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DD going to bed at 8am and getting up at 6pm, would you allow this?

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evergreenmi · 14/08/2018 17:44

Exactly what the title says. Thanks.

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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 14/08/2018 17:46

Without her age & a context it's hard to say.

Grimbles · 14/08/2018 17:46

Why is she sleeping during the day

How old is she

user139328237 · 14/08/2018 17:46

How old is she?
If 12 no if 22 probably.

DontTryJustBe · 14/08/2018 17:47

How old is she? What are her reasons for doing so? Does it fit with you and your lifestyle or cause you problems?

Livedandlearned2 · 14/08/2018 17:47

I can imagine my dd doing that, she's 13 and has always had trouble sleeping. It would bother me if she kept me awake at night or never left the house.

RaininSummer · 14/08/2018 17:48

Doesnt sound healthy unless she is working the night shift. What is the reason or is it just young adult on holiday thing?

Sarahandduck18 · 14/08/2018 17:49

Age?

evergreenmi · 14/08/2018 17:50

She's 18. Starts uni in September (living at home for it) has been sleeping like this for 3 weeks. She works in the evenings, gets ready as soon as she wakes up, but not a night shift and has to set an alarm on these days (4pm!!)

It's driving me mad honestly. She isn't noisy or anything at night but can't stand the sleep pattern.

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evergreenmi · 14/08/2018 17:50

Just want to say I know she is an adult but also that I can have house rules.

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Crunchymum · 14/08/2018 17:51

Lots of mitigating factors surely?

But no unless she was a nightshift worker then no I wouldn't be a fan.

Is she a gamer? Does she work?

Nicknacky · 14/08/2018 17:51

What time does she finish work?

NotAllIndividuals · 14/08/2018 17:52

Why does it upset you so much? Honest question.

Tumbleweed101 · 14/08/2018 17:52

What time does she get home from work? It may be she is then unwinding for a couple hours after getting in too.

Grimbles · 14/08/2018 17:52

Why does it bother you? What drives you mad about it?

Vitalogy · 14/08/2018 17:54

I'd leave her to it, my son has had many of these phases, especially in the holidays. If she's not noisy, why do you think it's bothering you so much?

WhyAreWeddingsSoAwks · 14/08/2018 17:54

Some people need to feel they have had an “evening” of downtime after coming home from work. Sounds like she has just shifted the start time of a pretty normal day?

P.s: I did this from 18-21 but it’s because I was online gaming Grin

Byebyebye · 14/08/2018 17:55

Why would your house rules include her sleeping? Especially when she works evenings?

Seems like you just want to tell her what to do.

Sweetsongbird1 · 14/08/2018 17:55

So she is working shifts ?? Hmm

Duchessgummybuns · 14/08/2018 17:56

Also guilty of this as a late teen gamer... Warcraft man... so many hours wasted 🙈

OpiningGambit · 14/08/2018 17:56

It's obviously not the most mature or sensible move on her part, but I can't work out why it's getting under your skin so much?

Mollywobbles82 · 14/08/2018 17:56

How would you justify the intrinsic value that you're placing on following a standard schedule?

adaline · 14/08/2018 17:57

I don't see the problem. She's working, just late shifts and presumably wants to relax when she gets in instead of going straight to bed.

Would you be happy getting home from work and going straight up to sleep everyday?

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SnuggyBuggy · 14/08/2018 17:58

I sort of get that having someone wandering the house at night would be unsettling I think as long as she tries to be quiet it's not unreasonable.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/08/2018 17:58

I'd let her sleep when she wanted, but would say if she's sleeping in the day for no good reason I wouldn't make any extra effort to be quieter than usual.

evergreenmi · 14/08/2018 17:58

She is never up for family dinner and although she doesn't mind, I don't then want her cooking in the kitchen with more food and she doesn't get why, so I suggested she goes and buys the food if she wants to not have family dinner at the time we have it which didn't go down well

She says she will play with you her siblings "oh tomorrow X" "well you're going to bed X so tomorrow" and she's never up so it never happens.

DH says we can't plan days out if she's not coming and DD says of course we can and I agree we can but DH says he isn't going out if we're not a family and I don't know if that's a thing to moan at him about or her!!

She's our oldest so it's quite hard

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