I have 2 step daughters who have both chosen undesirable life partners and it's driving me mad.<br><br>They've been with me since they were 4 and 6 and I've always treated them as my own. We're a middle class family and they've had a really good upbringing. Both of them have had really nice boyfriends when they've been growing up from similar backgounds etc.<br><br>Now they're in the 20's, their latest life partner choices which they've chosen to set up home with are a bloody nightmare and I'm really struggling with it.<br><br>One of them started seeing someone on benefits who was living in a one bed council flat which I can only describe as a drug den. His flat is filthy and he's a complete no hoper. When he first visited our home, he thought all his Christmases has come at once. <br><br>One time, they started having a major argument in our home and our daughter asked us to protect her as he was getting physical with her. My wife stepped in to tell him to calm down and he started on her! She rang me at work as it was getting out of hand so I had to come home and try to get control of the situation. Basically, when I told him I wouldn't tolerate his behaviour towards my daughter or my wife, he started to threaten me with violence!<br><br>I threw him out of our house and told my daughter that was it, he wasn't welcome but she sided with him and left with him. They now blame me for the breakdown in the relationship and say I'm the one being unreasonable. He sent a half hearted text saying sorry and it was his medication to blame. <br><br>My wife is heartbroken that our daughter won't speak to her and wants us to sweep it all under the carpet but I can't. He's a fruitcake, and I don't need him in our lives.<br><br>Our other daughter, having again, had a variety of normal boyfriends met someone we later found out had "done time" at her majesties pleasure for a violent related crime. <br><br>We were told it was all in the past and he'd changed etc. It took us some time to accept him and come to terms with her choice. Lately, she's moved back in with us as she's told us he's been beating her. no major broken bones, or bruises (that we know of) but a slap here and there and bullying. <br><br>He's a big drinker and things are getting out of control. She's now thinking of going back as he's threatening suicide for her leaving him. She feels sorry for him. <br><br>He's another fuitcake and a bloody liability.<br><br>For two kids that have had everything growing up, come from a lovely home, are both really well educated and are used to the nice things in life, how on earth to do they settle for such idiots?<br><br>Both our daughters are absolutely stunning, they could literally have their pick of anyone. It's breaking my heart seeing my daughters treated so badly and I genuinely have no idea what I can do.<br><br>Why????