To expect washing to be separated (darks, colours, whites) before waahing?

[limon]

Or ask that dh leaves it to me to do (I don't mind doing it all if needs be).

Apparently this is too much to ask. Currently clothes beung ruined bybwashing together.

[YeTalkShiteHen]

Colour Run sheets are your friend OP, they stop any disasters. I think it’s Dylon that make them and I get them from Asda.

[limon]

I'm not going to supervise him to use colour run sheets every time though.

[Dreamingofkfc]

I never separate anything and have no issues. I also only do mine and the kids washing as the husband can't cope with lack of colour separation.

[YeTalkShiteHen]

I didn’t realise that would mean supervision

I use them because DS1 is learning to use the washing machine and isn’t always great at separating. I can hack that because he’s 11 and autistic, but I honestly couldn’t be arsed having that conversation with a grown man!

[AnnDerry]

My solution: 3 laundry bags. One black cotton, one white cotton, one mesh. All sorting is done at the point of putting dirty washing in the laundry bin. It has made life a lot easier- doesn't take any longer to throw dirty stuff in the bin, but no more sorting is required before loading the washing machine.

[Hadalifeonce]

Tell him to just wash his own , then if he ruins it, it might encourage him to eventually do it correctly. I'm sure this is just a ploy to get out of doing stuff!

[limon]

annderry thebproblem isn't me and how I do laundry. It's him. I can barely get him to use a.washing basket.

[limon]

hadalifeonce that's my question. Aibu to ask him to separate it or let me do it? I'm very happy to do all of mine and dds

[YeTalkShiteHen]

Where do these helpless hapless men always written about on MN come from???

[deste]

I am very fussy about washing colours and whites together. The best solution would be to sort out the washing the night before, ie whites one night, coloureds the next and black the next. Leave in a pile beside the washing basket and he will get used to picking up the washing and popping it into the machine. Problem sorted.

[ontrack321]

Dear lord, of course YANBU! He's a grown adult, you're not his mummy.

[WorldCupnovice]

I never bother to separate different colours, unless it is the first time wash of a new item. I have never had any issues with colours running and ruining other stuff.

[limon]

worldcupnovice I have. Particularly whites. Anything else washed with whites makes them go very off-white.

[Aprilshowersinaugust]

Dh does the washing, mostly I pile it ready organised!
Saves my stress levels rising.

[Rednaxela]

Not before waahing no. Before washing, yes. Whites definitely!

[SilverySurfer]

Typical of some men who are professionally incompetent in the hope that you will get sick of asking and do it all yourself. Win/win to him. They can do the most complex things at work but ask them to do something as simple as sorting washing into colours/whites and their brains seize up.

[limon]

He does nothing taxing work wise either (branded himself a house husband at one point).

Thing is he doesn't leave it, he just grabs it and puts it in the machine.

I have asked him again now for the umpteenth time to leave mine and dds for me to do.

[AnnDerry]

My point was, if you sort at the time the washing goes into the laundry basket/ bin/ hamper/ bags (whatever you use) ie as soon as you take the dirty clothes off, then nobody needs to sort out anything at the point it needs washing, because it's already done. It saves lots of time and keeps whites properly bright. If he wouldn't even do this though, it wouldn't be a solution. My kids have been doing this for years and it's really not hard. We don't have the room for a big hamper so I just use bags instead inside one smaller laundry basket.

[cricketmum84]

I would waaaaah if DH didn't separate the washing too

[MissusGeneHunt]

I never separate course from each other, it all goes in at 30. Whites on at 40.

My friends DP didn't 'understand' the washing machine, so she stopped doing his washing! I'm minded to do the same. Too many men-children.

[Echobelly]

I almost never separate colours unless I know I have something non colourfast, like new or dark coloured jeans, I almost never know things to run with my regular detergents on a 30 or 40 wash.

Have occasionally come unstuck on holiday when I forget that other detergents aren't as run resistant and do a mixed wash as usual!

[bonzo77]

DH cannot be trusted with laundry. He also had a habit of asking irritating questions like “where are my pants?” “Are any of my shirts clean?” Simple solution. One basket for mine and the kids stuff. Another for his. He’s not allowed to touch family stuff. I won’t do his. His basket also doubles up as a receptacle for shit he leaves lying about. But that’s another thread.

[limon]

"I never separate course from each other, it all goes in at 30. Whites on at 40."

You've just contradicted yourself there as have me really confused!

[limon]

annederry that would require cooperation though. Dh would put his in Willy nilly and just grab handfuls to wash.

[ASqueakingInTheShrubbery]

Simplest solution here is that I do the washing. If it's in the basket, it gets washed. I sort it, wash it, dry it, iron it, put it away. If left to DH, it doesn't get sorted so all ends up manky grey, he'll put a wash on without thinking whether there's anywhere to dry it, doesn't hang it up properly so it doesn't dry. It's not worth the hassle. He can do other jobs, at which he is perfectly competent.