends can come out at short notice.
My boyfriend can’t leave to come here as he’s housesitting. He called my friend to try to figure things out and she said she felt terrible but she had to be by herself and had been dealing with stress building up for a while. I feel bad that she isn’t feeling good but I’m hurt and angry that she’s left me in this situation. I haven’t heard from her since she left this afternoon.
What the fuck do I do? I’ll have to get a taxi to the airport when the time comes but not sure how to book one, it’s a small town and my Spanish is not great.
I would come home early but a) my mum has paid for this and would be really upset so I’m going to have to brave it out and say I had a brilliant time so as not to hurt her feelings and b) leaving early doesn’t actually solve any of the problems of carrying all the stuff and dealing with DD on my own on the plane (she has already informed me several times that she does not like the plane and isn’t going on it 😐) so I might as well stay till the end.
I’m just so bewildered and shocked and perhaps I am being selfish if friend is having some kind of crisis but I just don’t feel like speaking to her again after this
Okay, deep breaths. What your friend has done is completely random and without more information you can't make a decision about whether you want her to continue being your friend.
For the moment, enjoy the next eight days with your DD. You won't need a taxi until you go back to the airport - on your travels about town see if you can find some locals who can help you out. Use Google translate on your phone if needed!
I appreciate it's a crap situation , but hopefully you can make the best of it and sort out what's happening with your friend when you get back. Xx
Gosh that's really weird of your friend I would be so upset at that as well.
Logistically you will be fine! Are you in a hotel? Or complex I'm very sure there will be someone there who can arrange a taxi for you to the airport. Bar staff/local restaurant etc ask for help getting luggage down, or make a few trips pain in the ass yes but totally doable- you only need to do it once really.... airport dropped points have trolleys, load it up you will manage to get to check in to drop eveything.
Have a cocktail and be kind to yourself. Try to enjoy the sunshine and fun with your daughter.... and chocolate bribery for the flight home!
Sorry to hear all the trouble
Firstly, I would look at booking a taxi on the internet, then you know it’s all sorted. I’m sure that the taxi driver will help you with your luggage for a tip. Remember that you can check it in as soon as you get to the airport to get rid of it. Can someone meet you at the other end to help with luggage?
With you DD, I wouldn’t mention the flight again until much nearer the time to go home, then use bribery! Can you pick up a couple of new bits for the plan - a couple of small toys, some sweets and lollipops should do it. Then just make it clear that they are special aeroplane things to have on the way home, and get them out when you need them. I find lollipops especially good as they help with ear pressure too
Are you staying in an Airbnb type place? Ask the host to book your return taxi.
Ask the taxi to wait with your luggage while you get a luggage trolley.
Enjoy the holiday with your dd. As you said it could be years before you get away again so make the most of it even if it is just the two of you.
Thank you Pickle! You’re right, I just need to adjust (quickly) and I will, just feeling very alone right now! Thankfully there is WiFi!
Oh sorry cross posted with a few people there!
Thank you all, that’s really helpful advice
It sounds like she's had a bit of a mental health crisis but I'm sorry that you've been left in the lurch.
Try and make the most of it. I'm sure an explanation will emerge but put you and Dd first and enjoy the rest of the holiday.
Yes it’s an Airbnb, the host is lovely but speaks zero English and my Spanish is pathetic. I have managed to put this together to send to him by text:
"Hola, mi amigo tuvo que irse inesperadamente, así que necesitaré un taxi hasta el aeropuerto el 20 de septiembre. Por favor, ¿me puedes ayudar a reservar uno? Muchas gracias"
Please could any Spanish speakers tell me if that makes sense?
That is really stressful for you. I'm so sorry. We went to Spain in August and certainly in our area they used both Uber and another app called Cabify for taxis. They are both apps you can download on a mobile phone and book using a credit/debit card. Cabify asks for your 'national ID number' and for that I just entered my UK national insurance number, which worked fine. Cabify was very cheap, and you can use Google translate to write a message, then copy and paste it into the 'message for driver bit' when you book, adding a note that you don't speak Spanish.
Don’t panic. Your friend has behaved in a very strange way, but try to put that out of your mind for the moment and focus on the holiday. You will be fine. I am also a lone parent (since dd was a baby) and have been on lots of holidays alone with my dd, in all sorts of far flung destinations. You can have a great time!
Holy crap I'm sorry for the situation you are in, it was incredibly unfair of your friend but hey ho you are where you are now and you'll just need to put your big girl pants on and get on with it. Tell yourself you're going to have an amazing time. You will be an amazing Mum- you are abroad on your own with dd and you CAN DO IT!!!
Which resort are you in? Are you in an hotel? I agree with a pp, search the net for the most popular taxi firm and book a taxi for your return. Give yourself one more hour than you would have done if your friend would be with you, don't leave yourself short. What time is your flight? Be prepared with food and drinks.
Speak to other families with kids tomorrow and you may find some really great friends for the rest of the holiday.
Relax, have a drink and be so proud of what you are about to embark on. You will be fine!!!
I've travelled on my own with small babies and just wanted to reassure you that airports I've been to have really helped as well as other passengers - people have been really kind offering to fold buggies / carry babies etc.
BTW Google translate said your text was fine!
There are lots of translator apps available - google translate; speak and translate; instant voice and text translator etc. May help you?
Gosh I think if your friend is acting out of character then something serious must have happened. Whether on the holiday or at home.
Its a shame you will now be just you and dd for the rest of the holiday but only because it is unplanned - it will be a lovely time just the two of you.
You can do this.
Allow yourself half an hour to rant on here then start planning how you're going to enjoy the rest of your holiday. It's still a wonderful opportunity. You're in a beautiful place and you're with (presumably) your favourite person ie DD.
As PPs have said you can book a taxi online. Airport staff are very helpful when you're travelling with a DC. You could also download some cartoons or a film for her to watch on the flight.
It's a shame about your friend but don't stress. You can still have a wonderful time
Very weird of your friend. Your partner sounds fairly unsupportive as well, though, he’s housesitting?
That makes sense! Well done! You are worrying way too much. Try and enjoy the rest with your daughter. CD u buy some sweets for the plane and dole them out when she gets stressed/new teddy/colouring book? I do that and it tends to work.
Hi OP -
Hoppa.com is great for booking a transfer - you book and pay online - I've done it before it's so simple and easy to do :-)
It's stressful but you can do this - you'll have a lovely time with your dd - please stay and don't let her ruin your holiday
Try Mallorca taxis op. We’ve used them lots in the past. Book direct with them on the internet. Used them only last month x
Yes going to stock up on sweets and toys for the flight!
To the pp who said my partner is unsupportive, he’s not at all. He’s my boyfriend of a few months, I don’t live with him and his parents have gone on a cruise. He has to be there to look after the animals, there’s no one else who can do it otherwise he absolutely would have flown out, he’s upset that he can’t. He’s spent ages on the phone with me and spoken to my friend, he really can’t do any more.
I’m going to book a taxi somehow tomorrow, and make the most of being here!
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