9yo watched JAWS on sleepover(262 Posts)
I've just picked up my DD from a sleepover, she's just 9 and a gentle, fairly sensitive sort. First thing she says to me is "I really didn't like Jaws mummy!" And the dad is like "oh yeah that might not have been the best choice of movie ..."
I'm fewwwmin! Jaws is a horror film. I watched it recently and jumped out of my skin a few times. And I'm not bloody well 9. There's a shed load of claret and kids being eaten alive and realistic limbs being severed and we are - to cap it all off - going on our ONLY holiday of the whole year (cos we are skint) camping at the beach tomorrow. She's already told me she won't be getting in the water when she normally loves bodyboarding. CHEERS FOR THAT!!!
The kid who's house the sleepover happened at is a child who can't have sleepovers at anyone else's cos she gets anxious and stressed if she's away from her own home so how the effing chuff have they managed to show MY kid a horror movie while she's there!!!??? Grrrrrrrr
We have had a talk about there NOT being great whites around the UK and that the film is just pretend but she just recounted the part about the little boy getting eaten and burst into tears.
What would you do?
I wouldn't do anything, except not send her again if I was genuinely unhappy. This is one of those things that occurs as a problem to some people and not to others.
It's an awesome film. My dd watched it at 10. Bloody brilliant direction.
Apart from the head falling out of the boat you don't see anything really.
@GerdaLovesLili I know - but whether or not it is rated PG we know it's a horrible gorefest and I wouldn't show it to kids that young.
It’s not exactly the exorcist
I couldn’t get worked up about this.
Nothing you can do, that ship has sailed. I watched it about that age I think. Still scares me as an adult! I don't go near the sea for at least 6 months after watching it, way too scared.
BTW, what's 'fewwwmin'?
I saw it at the cinema when I was 11 (snuck in). It did scare me a bit but I survived. Honestly don't make a big deal out of it. It wasn't a porno.
Rent the movie. Point out every single fake shot and poke fun at it. It’s not at all realistic these days.
It’s a worry you were ‘jumping’ at it, it’s no wonder she’s so upset if you shelter her so much.
It’s a crap, of its time - now glaringly fake - film. It’s more comedy than horror.
If one of my dc get scared or upset by a film I try and find footage of how the film is made and what the actors are up to now to show them it isn't real.
Its a PG though, they did nothing wrong.
Looks like you've found the neighbourhood's Bad Family.
We were that family. 6 yr olds would come to us, watch Dodgeball
and go home asking "Mummy what's a muffdiver?"
When we has kids on sleepover I'd ask their parents what films to ban/watch.
All kids are different and get upset by different things. DS1 loved horror and sci fi films, but I couldn't let him watch anything weepy like ET or Free Willy, it would have been too much for him.
YABU for this monstrosity
I wouldn’t have thought this was suitable for a 9yo either but I suppose it is a PG and the parents maybe judged it by their own kid who may have been fine with it? I don’t think there is much you can do now except keep reassuring your daughter. Maybe she would like to learn more about sharks and how rare shark attacks are, even in places where they are common? It might make her feel better.
It’s one of ds2’s favourite films and he’s only 7.
No it isn't! Have you actually seen it.
There's the severed arm on the beach (roughly 3 seconds)
Bllod in the water
Head falling out of boat (yes that is a jump scare)
Robert Shaw blood in mouth when he's being munched.
There might be a leg as well.
It’s a crap, of its time - now glaringly fake - film
It's superbly directed and hasn't dated much. The special effects of the shark were pretty crap even then.
The shot on the beach of Chief Brodys face is masterful
I agree with you, I’d be upset too. I saw Jaws around the same age as your DD and I have been terrified of the sea ever since. It’s a great film but I don’t plan on letting my children watch it until they’re teens!
It really isn't a gorefest and most definitely not a horror movie, there's not much in it and definitely no realistic looking severed limbs, I watched it with my DCs recently. Very dated and fake looking. However different things scare different kids, my 10 yo gets scared at the end of Harry Potter but is fine with stuff like Ghostbusters or Gremlins.
