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WIBU to post Dsis her kids back and ruin her holiday?

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Santasjinglebelle · 15/08/2018 22:21

WTAF to do?
Agreed to have niece (8) and nephew (7) over to stay for a while so Dsis and hubby can attend destination wedding/ first holiday without kids in tow.
Last time they were here I put them both in pyjamas pants as I know that they're prone to accidents and I just don't have the time or energy (or inclination to be frank) to keep up with the additional laundry.
Dniece pipped up earlier to tell me me that neither of them will be wearing pyjama pants this time round as their mummy told them not to.
Thinking they must have misheard, I call Dsis to get her to speak with them. Dsis proceeds to berate me for wanting to "humiliate" her children. Apparently pyjamas pants encourage bedwetting by infantilise slow developers - better to let them feel uncomfortable in their own piss and learn the hard way.
Before I could get out any kind of response she fobbed me off with some shite about a dodgy line and hung up!!
WTF am I supposed to do? They went to bed at 8pm and used the toilet first but I've just changed nephew's sheets! Another 8 nights of this makes me want to weep.
No other relatives near enough to pawn off on, niece is adamant, nephew does what his sister says and Dsis not answering phone anymore.
Hubby's response (he was joking) "try Easy jet." But now I'm seriously considering this, WIBU?

OP posts:
mimibunz · 15/08/2018 22:25

Your house your rules. Your sister had no right to leave without telling you the full story.

Sailinghappy · 15/08/2018 22:25

I would insist that they wear them if they are not capable of sleeping through without wetting the bed. Your house, your rules.

Belina · 15/08/2018 22:26

Yeah wrap them up and post them in the letter box that makes a lot of sense

Losingthewill1 · 15/08/2018 22:27

If they refuse to be sensible ( they shouldn’t be wetting the bed at those ages) then get pull up pants for them, keep calling your sister everyone one of them has a bloody accident and be stern with the kid

MynameisJune · 15/08/2018 22:27

Either they wear the pants or they sleep elsewhere. And I’d text/WhatsApp your DSis telling her she tells them to wear pants or you’re putting them on a plane to where she is.

Teacherontherun · 15/08/2018 22:28

Ummmm tricky. Ehilst its going to be really annoying I totally agree that 8 is far too old to still be in bed pants!

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/08/2018 22:29

They’re in your house and you’re in charge.

Guiltypleasures001 · 15/08/2018 22:29

Post the soiled sheets through her letter box, or give her them yo wash
Dunelms tomorrow for rubber mattress covers

MynameisJune · 15/08/2018 22:29

Sleeping through without wetting the bed is hormonal. They might not be able to help it. Don’t make it worse by saying stuff like ‘oh you’re too old to wet the bed’ although at 8 and 7 I’d have probably see the GP by now.

fuzzywuzzy · 15/08/2018 22:30

Pyjama pants and tell them in your house they do as per your rules. I’d also get disposable bed mats in case they take off the pyjama pants during the night.

3boys3dogshelp · 15/08/2018 22:30

Your Dsis shouldn’t have just left them without saying anything but she is right that pyjama pants for a week will not help them if they are trying to get dry at night. How about a compromise? They wear pyjama pants but wear ordinary pants under them so if they wee they feel wet?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 15/08/2018 22:30

Tell them they can either wear pj pants or they can change and wash their sheets themselves?

(@Losingthewill1 - shouldn't be? Rubbish. Kids will be dry when they're dry.)

PippaPug · 15/08/2018 22:30

Are they dry during the night? Or is she expecting you to night train them?!!

LIZS · 15/08/2018 22:30

Can you buy incontinence pads for the beds (and keep receipts) . What does she normally do at home? If she changes the rules she should have informed you first.

beingthere · 15/08/2018 22:30

Disposable bed sheets.

user1471546851 · 15/08/2018 22:31

Is very generous of you to have dsis kids for over a week! Nevermind her expecting you to have extra work with pissy bedsheets every night Hmm
I'd text her if she won't answer her phone and say that you didn't agree to all the extra washing and it won't hurt them wearing the pj pants for a week while she's away but if she is unhappy about it then she needs to make alternative arrangements for her dcs with someone who is on board with her free peeing rules Grin

MalloryLaurel · 15/08/2018 22:31

Being stern with the kid won't help. If you're asleep and wet the bed, it's not on purpose! Only water in the afternoon and definitely no drink an hour before bed. When you go to bed, get them up and put them on the toilet for a wee. Some drinks stimulate the bladder, I think...

HollowTalk · 15/08/2018 22:32

Get your husband to send you a text: "I've changed my mind, kids. Let Aunty get some pants just for the holidays. Lots of love, Mum xxx"

Grin

HollowTalk · 15/08/2018 22:32

Just re-reading - what do you mean by pyjama pants? Are they naked?

leccybill · 15/08/2018 22:32

Do you have your own children?

It's still normal according to HVs to bedwet at 7 so not so unusual, my own DD only cracked it around 7.
Can they stay up a little later? Thus lessening the chance of early wetting. My 8yo has been going to bed at 8.30-9 during the holidays.
Are they nice kids generally?

Stompythedinosaur · 15/08/2018 22:32

I think your sister is unreasonable to have left without discussing this first.

However, the to manage the current situation I would get some disposable bed mats to stick on the bed on top of the sheets.

And then never have them to stay again!

Also - 8 nights babysitting for a wedding is a mistake!

Xmasbaby11 · 15/08/2018 22:33

Well it's your house but I agree with dsil - they are too old for pull ups. I know the laundry is a pain though. Wake them up at 10 to go to the toilet?

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Stompythedinosaur · 15/08/2018 22:33

Mistake = pisstake

My autocorrect is very polite!

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 15/08/2018 22:34

Pull ups for sure. My 7yo wears them still though the younger one is fully dry. Occasionally he days he doesn't want to wear them - I tell him to show me dry ones in the morning and he can skip them. Hasn't happened yet. I especially make sure he wears them when he's sleeping elsewhere so he doesn't wet someone else's bedding and I take waterproof sheets with me to put under normal sheets too just in case of leakages.

soupmaker · 15/08/2018 22:34

At 8 and 7 plenty of kids are still bed wetting. They can't help it. They're not doing it deliberately. Kids get dry eventually and most GPs won't be concerned until they are at least 8.

As the mother of a late bed wetter, I'd be explaining that in your house pj pants are worn as you don't want them to be wet and uncomfortable in bed. End off.

Purchase cheap waterproof shower curtains for protecting the mattresses.

Good luck, and your DSis is a CF.

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