My dd(17) has severe social anxiety which she has been working really hard to overcome. She decided to take driving lessons to help her with that and was really excited and keen to learn although obviously nervous as anyone would be. She received funding to help her with the cost of lessons, in order to apply for the funding we needed to get a detailed quote in a certain format from the driving instructor we had decided to go with. That meant admitting to the instructor that we were applying for funding and led to her asking questions about it.
That's when alarm bells should have been ringing and I should have gone with a driving school instead. She tried to tell me that my would find an automatic easier and would find it difficult to learn in a manual car. She made that assumption based on the fact that my daughter was receiving disability funding despite being told that my daughter's only problem is severe social anxiety. It has no impact whatsoever on her intelligence or ability to learn new skills. However we got the funding and paid for the first block of 10 lessons.
The first lesson went well and my dd was happy and excited for the next one, she came home with her appt card and progress report and signed the terms and conditions at the back. At the end of the 2nd lesson the instructor told her that she was going on holiday for 3 weeks and advised her to book junior driving lessons in that time! I was really pissed off and should have complained there and then as I feel she should have mentioned her holiday before booking my daughter in for lessons. My dd didn't want to make a fuss so I left it but didn't book junior lessons as they are miles from where we live and not cheap.
She should have had a lesson when the instructor returned from holiday but she cancelled 15 mins before the lesson when dd was sitting ready to leave, apparently she had a flat tyre. Since then she has cancelled twice with 30 mins notice because she had a migraine and a vomiting bug. She rescheduled an appt for the 6th lesson and dd should have had that yesterday morning at 9am. However because of all the messing about we got the time mixed up and thought the lesson was 9.30am. Dd was ready to leave well before 9am anyway but only checked her text messages and realised her mistake at 9.15am. I looked out and no sign of the instructor, dd tried to text but no answer, she also ignored my call. I sent a text to ask her to contact dd as she should have had a lesson at 9am. I got an arsey reply telling me she'd parked outside for 10 mins but as blinds were shut she thought dd had slept in.
I sent her a message asking her to refund the money for the remaining lessons as they were too inconsistent, no flexibility with times and just not working for my daughter. I got a very cheeky reply telling me that she was not surprised as my daughter is nervous, not enjoying lessons etc. She said that she would charge yesterday's lesson as a no show and would refund the final 4 lessons (after initially trying to work a fly one and charge for the lessons she'd cancelled). I replied that it was not a no show if she made no attempt to let my daughter know she was outside, a simple text message would have solved the problem. I suggested that she should be willing to let it slide given that she'd cancelled at short notice 3 times and waited until we'd transferred £250 and signed a contract before telling dd she was going on holiday!
That pissed her off and I got a phone call telling me my dd was unable to learn, blatant lies telling me that she'd advised us about her holiday in advance, my dd was unable to learn, she's not responsible for letting us know she's outside. She said she does not knock on anyone's door and it's illegal to sound a horn at 9am, then she hit out with '" I'm not here to nurse your daughter by sending her a text message". That's when I lost the plot, I called her a stupid looking cow, told her to go fuck herself and told her she'd better get the money refunded. I also told her that I would be reporting her to DVSA. Admittedly not my finest moment but I'd been biting my tongue throughout her phone call given the tone of her voice and the sly digs about dd.
Anyway, apologies for the long post but can anyone advise how to proceed? I doubt she'll willingly give a refund now. I think it's disability discrimination and she told my dd she'd been giving an autistic boy lessons for a year after he'd had a year of lessons in an automatic. She's ripping the piss, she thought she would string these lessons out because my daughter had funding to cover it and she'll be doing it to other people too if she gets away with it. I only found out yesterday that she's told dd on the first lesson that she would find it too difficult to learn but that I had insisted on manual over automatic. My daughter's confidence has really been knocked because of her.
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GLASGOWGIRL82 · 18/08/2018 11:29
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