I think if you are a bit more relaxed then maybe she won't feel so stressed about it, nothing you can do now except not to make a big deal about it and hopefully she'll forget about it.
No comment on the film but love fewwwminn.
See also - Lake Placid. I had a right panic when we went lake swimming in Sweden only last year.
I must say though, there is no way I would show it to 9yos on a sleepover, I always check with parents about films before they watch them at my house.
@PatrolThat just say it in a scouse accent and it will hopefully make sense
She's not "sheltered" I just don't tend to show little kids movies with loads of blood in regardless of who directed it.
I wouldn't have shown it either OP but seriously it's not that bad.
I don't know why you keep saying it's a gorefest
I’m sure it was an X certificate when it first came out wasn’t it?
Yikes ds 3 loves it!!
And all the Jurassic park films!!
Ethylred! Us too. Maybe not quite as young as six but mine have had all watched it by ages 8 and 10. Benchwarmers, Talladego Nights and Blades of Glory are also favourites!
We also showed Jaws on a sleepover with 9 year olds. I did text the mums first. The kids found it entertaining. They jumped when the face appears suddenly in the boat underwater but otherwise didn’t find it frightening.
Oh dear. Mine were 10 when DH showed them Jaws. My only concern was that they would find it a little lame after watching the Sharknado box set my DH got Christmas and showed them whklst I was visiting my elderly mother back in the uk.
Tell her it is a work of fiction. Make believe. Although it seems real it was liken to her favourite programme and Minecraft etc. Tell her their is no pressure to get in the water on holiday but it may be a little boring sitting on the beach and watching everyone have fun in the water especially when she knows rher is no sharks. I am sure she will come round.
I know it doesn't seem like it at the moment but she will laugh about it in time to come. So will you. And seriously, Jaws is an excellent first film to scare the crap out of you.
The Dad was a bit of an idiot showing a film like that without checking if it was okay with you. All kids are different. Don't know if it's worth mentioning it as the damage is done now but maybe check what films are been planned in future.
@Twistella you said it yourself love
There's the severed arm on the beach (roughly 3 seconds)
Bllod in the water
Head falling out of boat (yes that is a jump scare)
Robert Shaw blood in mouth when he's being munched.
There might be a leg as well.
Just reminded me my 10 year old is begging me to watch this.
He has seen Jurassic world, the new one in a 4D cinema which is way more scary than this. So I'm going to let him watch it.
He loves stuff like this and I'd say wierd child, but he gets it from his mother I suppose
It's very obviously a mechanical shark.
My 6 year old has watched it and understands it's not real.
Can't imagine getting too upset about this. Just play it down, yes yes darling I'm sure it was scary but it's not real, off you pop.
I’d definitely not show it on a sleepover but my own dd saw it when she was 6 (I did zoom through the Quint mauling though)
Dd absolutely loves Jaws and has no fear of the water, in fact in a recent holiday she was determined to get in the water and snorkel with a 3m tiger shark.
Just give her lots of reassurance and maybe watch some documentaries about sharks so that she sees the truth rather than the nonsense that is jaws.
Either that or let her watch Jaws 3, it’s so shit she’ll soon realise that it’s all nonsense.
I watched it on tv when I was about 7/8 - I remember because my mum was up at the primary school for parents' evening & my dad was home with us. Best film ever!!!
It’s Jaws. She’s 9 not 3.
I must have watched it about that age- no big deal.
Get over it
Oh and it’s fuming, not feeewmin
This thread just shows that people will make a mountain out of any molehill. YABU.
She's old enough that you can couple educate her about sharks. Even the author of the source novel said "If I'd known anything about shark behaviour, I wouldn't have written the book".
