Ok not all men obvs but my dh in particular has been unlucky enough to catch a bug and is puking intermittently. As a result I've had to sort out kids at the beach (currently on holiday) all day then deflate and pack all toys, change kids etc while he lies there asleep, with occasional toilet runs. Couldn't even watch the kids from his lounger while I went to get lunch after I'd asked him to. Then drive back sort dinner and bed. When he got up 5 minutes before kids went up, he lay on the sofa huffing, puffing and groaning. Now, I was sympathetic and asked if he needed anything but frankly hes getting on my nerves. When I've felt that shit, I've still had to sort kids, get them to school, cook dinner etc!! My patience is running out!! Anyone else's dh like this when Ill?
You’ve got my sympathy op! It must be driving you up the wall! The very least he could have done was watch kids while you had a lunch break. If he was at home in bed you could ignore him but having him lying on a sun bed, periodically puking or running for the bog is not fun. Sounds like you’re on a self catering holiday?
@Fission I can't see many employers thinking very highly of any employee who couldn't work while their kids were at school because their spouse had a stomach bug... It is slightly different to expect your partner to not attend work in order to look after the children than to expect them to look after the children on their own when they don't have any other commitments.
I can't see many employers thinking very highly of any employee who couldn't work while their kids were at school because their spouse had a stomach bug
Well, I presumed the op saying about staying home all day must signal that she has a child who isn’t in school so would need looking after. Why would the op need her DH to stay home all day if the children are at school?
Would your dh take time off work to take kids to school etc? Then stay at home all day?
Who said the OP’s children are at school all day? If they were I assume the OP wouldn’t need him to stay at home. I have 2 pre schoolers and if I was ill with a stomach bug and unable to look after them, DH would take the day off work to do so.
Fissionchips not sure how that would work. If I'm ill then someone has to take the kids to school and bring them home. My network of mum friends wouldn't extend to that and I don't have family close by. So my dh would have to either take the day off or drop the kids at school, go to work and then be back to pick them up at 3.30pm. I don't think they'd allow that! If the kids are ill, we take it in turns.
Well, if it’s not possible for your DH to have some flexibility at work then why are you complaining? Your op sounded like it was probably possible for your DH to take time off/flexi work. What do you expect him to do?
I am with you OP. I can be sympathetic to a point but then my fuse starts to go. I think DH has a much lower tolerance of illness too. He will go to work "dying" of whatever deadly disease he has contracted (of course from the children!) but will come home and be incapable of doing anything at all. I find it infuriating how his symptoms change depending on the location.
It was great fun when we both came down with food poisoning at the same time. I think that was the first time he was genuinely really sympathetic towards me- because he was going through it too!... I still got lumbered with the dirty nappies though 🙄