So DS is 4 non verbal with ASD and SLD. he also has a sensory issue where he constantly mouths anything he picks up, though it’s gotten a lot better. Can’t take him to neurotypical soft play or such as the noise and other kids trigger an automatic meltdown. Neurotypical nurseries also won’t take him as they are not equipped.
A daycare close to us opened a special unit for children with ASD and special needs. It provided smaller groups such with more staff on hand and sensory play/activities. I was incredibly happy about this as DS would get the social interaction and stimulus he needed while in an enviroment with other kids like him.
They had him for 5 months. In this time he really improved, more eye contact and response, less mouthing etc a week or so ago I had a phone call from one of the girls in his room saying they would have to move him form the special unit to the neurotypical preschool unit just for the month of August as they were understaffed. It was either that or take him out for the month so I agreed to the move.
A day or so ago I had a phone call from their manager saying a recent risk assement meant they couldn’t have DS back because his mouthing was a choking hazard and they think they he is almost a one to one case in terms of need. The manger said the other girls were in agreement and agreed that he was ‘too severe’ for them to cater to his needs and that they were training their girls in terms of choking hazards but they don’t think they could provide the care he needs for another year at best. I was honestly devastated as I thought he had come along so well but I’ve been mulling over it. They had him for 5 months, they knew about his mouthing, which was so much worse when he actually started the establishment. I gave them every report I had of his and explained his likes, dislikes, triggers.
Firstly, why are their girls only being trained in choking hazards now? Secondly, If they really thought he was a danger in their risk assement why wasn’t he dismissed earlier? There was no small print in terms of their special unit, no restrictions. Why now when he’s improved so much? I don’t know, I just feel things don’t add up. But Perhaps I’m just gutted because I thought he’d come along so well and now he doesn’t understand why his routine has been upset.
Has anyone had experience with this? Do you think it sounds off?
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Kratos · 15/08/2018 16:57
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