They simply don't behave like that. If they do attack, it's because they've mistaken us for a seal of something. We're too bony and don't have enough fat or meat to be enjoyable to a shark. Just explain to her how sharks really behave and that this is all pretend to scare us for fun. If it was a cartoon, she wouldn't be as scared.
Definitely not as scary as the Jurassic Park films, honestly no need for such drama. It's happened now and she will be fine I'm sure, I suspect she senses your anxiety about it. Now if they had showed her Saw that would be totally different. Jaws is a relatively suitable for kids so I imagine she'll be over it pretty quickly.
Cheers for all the helpful advice. And cheers for all the as expected STFU AIBU "advice" too cos I always like a laugh.
Is there blood in minecraft? She loves that (but it's at her dads, I'm not all that up to date with what they do there she just seems to collect wolves and tame them?) so maybe that's a good angle.
We've already spoken about it being all pretend. I'll show her some cool David Attenborough blue planet stuff about sharks too. I will reassure. It's just annoying and bloody rubbish timing with the beach holiday tomorrow we've all been looking forward to.
I still hate being in the sea after watching that movie.
@VikingBlonde I'm shit at accents. I have a friend from Liverpool though, so I'll ask her when I next see her.
You could show her some of the prop photos, that might ease her mind that it's definitely fake.
Like this media.aintitcool.com/media/legacy/images/jawsfest/smBarrels&Fins.jpg
Crumbs, jaws was one of my favourite films when I was little. think I've seen more blood watching the news tbh.
Depends on the child surely? Some kids don't worry about these sorts of films and some do.
I remember seeing jaws at a young age and it really got into my head. I really don't like the sea at all since and I think watching it affected me. That and the fantastic John Williams score. He made a fibre glass pretend shark seem genuinely terrifying with that iconic music.
As an adult I got over it but sharks still scare me. Everyone's different.
I think if she's getting upset about it show her the making of doc. It can help.
My 11 year old watched IT on a sleepover. Can’t say I’d get that worked up over Jaws.
I am sure I have heard my boys killing piggies on minecraft, not sure there is blood in it though
@PatrolThat we did just say that sharks prefer to eat seals not humans because a humans come in wetsuits which are really disgusting tasting and their air canisters make the sharks fart. It's all good.
I just needed a vent.
Probably being unreasonable for wanting a vent. YABVU blahhhh
It's a pg?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My DD would not handle jaws at all and she's 10 soon.
YA (absolutely) NBU. I would be completely fuming too. Just because it’s a PG does not mean it’s suitable. Pg was a lot different then to now.
I won’t even let my 11 year old watch it as he’s a bit sensitive and would prob never go in the sea again!
Liveruns - I am not sure I'd be ok with IT at 11, that one would really depend on the child, I watched the original but haven't been brave enough to watch the new one lol.
was first released uncut in 1975 with an ‘A’ certificate – which meant that the film may be unsuitable for younger children. Following its theatrical release, Jaws was then later certified as ‘PG’ for all subsequent releases on VHS and DVD.
My sensitive ds1 watched it on a sleepover at the age of 7. It is ds2 who's never seen it, who is scared of sharks in England .
Just be dismissive. It's tense rather than gory.
We watched it with DS when he was about 10/11 and he hates scary films. He only got a bit glum when the dog was eaten 'Awwwww poor dog!'.
David Attenborough sounds a sensible antidote. Or maybe some how-this-film-was-made-stuff, probably easily available on YouTube. Nothing like taking the mechanics apart to lose your fear. Mind you, that can back-fire. When LOTR was new, I tried to prep dd by showing her how the orcs fell off the battlements onto a blue bouncing mat. She was captivated by this whole world of make-believe and is now about to start her second year at drama school. Perhaps David Attenborough and STEM subjects might have been better.
Meh, I couldnt get worked up about this. I read the Jaws novel at 9 and saw the movie at the same time. I read The meg 15 years ago and and was thrilled to take my 13 year old and ten year old to see it in 3D last night. I was a sweaty bag of panic and they loved every second of it.
As others have said. Its a PG. I would find it hard to get worked up about this and would just reiterate that it isnt real etc. It isnt like he made them sit and watch "IT" !
Just be dismissive about it.
If you get worked up the so will she.
I couldnt get overly angry about this I’m
Obviously, the thread will fill with more eye-rolling, 'what's the problem, my kids watch zombie films at 2' etc comments, but it's fairly obvious that not all kids are the same and it would be really inappropriate to show someone else's young children a film that might upset them.
None of my DC would like that - two would probably have been really distressed by it.
I think most parents are respectful of the fact that they should only show suitable films to other people's kids or at least check with them first at that age, but obviously there's some fairly thoughtless types around as well.
I'm in my 30's and I'm too scared to watch it!
I didn't realise it was a PG. Clearly I'm a bigger wimp than I thought.
I'd echo the suggestion of someone further up the thread OP. Try and find some footage of them making the film, which might make her see how its all pretend.
I also think it was an A.A. rating, not an X, although I’m not sure when the x rating was raised to mean 18 and over, rather than 16 ? A.A. was for 14 and over. I am amazed it is a PG now, I think censorship has gone crazily slack. Miss Peregrines Home for Peculiar Children was a 12, and really horrible, should have been a 15.
I’m with you on this op, personally I always check with parents when showing any film to visiting children. I think nine is too young for severed heads, however unrealistic, and I think that desensitising young children to gore and violence is not a good thing at all.
Really you see worse in Eastenders and Emmerdale these days broadcast before 9 than you would in JAWS. Likewise Brookside used to be on at 5 o clock on a Saturday evening and was filled with violence, drugs, prostutition etc. Really a 9 yo seeing JAWS is pretty tame to what they'd see/hear at school these days with phones etc.
Does she watch any of the Jurassic films? Ds loves them, but they're probably on a par with/ worse than Jaws. He's 7. Tbh though I'd probably be a but miffed as I'd have thought that most parents would check with a child's parents before letting them watch something like that. We even checked about Raiders of the Lost Ark because I found the ending scary at the age of 11 (loved it and still do though!)
I'd be seriously hacked off with the parents, too.
We first saw Jaws when living in a hot country and most of us went to the beach every weekend. After that viewing, a good many of the adults didn't feel like swimming in the any more!
To be entirely fair there were sharks in the area, though not Great Whites - as I was all too aware more than once after falling off while water skiiing - dangling in the water while dh who was driving the bloody boat took ages to come back...
I saw it when I was six. Yes it made me jump, but I wasn't scarred for life.
However that film has spawned the ridiculous media obsession with sharks and sharks are suffering 40 years later because of it. The chap who wrote it feels so contrite about that, he has devoted himself to shark conservation now.
More people get killed by falling coconuts, FGS.
(I do like "fewwwminn" though. Got to be said in a Valleys accent.)
our ONLY holiday of the whole year
You poor buggers. ONLY one?
<whispers> I can't afford any holidays this year, I thought one was the norm.
Never seen Jaws btw.
The novel is the "Book at Bedtime" on Radio 4 this week and next week. I still haven't seen Jaws, I was a sensitive child who hated scary movies, but my nine year-old DD loves it! She's currently trying to recreate it with Lego and is using DH as camera operative while she directs proceedings.
My DS is a bit obsessed with all things ocean. He has this book www.youtube.com/watch?v=JwkKDzdGXOo it might help.
YABU in the strength of your reaction. I can see being a bit fed up but not so angry.
It's a 40-year old PG film by Spielberg. He's always been on the scary/tense end of things - Jurassic Park scared the bejesus out of my friend when we saw it at the pictures.
Yes, if your child was upset it was not an ideal choice, but it's not like they slapped on a slasher film.
PG means the BBFC thinks children older than 8 should probably be fine with a film.
I was probably about the same age when I watched Jaws for the first time, and apart from checking under my bed for about a week before I went to sleep it never did me any psychological harm.Just ask my shrink if you don't believe me.
Sorry but Jaws as in the original? The effects are so bad its laughable.
Try explaining that its all movie "magic" nothing to be scared about, sharks rarely ever attack anyone especially in the UK. Maybe show her some behind the scenes type stuff on YouTube showing her how they make animatronics for movies etc? doesn't have to be Jaws just something in general to help her understand that its not real life!
Cows kill more people than sharks do, but probably don't tell her that..
I love Jaws. But wouldn’t show it to 9 year olds.
Some people who aren’t scared by stuff also lack the understanding that other people might be unnerved by what they just laugh at. In my experience, a complete lack of imagination is at the root of both these character traits.
NutElla5x did you sleep in an aquarium?
Well it's certainly not a film I would show to 9 year old on a sleep over.
However dd has been asking to watch it for ages. She's nealry 11 so maybe it's time .
It's not that bad - I saw it was I was around ten and it made me scared of sitting on the loo or having a bath for a while though . I saw it again recently, and although it's still a good story, the film has dated badly I think. My DC (a bit older than yours, admittedly) laughed all the way through it.
Having said that, I wouldn't show somebody else's child any remotely scary film without checking first. There are so many choices of 'safe' films, it hardly seems worth the possible fallout.
no YANBU i'd be annoyed too. My dd wouldn't have watched it and would have gone to another room.
what's wrong with
Mary poppins, Annie, High School Musical etc etc...
PatrolThat , fewwwmin ia a Liverpool phrase that people use instead of fuming (being very angry) I use it a lot.
It's PG, they've done nothing wrong. Well actually they have, in that they didn't check with the actual parents of the child - Parental Guidance is exactly that. This is why most primary schools seek parental consent before showing a PG at school. Individual parents are the ones who should make that decision on behalf of their own child, given how children differ so much regarding what may or may not upset them, not some random other adults. If I was the OP I wouldn't be happy about it either.
My DC watched Jaws at home when the littlest was eight. Maybe seven.
I was fine with that.
I think you should take a deep breath and calm down. There's a documentary on how the movie was made available on YouTube. Perhaps if you watch it with your daughter it will calm you both down a bit.
Oh God, I couldn't watch it now because it scared me so much when it first came out. It is quite likely that it will have aged badly though. The bit where Dreyfus swims under the boat and finds the corpse gave me screaming nightmares. Having said that, OP, your daughter is very much at the age where she'll start to see scary films with friends and at the end of the day I have seen worse stuff than that on the supposedly family friendly DM website.
I wouldn't worry about that. I'm not sure what theme park it was in Orlando but there was a Jaws ride, lots of kids on it. The flippin thing comes right out of the water at you, now that's frightening. I think I watched American Werewolf in London at that age, yes I was very scared but I survived. That was at a friends house with parents there too.
I don't think UABU tbh. Yes, some 8 yrs will be ok with and so will some 6yr olds. Equally some 11yr olds or even adults will be shit scared of it (like me )
I think that's why most sensible parents would check with other parents about playing it at the sleepover as you just don't know the kids well enough.
I remember it being a really horrible feeling watching films at sleepovers when I was younger that I was too scared of but too embarassed to speak up.
If it scared her no amount of everyone saying how cool their kids were about it will change that, she's entitled to feel that way.
Off subject but there seems to be a bit of a competitive trend among some acquaintances of how scary a film their child can cope with, like it's a badge of honour or something. I just find it weird and a bit sad.
Hope she still enjoys her hols!
User12879923378 It hasn't aged badly at all. We watch it every couple of years, minus the kids though as they are still little.
If it makes you feel better, a babysitter once let us watch 'Pet Sematary'. I was 8, my DB and DS were much younger. They had nightmares for ages. It got me into Stephen King's work and I've not looked back.
It bugs me a bit when people say "just tell them it isn't real" or "my DC weren't scared, they know it isn't real." Because by that rationale, we can show kids anything and they won't be upset or scared, because it isn't real, so let's bash on the Texas Chainsaw Massacre or Ring or Saw!
I mean, the film industry knows what it's doing when it makes horror or suspense films. If they didn't affect people who know it's not real, they might as well shut up shop and go home, because that's all of us. Jaws is a very well-made film, which is why it's a classic.
I saw it aged about 8-9 and was VERY scared. I knew the shark was fake and the actors were acting and the blood was fake blood. But I had an imagination and couldn't stop thinking about the horror of being eaten alive - it was that scene with the guy that gets eaten from the feet up, so he's awake and aware he's being eaten.
I had a similar reaction to Robocop, which I didn't even SEE, but just overheard from the next room .
So while I wouldn't be fuming at this happening on a sleepover, I would be annoyed. That said, I am sure your DD will get over it, I did (and got massively into films as a teenager and grew to love Jaws and Robocop!)
If it scared her no amount of everyone saying how cool their kids were about it will change that, she's entitled to feel that way
Exactly. There is a fair bit of judgemental, patronizing crap on this thread, designed to make the OP feel as though she's somehow in the wrong. The OP's DD cried afterwards - it really upset her.
YADNBU OP, I would have been pissed off in the same situation.
I would also be fuming.
It is not age appropriate
I saw it aged 10 and didn't go in the sea again until I was 40.
Recent thread on the new film the meg was full of adults with serious water phobias.. All of us had seen Jaws as a child.
Honestly I don't think there is much you can do now.
Took my 2 yr old on the jaws ride at universal, she loved it, now 9 she's seen jaws and was a bit scared but not traumatised, we were discussing with another 9 yr old friend the other day who totally freaked out and got anxious about it and that was only a discussion however said child not at all bothered about the scary stuff in the harry Potter films which my dd would be frightened of, it all depends on the child and how they perceive things, I m happy to scare my own child shitless with monster movies (currently trying to entice her to watch tremors with no luck so far) but I would be more careful about what other kids watch when at our house.
* did you sleep in an aquarium?*
No I was just very very stupid.I also remember being scared to sit on the loo,and as for flushing it EEEK!
To all those saying Jaws is a PG... actually, for its re-release in 2012 it was upgraded to a 12A and the currently available blu ray is also rated 12
I still saw it on TV at home on my own when I was 7 and never did me any harm. I've only got four bodies under my patio.
My ds watched it aged 9 and thought it was hilariously bad. Said he felt sorry for me that special effects were so rubbish when I was a kid. He's very much a realist though and never been easily scared. I also saw it around that age and managed not to develop a phobia of the sea. Saying all that I would ask the parents first where someone else's child is concerned.
Oooo we watched Robocop, the new one recently. Excellent. We then watched the original and really enjoyed it.
Some films just stand the test of time.
travesty he's clearly never going to make a film critic! It's genius in places.
YANBU OP. Yes sure, it's not as bad as lots of films, but it is intended to be scary and would really frighten plenty of 9 year-olds (and not all kids like to be frightened by films, though some do). It is frankly an idiotic choice for a 9 year-old's sleepover unless you really know your audience very well and are sure they wouldn't be freaked out.
IT'S NOT A PG.
It was a PG when the classification '12' and '12A' did not exist. Since 2012, Jaws has been re-classified as a '12A'.
"And then there’s news of a new UK classification (rating) for Jaws. It has long been classified PG, but has now been bumped up to the very slightly more restrictive 12A (children 12 and under admitted only with an adult) certificate."
My DC watched Jurassic Park at a friend's house - up until then they had only really seen Disney type stuff. They were The little ones were up in the night and I thought and we tried to explain it was just a film etc.
Then they wanted to do it again, and again. . Totally hooked on scary stuff
I was 4 when I first watched it, and it’s remained my favourite film. Both my kids I tried introducing it too and they think
It’s boring and the shark doesn’t look realistic! Thanks CGI
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